What happened to the S/O South Asian thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Being a white American and having married a South Asian (Bangladeshi /born there) , I find that Indian women are arrogant and snobby in general. I do not find it or take it as an insult anymore because it is their general normal behavior and it comes as a shock after living in other part of the world where people are mostly soft spoken and are not blunt. It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior which we perceive as abnormal. It's like a different planet over there! Their thinking is SO different. The caste system and the way they treat servants is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change . Having a servant should not be a right.

To think that a muslim bangladeshi parent will allow their daughter to marry anyone out of their religion sounds improbable. I wonder why Indian women were arrogant and snobby to you? According to DCUM, they worship whiteness.

Every society has problems. Rich Indians have servants and rich people in US have "Help". In the past. Whites in America raped their black slaves and sold off their offsprings in slavery. Today, White police men shoot unarmed black people. Racial killings were so shocking to me when I came to this country.

It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior of white people which the world perceives as abnormal. It's like a different planet over here! Their thinking is SO different. The racism and the way they treat blacks is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change.

Perhaps because I am female married to a Bangladeshi guy.

Wow, what led you down that path? How has it been?

It's been amazing. He's a professor... Very patient and kind, flexible and resourceful, tolerant and open minded with a good sense of humor. I'm grateful I found him.
We actually had zero problems with his family or mine before getting married. I know he's rare though compared to his friends and other South Asians as he's not judgmental or concerned with status like I've seen.

You got a really rare one, it seems. I am not attracted to men from the Indian subcontinent, but I also don't think I could get past the religious/cultural differences. Do his parents and siblings like you?

Yes , very much. His father passed away when he was young and his mom now lives with us. He came to the US for grad school on a scholarship. We married young (me 22) and him (27).

So, he is a product of his own culture and familial upbringing. How is he the rare one?

Seriously.

I am South Asian--at least 20% of my family and 80% of my US born South Asian friends are in interracial marriages--the first one was in 1960. It's not rare at all from what I see.

The point was his thinking is different from the typical South Asian.
South Asian people tend to be judgmental about anything. What you wear; What you say; What you drive etc . I have met other interracial couples like us and the sa guys were awful. One sa doctor actually said something like, "do you think I went to medical school for nothing?" to his wife while they were arguing about something completely irrelevant to medicine. It was bizarre. They definitely show off more in my experience interacting with them. My husband is on the extreme other side though. He wants to help end poverty in his home country, gives money to homeless people, tutors math/ statistics free to poor students.

There are selfish jerks in every culture. Why is the arrogant ass doctor deemed to be a typical desi but not your husband? I know arrogant jerks of all races but I don't sit here claiming that some great white guy I know is atypical of his race. The question you should be asking is why you and your dh hang out with such jerks.

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Also does your dh know what you think generally of people from his background and that he is just an outlier? If yes, and he doesn't care, he has no self respect. Do you also tell your black friends that they are so great because they aren't like other black people?

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Anonymous wrote:Also does your dh know what you think generally of people from his background and that he is just an outlier? If yes, and he doesn't care, he has no self respect. Do you also tell your black friends that they are so great because they aren't like other black people?

bangladeshi and indians aren't the same. I spoke about Indians being arrogant . He knows what I think of Indians and he hates them as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a white American and having married a South Asian (Bangladeshi /born there) , I find that Indian women are arrogant and snobby in general. I do not find it or take it as an insult anymore because it is their general normal behavior and it comes as a shock after living in other part of the world where people are mostly soft spoken and are not blunt. It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior which we perceive as abnormal. It's like a different planet over there! Their thinking is SO different. The caste system and the way they treat servants is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change . Having a servant should not be a right.

To think that a muslim bangladeshi parent will allow their daughter to marry anyone out of their religion sounds improbable. I wonder why Indian women were arrogant and snobby to you? According to DCUM, they worship whiteness.

Every society has problems. Rich Indians have servants and rich people in US have "Help". In the past. Whites in America raped their black slaves and sold off their offsprings in slavery. Today, White police men shoot unarmed black people. Racial killings were so shocking to me when I came to this country.

It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior of white people which the world perceives as abnormal. It's like a different planet over here! Their thinking is SO different. The racism and the way they treat blacks is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change.

