Guns at Wedding Location/Home WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married at her home in TX this summer, and her fiancé is the proud owner of many guns. My young children (2, 5, and 7) will be there in the wedding and the reception. I am concerned about the guns. When I have asked my sister where the guns will be, all she responds is "locked up" but is refusing to tell me how or where. Do I have a right to know where the "locked up" guns will be? How would you handle this type of situation? We are not a weapon carrying family, my kids are explorers, and weddings can get crazy with everyone being distracted (I am the matron of honor and my husband is also in the wedding). Am I being unreasonable to demand to know where exactly the guns are kept?

No. You have zero right to know. Choose not to go if you don't trust your sister and her husband. They have every right to keep that info. confidential. They wouldn't be so moronic as to leave guns out for kids to play with.

Clearly lots of people are just this moronic since children keep dying due to negligent gun storage practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are many terrible fates that unsupervised young "explorers" could be met with, locked up guns aside. If you don't trust your kids not to touch a gun, how are you going to handle poison and other household hazards that are less likely to be locked up this a gun?

I'm not a gun owner- I loathe them, personally, but I would also not expect a gun owner to tell me exactly where their gun is stored.

I agree. You need to do something about your "explorers". If your kids aren't old enough to stop 'exploring', they need more supervision than you're giving them.

[Anonymous]

How about educating your children about what to do if they see a firearm unsecured?

[Anonymous]

Without going beyond the first page..

OP, I have a friend who at one point collected guns. His were stored in a locked room, separate from ammunition, etc. But, not everybody knew exactly where. He was ex-military, he knew how to store them. Part of his safety regime was to not tell many people exactly where they were. Very few people knew exactly how many he had, or what they were.

She is your sister. For whatever reason you don't trust her. Don't take your kids if you can't be comfortable knowing they will stay out of things and places they shouldn't be.

[Anonymous]

It's Texas. If sis has guns, her friends probably do too. She won't be the only one with a gun at this wedding.

Get a sitter, like everyone has said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would hire a sitter and leave the kids behind. I wouldn't want my kids running around a house with guns, unsupervised. No reasonable parent would. If they were going to a gun-owning friend's house and I trusted the parents to supervise carefully (and take reasonable precautions to lock up the guns) I wouldn't have an issue with that.

Same with swimming pools. We went to a big party that was around an unfenced swimming pull. It was nerve-racking and I wouldn't take my kids to another party there; I had to watch my kids like a hawk. Not an enjoyable event at all.

You sound like a ball of fun. And a bit nutty to boot.

100+ people, most adults drinking, in a small back yard stepping cautiously around the perimeter of a swimming pool wouldn't make you nervous? I am very chill and free-range but I couldn't enjoy myself knowing there very well could be loaded guns within my kids' reach. Or a 12 foot deep swimming pool.

I learned on the free range thread that if the chances of something happening are low, then if I worry about it, I'm a helicopter parent.

If kids can walk all over and cross four lane roads by themselves, why should this situation be a problem? People just need to teach their kids the skills they need to be independent.

[Anonymous]

OP, will your parents be at the wedding? They may be useful and helpful allies to you in communicating with your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rural TX? And you are worried about the locked up guns? Hahah. Oh OP, you so silly.

Has no one noticed the winning post?

Teach your kids to never ever touch a gun.

We are a gun family, big time. We have older kids who keep their guns in gun cases in their rooms.

We have a gun case in our upstairs hallway.

My father did not use safes or cases. He showed us his guns, and told us about how they are never toys. How just picking them up could make them fire.

He didn't scare us, but made us respect the gun as something that is only for adults. You couldn't have paid me to touch his guns.

Not to be rude, but if anyone ever wanted look at all of our guns to make sure they were all unloaded, I would hate to be rude, but I'd tell them that wasn't happening. The guns are stored safely away, and a child would have to break into a case to get to them. If your kid is capable of breaking into a locked gun case and fondling and playing with my guns, you parenting is the issue.

Teach your kids to never touch any gun, and tell an adult if the see a gun unattended. If they are at a friend's home and see a gun, they should leave immediately.

I worry more about other people's kids showing off their families guns and accidentally discharging a round then little kids finding a gun and shooting it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP and its a completely real/legit post. Is TX and guns and my sister. And I am concerned. No trolling at all. I am concerned that she won't tell me more specifics. yes, my kids are explorers and will be at their "fun" aunts house. So they will be running around the way they always do with her. I don't know anyone there who can babysit but will look into it. It's a rural part of texas. They are kind of anti-big-brother conspiracy theory types, so it wouldn't surprise me if the guns weren't all locked up. I hope so, and realize I should take my sis at her word. But the fact she is being evasive concerns me.

We totally believe you!

For a Texan, she is not being evasive. She told you they were "secured". My guns are all "secured" as in the safe. That's all you need to know. I would take a nanny with you if you are that concerned. When you start in about "well what do you mean by secure and can I see them?" you are being difficult, especially in an open carry state. Actually, maybe kids should just stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married at her home in TX this summer, and her fiancé is the proud owner of many guns. My young children (2, 5, and 7) will be there in the wedding and the reception. I am concerned about the guns. When I have asked my sister where the guns will be, all she responds is "locked up" but is refusing to tell me how or where. Do I have a right to know where the "locked up" guns will be? How would you handle this type of situation? We are not a weapon carrying family, my kids are explorers, and weddings can get crazy with everyone being distracted (I am the matron of honor and my husband is also in the wedding). Am I being unreasonable to demand to know where exactly the guns are kept?

Yes, you do have a right to know.

Expecting children to listen all the time is unrealistic, the onus is on the gun owners to make sure everyone is safe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not believe that your sister is telling you the truth when she says they are locked up? Unless your kids can pick locks, they will be fine.

Different people have different ideas of what that means. Guns should be stored, unloaded, in a locked safe. In a situation where it will be difficult to properly supervise children, I would want to know that that's how they were stored.

+1

[Anonymous]

By the time my kids were 5, they were already able to correctly and accurately fire a .22. The two year old stays with you, the other two should have better sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By the time my kids were 5, they were already able to correctly and accurately fire a .22. The two year old stays with you, the other two should have better sense.

I pray to God you're a troll.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you speak directly to her fiance? Aren't they his guns? Cut your sister out of the conversation and go straight to the gun owner.

I have no problem letting my kids play at my friend's house because her husband has gone out of his way to explain how the firearms are locked up. Guns are locked in one space unloaded while ammunition is locked in a separate space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you not believe that your sister is telling you the truth when she says they are locked up? Unless your kids can pick locks, they will be fine.

You're living in lalaland if you think kids can't get into safes. I've seem some incredibly disturbing videos of young kids breaking into safes they'd never encountered before.