Do you regret losing your virginity at the age that you did?

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity at eighteen and am glad it happened even though the guy was a louse.

For some reason at the time, my beliefs were kinda warped. Hey..I was a kid then, but I honestly thought at the time that if I didn't lose my virginity by 18, then I must be some rare creature.

Now, I would have liked to wait, but flawed logic is what my 18 yrs old mind thought. *sigh*

[Anonymous]

I was 22, and DYING to lose my virginity. So I slept with someone that I was casually dating and thought it wouldn't lead to anything. Now we are married with three kids. I kind of wish I had slept around more!

[Anonymous]

I was 19 and felt unmanly because I had been unable to lose my virginity earlier. In terms of my maturity and partner selection, that was about the right time. I just wish that notions of masculinity weren't so closely intertwined with sexual conquest.

[Anonymous]

I think I might bring a different perspective. I was 24 and lost my virginity on the night after my wedding night. I'm catholic and that is why I chose to wait for myself. I never felt pressure to "wait" it was just what I wanted. I don't regret it at all and I am 18 years in to a wonderful marriage. I had three boyfriends before my husband and it was difficult at times to wait, but I was always up front about waiting for marriage and if they wanted different we just weren't compatible.

My parents always said to just wait until I was an adult and until I really liked a person and that I knew I they really liked me. That love and lust and that early infatuation can sometimes blind you to a persons true character. So what I am saying is my parents never said "DONT HAVE SEX" just to wait until the time and person was right. That is how we are approaching the subject with our children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 19 and felt unmanly because I had been unable to lose my virginity earlier. In terms of my maturity and partner selection, that was about the right time. I just wish that notions of masculinity weren't so closely intertwined with sexual conquest.

+1

[Anonymous]

I don't regret when so much as to whom I lost my virginity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I might bring a different perspective. I was 24 and lost my virginity on the night after my wedding night. I'm catholic and that is why I chose to wait for myself. I never felt pressure to "wait" it was just what I wanted. I don't regret it at all and I am 18 years in to a wonderful marriage. I had three boyfriends before my husband and it was difficult at times to wait, but I was always up front about waiting for marriage and if they wanted different we just weren't compatible.

My parents always said to just wait until I was an adult and until I really liked a person and that I knew I they really liked me. That love and lust and that early infatuation can sometimes blind you to a persons true character. So what I am saying is my parents never said "DONT HAVE SEX" just to wait until the time and person was right. That is how we are approaching the subject with our children.

Your parents were smart - physical attraction can be so powerful that you think you are in love or are falling in love or something amazing, oh I remember that too well. And I think it's admirable that you waited because of your religious convictions and because you knew that was the right thing to do for you.

[Anonymous]

I was young, 16, but I don't regret the age so much as the boy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I might bring a different perspective. I was 24 and lost my virginity on the night after my wedding night. I'm catholic and that is why I chose to wait for myself. I never felt pressure to "wait" it was just what I wanted. I don't regret it at all and I am 18 years in to a wonderful marriage. I had three boyfriends before my husband and it was difficult at times to wait, but I was always up front about waiting for marriage and if they wanted different we just weren't compatible.

My parents always said to just wait until I was an adult and until I really liked a person and that I knew I they really liked me. That love and lust and that early infatuation can sometimes blind you to a persons true character. So what I am saying is my parents never said "DONT HAVE SEX" just to wait until the time and person was right. That is how we are approaching the subject with our children.

I'm curious PP, why not the night of your wedding?

[Anonymous]

Just like 07:36, I was 15 and she was 14 which, now as a 40 something guy, sounds REALLY young.

I don't regret anything about our age or relationship. We dated all through HS and tried a LDR in college that didn't work. We're still friendly to this day. If it weren't for one of her girlfriends being more sober than the two of us at our 20th year HS reunion, we probably would have done it one more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm curious PP, why not the night of your wedding?

We were both tispy and exhausted. DH told me a couple years later that he was very nervous about being with a virgin and he didn't think being intoxicated would help. We did shower together and that was so crazy intimate for a girl who had done nothing more than make out with a boy. Next day was a long plane ride to our honeymoon. We were pretty much ripping each others clothes off the minute the hotel room door shut though, we had waited long enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: If it weren't for one of her girlfriends being more sober than the two of us at our 20th year HS reunion, we probably would have done it one more time.

Would you share more about that? LOL

[Anonymous]

No regrets. I lost my virginity at 20 to my now husband, so happy he is the only one I've ever slept with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I might bring a different perspective. I was 24 and lost my virginity on the night after my wedding night. I'm catholic and that is why I chose to wait for myself. I never felt pressure to "wait" it was just what I wanted. I don't regret it at all and I am 18 years in to a wonderful marriage. I had three boyfriends before my husband and it was difficult at times to wait, but I was always up front about waiting for marriage and if they wanted different we just weren't compatible.

My parents always said to just wait until I was an adult and until I really liked a person and that I knew I they really liked me. That love and lust and that early infatuation can sometimes blind you to a persons true character. So what I am saying is my parents never said "DONT HAVE SEX" just to wait until the time and person was right. That is how we are approaching the subject with our children.

Your parents were smart - physical attraction can be so powerful that you think you are in love or are falling in love or something amazing, oh I remember that too well. And I think it's admirable that you waited because of your religious convictions and because you knew that was the right thing to do for you.

Very wise parents. It's the same message I want to give my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I might bring a different perspective. I was 24 and lost my virginity on the night after my wedding night. I'm catholic and that is why I chose to wait for myself. I never felt pressure to "wait" it was just what I wanted. I don't regret it at all and I am 18 years in to a wonderful marriage. I had three boyfriends before my husband and it was difficult at times to wait, but I was always up front about waiting for marriage and if they wanted different we just weren't compatible.

My parents always said to just wait until I was an adult and until I really liked a person and that I knew I they really liked me. That love and lust and that early infatuation can sometimes blind you to a persons true character. So what I am saying is my parents never said "DONT HAVE SEX" just to wait until the time and person was right. That is how we are approaching the subject with our children.

Similar to you only I was older 30 something. I knew I wanted to wait until I was 100% comfortable and I wanted it to be with someone I both loved and respected and the same on there end. I didn't meet him until I was 29 could have happened before the wedding but I had gone so long I wanted to go all the way on the waiting thing. I guess I'm neurotically competitive like that lol. Now DH was fine with it he gets my odd things or at least accepts them part of what made him the one.