Perhaps because I am female married to a Bangladeshi guy.

Wow, what led you down that path? How has it been?

It's been amazing. He's a professor... Very patient and kind, flexible and resourceful, tolerant and open minded with a good sense of humor. I'm grateful I found him.
We actually had zero problems with his family or mine before getting married. I know he's rare though compared to his friends and other South Asians as he's not judgmental or concerned with status like I've seen.

You got a really rare one, it seems. I am not attracted to men from the Indian subcontinent, but I also don't think I could get past the religious/cultural differences. Do his parents and siblings like you?

Yes , very much. His father passed away when he was young and his mom now lives with us. He came to the US for grad school on a scholarship. We married young (me 22) and him (27).

So, he is a product of his own culture and familial upbringing. How is he the rare one?

Seriously.

I am South Asian--at least 20% of my family and 80% of my US born South Asian friends are in interracial marriages--the first one was in 1960. It's not rare at all from what I see.

The point was his thinking is different from the typical South Asian.
South Asian people tend to be judgmental about anything. What you wear; What you say; What you drive etc . I have met other interracial couples like us and the sa guys were awful. One sa doctor actually said something like, "do you think I went to medical school for nothing?" to his wife while they were arguing about something completely irrelevant to medicine. It was bizarre. They definitely show off more in my experience interacting with them. My husband is on the extreme other side though. He wants to help end poverty in his home country, gives money to homeless people, tutors math/ statistics free to poor students.

There are selfish jerks in every culture. Why is the arrogant ass doctor deemed to be a typical desi but not your husband? I know arrogant jerks of all races but I don't sit here claiming that some great white guy I know is atypical of his race. The question you should be asking is why you and your dh hang out with such jerks.

Because the typical Indian IS arrogant and judgmental.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a white American and having married a South Asian (Bangladeshi /born there) , I find that Indian women are arrogant and snobby in general. I do not find it or take it as an insult anymore because it is their general normal behavior and it comes as a shock after living in other part of the world where people are mostly soft spoken and are not blunt. It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior which we perceive as abnormal. It's like a different planet over there! Their thinking is SO different. The caste system and the way they treat servants is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change . Having a servant should not be a right.

To think that a muslim bangladeshi parent will allow their daughter to marry anyone out of their religion sounds improbable. I wonder why Indian women were arrogant and snobby to you? According to DCUM, they worship whiteness.

Every society has problems. Rich Indians have servants and rich people in US have "Help". In the past. Whites in America raped their black slaves and sold off their offsprings in slavery. Today, White police men shoot unarmed black people. Racial killings were so shocking to me when I came to this country.

It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior of white people which the world perceives as abnormal. It's like a different planet over here! Their thinking is SO different. The racism and the way they treat blacks is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change.

Perhaps because I am female married to a Bangladeshi guy.

Wow, what led you down that path? How has it been?

It's been amazing. He's a professor... Very patient and kind, flexible and resourceful, tolerant and open minded with a good sense of humor. I'm grateful I found him.
We actually had zero problems with his family or mine before getting married. I know he's rare though compared to his friends and other South Asians as he's not judgmental or concerned with status like I've seen.

You got a really rare one, it seems. I am not attracted to men from the Indian subcontinent, but I also don't think I could get past the religious/cultural differences. Do his parents and siblings like you?

Yes , very much. His father passed away when he was young and his mom now lives with us. He came to the US for grad school on a scholarship. We married young (me 22) and him (27).

So, he is a product of his own culture and familial upbringing. How is he the rare one?

Seriously.

I am South Asian--at least 20% of my family and 80% of my US born South Asian friends are in interracial marriages--the first one was in 1960. It's not rare at all from what I see.

The point was his thinking is different from the typical South Asian.
South Asian people tend to be judgmental about anything. What you wear; What you say; What you drive etc . I have met other interracial couples like us and the sa guys were awful. One sa doctor actually said something like, "do you think I went to medical school for nothing?" to his wife while they were arguing about something completely irrelevant to medicine. It was bizarre. They definitely show off more in my experience interacting with them. My husband is on the extreme other side though. He wants to help end poverty in his home country, gives money to homeless people, tutors math/ statistics free to poor students.

