Guns at Wedding Location/Home WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:38 again. Maybe arrange to have your sis watch all 3 kids the first hour or so after you arrive. Give her an appreciation for how kids are into EVERY-damn-thang. Later that night when they're asleep you can have your safety discussion, and reference her afternoon of watching the kids and how hard it was.

We used this trick when we went to stay with my parents for 2 weeks with our 18 month old and they hadn't put a gate at the top of the stairs like we'd repeatedly asked. We just had them run toddler interference upstairs for a while. They had a gate up the next day.

Not sure why everyone thinks OP's situation is so unreal. that her sister would marry a texan? that a texan would have guns? that two unmarried people wouldn't be familiar with how kids are? where is the "you're making this up, this could never happen" bit?

Op again, yes great idea! Lol re baby gate. Sounds like we have similar family members. Trust me, we were surprised she met and married a Texan too! But they are happy and that's what matters. I don't want gun-drama at the wedding so trying to approach it now. They are a young couple and aren't familiar with kids. I don't think they could handle my three for an hour let alone an afternoon. Actually, they would probably just send them outside to play on the ranch (yes, they have a Tx ranch...in rural tx (they both telework) ... More fodder for troll-calling). Evidently there is also a snake problem there too, but the guns are the biggest concern.

Ok now that I read everything back, I kinda understand why some are calling me a troll. Lol. Nice that my families life is that bizarre! Lol!

[Anonymous]

did you read the other thread OP? Like that OP, you're walking a line between making a fuss now when you won't get the answers you want anyway, versus waiting (stressful for you) until the moment when you will have more influence. It's hard to say which is going to be more dramatic for you. Will you see your sister in person at all before the wedding to discuss?

[Anonymous]

Supervise your kids. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

me again, something else you may not appreciate OP: if she is new to all this, the guns likely aren't hers, and your sister is probably hearing from her D-almost-H "don't tell ANYONE ANYTHING about what guns we have. Let me handle it. It's my business." and so you being all "tell me how you lock them up!!" feels to her like being asked to choose between you. Set it up such that answering your questions isn't a betrayal of her fiance. Whatever works on her. If it were my sister for example I'd play the "you'll have to think about this all soon enough when you have kids. How are you gonna keep them safe? You can't teach a toddler not to pick up a gun. I'm just asking you to do some childproofing."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would hire a sitter and leave the kids behind. I wouldn't want my kids running around a house with guns, unsupervised. No reasonable parent would. If they were going to a gun-owning friend's house and I trusted the parents to supervise carefully (and take reasonable precautions to lock up the guns) I wouldn't have an issue with that.

Same with swimming pools. We went to a big party that was around an unfenced swimming pull. It was nerve-racking and I wouldn't take my kids to another party there; I had to watch my kids like a hawk. Not an enjoyable event at all.

You sound like a ball of fun. And a bit nutty to boot.

[Anonymous]

Hire a sitter, really. there will be guns in half the cars there.

--gun owner, who stores her own in a safe way and watches her kids like hawks when we go to family members' homes because I don't trust them to do the same

[Anonymous]

I disagree with the people who are suggesting that you wait to confront this issue until you're there for the wedding. If you get there and your sister still refuses to give you details on the guns, or gives you details but their storage methods are inappropriate, what are you going to do? Pull out of the wedding at the last moment to watch your kids? At least if you know in advance, you can make alternative arrangements for your kids if necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with the people who are suggesting that you wait to confront this issue until you're there for the wedding. If you get there and your sister still refuses to give you details on the guns, or gives you details but their storage methods are inappropriate, what are you going to do? Pull out of the wedding at the last moment to watch your kids? At least if you know in advance, you can make alternative arrangements for your kids if necessary.

if the former--then sister, whi is the matron of honor remember, must regretfully sit out any number of wedding events to watch her kids. Sister can live with that or fess up.

If the latter--you make them appropriate. Unload them and store ammo separately. If no gun safe, lock them in something else lockable. Move them to an attic or basement or building the kids won't be in--it's a ranch. Take them to a friend's house for the week.

[Anonymous]

They are locked up. What's the issue?
Don't let your kids "explore".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are locked up. What's the issue?
Don't let your kids "explore".

The gun owners won't clarify what "locked up" means. To them, putting them in a closet with a eye-hook on the door could be "locked up."
OP has a right to know more details, then she can make an educated decision re whether she's comfortable having her kids in that environment. Kids explore and in a wedding environment, with lots of people, distractions, etc., it's more risky. Agree OP should get a babysitter and ask her sister for more details. It's not worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married at her home in TX this summer, and her fiancé is the proud owner of many guns. My young children (2, 5, and 7) will be there in the wedding and the reception. I am concerned about the guns. When I have asked my sister where the guns will be, all she responds is "locked up" but is refusing to tell me how or where. Do I have a right to know where the "locked up" guns will be? How would you handle this type of situation? We are not a weapon carrying family, my kids are explorers, and weddings can get crazy with everyone being distracted (I am the matron of honor and my husband is also in the wedding). Am I being unreasonable to demand to know where exactly the guns are kept?

No. You have zero right to know. Choose not to go if you don't trust your sister and her husband. They have every right to keep that info. confidential. They wouldn't be so moronic as to leave guns out for kids to play with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married at her home in TX this summer, and her fiancé is the proud owner of many guns. My young children (2, 5, and 7) will be there in the wedding and the reception. I am concerned about the guns. When I have asked my sister where the guns will be, all she responds is "locked up" but is refusing to tell me how or where. Do I have a right to know where the "locked up" guns will be? How would you handle this type of situation? We are not a weapon carrying family, my kids are explorers, and weddings can get crazy with everyone being distracted (I am the matron of honor and my husband is also in the wedding). Am I being unreasonable to demand to know where exactly the guns are kept?

No. You have zero right to know. Choose not to go if you don't trust your sister and her husband. They have every right to keep that info. confidential. They wouldn't be so moronic as to leave guns out for kids to play with.

You'd assume, but everyone also said that the woman killed by her three-year-old who found the gun in her purse while they were out shopping was a responsible gun owner too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suggest you talk to your sister.

Just say "I'm sorry to keep bringing this up but I just worry. Jimmy and Timmy are explorers and with all of the busyness of the day, I just worry that they would get into something they haven't seen before and there would be horrible consequences." Perhaps she's just not seeing your mindset and needs reminding about the danger you imagine.

[Anonymous]

There are many terrible fates that unsupervised young "explorers" could be met with, locked up guns aside. If you don't trust your kids not to touch a gun, how are you going to handle poison and other household hazards that are less likely to be locked up this a gun?

I'm not a gun owner- I loathe them, personally, but I would also not expect a gun owner to tell me exactly where their gun is stored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would hire a sitter and leave the kids behind. I wouldn't want my kids running around a house with guns, unsupervised. No reasonable parent would. If they were going to a gun-owning friend's house and I trusted the parents to supervise carefully (and take reasonable precautions to lock up the guns) I wouldn't have an issue with that.

Same with swimming pools. We went to a big party that was around an unfenced swimming pull. It was nerve-racking and I wouldn't take my kids to another party there; I had to watch my kids like a hawk. Not an enjoyable event at all.

You sound like a ball of fun. And a bit nutty to boot.

100+ people, most adults drinking, in a small back yard stepping cautiously around the perimeter of a swimming pool wouldn't make you nervous? I am very chill and free-range but I couldn't enjoy myself knowing there very well could be loaded guns within my kids' reach. Or a 12 foot deep swimming pool.