There are selfish jerks in every culture. Why is the arrogant ass doctor deemed to be a typical desi but not your husband? I know arrogant jerks of all races but I don't sit here claiming that some great white guy I know is atypical of his race. The question you should be asking is why you and your dh hang out with such jerks.

Because the typical Indian IS arrogant and judgmental.

Aren't you being judgmental and arrogant by making such a broad statement.?

Here's my observation as an Indian. Most Indians I know start out being simple, humble and polite ( that's who they are) only to quickly realize that those qualities are considered "weak" in the US culture. They begin transforming and acquiring things that are valued here I.e material possessions , fancy cars, huge houses etc ( frankly most of them can easily afford them) . The US is a very classist society and appearance and possessions are valued more than a persons qualities like humility and kindness that are valued in eastern cultures.
In my experience dealing with white women in particular is like walking on eggshells. not white men, they are like men all over the world, uncomplicated and easy to understand. You have to be extremely careful in how you word your sentences with the women otherwise they get offended. Many of them appear like spoilt brats in what they expect from their dh, significant others. It's always "me, me, me" which is grating to us, honestly. Some of their problems seem trivial to many of us who have seen much bigger issues. The amount of time they spend in preening , dress up, working out is mind boggling. Also many get insecure around people with an opinion, are generally very passive aggressive. I have a long time "friend" who in the company of others tries to put me down constantly but acts like she is my bestie otherwise. I distanced myself from her, but she keeps calling/msging me constantly. After a while most women like me stop trying to be friends with these kinds because honestly the rules, temperament is exhausting. The ones who truly get us are people who have traveled outside the US, experienced other cultures and have some perspective. Thankfully there is a good number of them with a worldview and broader outlook, which is balances out the nastiness I see on Dcum .

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Anonymous wrote:Also does your dh know what you think generally of people from his background and that he is just an outlier? If yes, and he doesn't care, he has no self respect. Do you also tell your black friends that they are so great because they aren't like other black people?

bangladeshi and indians aren't the same. I spoke about Indians being arrogant . He knows what I think of Indians and he hates them as well.

LOL. He hates Indians as well? Why? That does not seem like the quality of the paragon of virtue you painted him as. Maybe you need to dwell deeper into his and your insecurities.
Why is he not hanging out with people who think like him? I think you and him are well suited.

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It is interesting that the White woman likes her Bangladeshi husband because he is not a typical Bangladeshi man.

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Anonymous wrote:Also does your dh know what you think generally of people from his background and that he is just an outlier? If yes, and he doesn't care, he has no self respect. Do you also tell your black friends that they are so great because they aren't like other black people?

bangladeshi and indians aren't the same. I spoke about Indians being arrogant . He knows what I think of Indians and he hates them as well.

He hates all Indians, including Bengalis who are Indian? So then it is a border dispute religious thing and therefore rather stereotypical antipathy. I'm of Bengali descent, with relatives in both countries, Hindu though. This is a pretty common source of dislike. Your pedestal to your husband's uniqueness is crumbling.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a white American and having married a South Asian (Bangladeshi /born there) , I find that Indian women are arrogant and snobby in general. I do not find it or take it as an insult anymore because it is their general normal behavior and it comes as a shock after living in other part of the world where people are mostly soft spoken and are not blunt. It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior which we perceive as abnormal. It's like a different planet over there! Their thinking is SO different. The caste system and the way they treat servants is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change . Having a servant should not be a right.

To think that a muslim bangladeshi parent will allow their daughter to marry anyone out of their religion sounds improbable. I wonder why Indian women were arrogant and snobby to you? According to DCUM, they worship whiteness.

Every society has problems. Rich Indians have servants and rich people in US have "Help". In the past. Whites in America raped their black slaves and sold off their offsprings in slavery. Today, White police men shoot unarmed black people. Racial killings were so shocking to me when I came to this country.

It took me a while to get adjusted to the normal behavior of white people which the world perceives as abnormal. It's like a different planet over here! Their thinking is SO different. The racism and the way they treat blacks is disgusting . Perhaps with lots of TIME their mind-sets will change.

Perhaps because I am female married to a Bangladeshi guy.

Wow, what led you down that path? How has it been?

It's been amazing. He's a professor... Very patient and kind, flexible and resourceful, tolerant and open minded with a good sense of humor. I'm grateful I found him.
We actually had zero problems with his family or mine before getting married. I know he's rare though compared to his friends and other South Asians as he's not judgmental or concerned with status like I've seen.

You got a really rare one, it seems. I am not attracted to men from the Indian subcontinent, but I also don't think I could get past the religious/cultural differences. Do his parents and siblings like you?

Yes , very much. His father passed away when he was young and his mom now lives with us. He came to the US for grad school on a scholarship. We married young (me 22) and him (27).

So, he is a product of his own culture and familial upbringing. How is he the rare one?

Seriously.

I am South Asian--at least 20% of my family and 80% of my US born South Asian friends are in interracial marriages--the first one was in 1960. It's not rare at all from what I see.

The point was his thinking is different from the typical South Asian.
South Asian people tend to be judgmental about anything. What you wear; What you say; What you drive etc . I have met other interracial couples like us and the sa guys were awful. One sa doctor actually said something like, "do you think I went to medical school for nothing?" to his wife while they were arguing about something completely irrelevant to medicine. It was bizarre. They definitely show off more in my experience interacting with them. My husband is on the extreme other side though. He wants to help end poverty in his home country, gives money to homeless people, tutors math/ statistics free to poor students.

There are selfish jerks in every culture. Why is the arrogant ass doctor deemed to be a typical desi but not your husband? I know arrogant jerks of all races but I don't sit here claiming that some great white guy I know is atypical of his race. The question you should be asking is why you and your dh hang out with such jerks.

Because the typical Indian IS arrogant and judgmental.

Aren't you being judgmental and arrogant by making such a broad statement.?

Here's my observation as an Indian. Most Indians I know start out being simple, humble and polite ( that's who they are) only to quickly realize that those qualities are considered "weak" in the US culture. They begin transforming and acquiring things that are valued here I.e material possessions , fancy cars, huge houses etc ( frankly most of them can easily afford them) . The US is a very classist society and appearance and possessions are valued more than a persons qualities like humility and kindness that are valued in eastern cultures.

In my experience dealing with white women in particular is like walking on eggshells. not white men, they are like men all over the world, uncomplicated and easy to understand. You have to be extremely careful in how you word your sentences with the women otherwise they get offended. Many of them appear like spoilt brats in what they expect from their dh, significant others. It's always "me, me, me" which is grating to us, honestly. Some of their problems seem trivial to many of us who have seen much bigger issues. The amount of time they spend in preening , dress up, working out is mind boggling. Also many get insecure around people with an opinion, are generally very passive aggressive. I have a long time "friend" who in the company of others tries to put me down constantly but acts like she is my bestie otherwise. I distanced myself from her, but she keeps calling/msging me constantly. After a while most women like me stop trying to be friends with these kinds because honestly the rules, temperament is exhausting. The ones who truly get us are people who have traveled outside the US, experienced other cultures and have some perspective. Thankfully there is a good number of them with a worldview and broader outlook, which is balances out the nastiness I see on Dcum .

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None Indian here who agrees with you 100%!

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I am 300% sure that all the racists in this thread are literally white nationalists/Stormfront posters who come here to win people to their cause and/or vomit their hate in another safe, anonymous place.

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Anonymous wrote:Also does your dh know what you think generally of people from his background and that he is just an outlier? If yes, and he doesn't care, he has no self respect. Do you also tell your black friends that they are so great because they aren't like other black people?

bangladeshi and indians aren't the same. I spoke about Indians being arrogant . He knows what I think of Indians and he hates them as well.

LOL. He hates Indians as well? Why? That does not seem like the quality of the paragon of virtue you painted him as. Maybe you need to dwell deeper into his and your insecurities.
Why is he not hanging out with people who think like him? I think you and him are well suited.

Yeah. Your husband is a bigot. Hardly a catch. Why did you have to settle for someone like that?

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Meanwhile on HONY, people are gushing over how beautiful Indian people are right now.