Do you regret losing your virginity at the age that you did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 17, the summer before high school senior year. I have no regrets. I had been with my boyfriend at the time for almost 3 years.

Now, what I do regret was a period of rather wild indiscriminate sex towards the end of college. I shudder now to think of the chances I took with my health and safety. I was fortunate that nothing irrevocably bad happened.

I could have written every word of this except I was 16 with HS boyfriend who was also a virgin. Don't regret it at all. Do regret the college sex that was almost anonymous at times. Yuck. And it wasn't even good sex!

[Anonymous]

Nope, no regrets. 18 and in love with a good guy. We didn't get married, but we are still friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:14, 15 is way too young.

According to who? I don't know why people can't understand that everyone does not share the same feelings on virginity and sex, and a person making different choices than you made/wish you made does not make them pathological.

I unashamedly had sex at 14, but I can see now as a parent how terrifying that thought is. In our culture it is too young. Sex is viewed as dirty and shameful. Most people don't want their daughters to engage in dirty shameful activities until they are old enough to....I have no idea....until they are old enough for something, whatever that something us.

You cant change society. I'm just grateful that Im a free thinker and never bought into the bullshit. I can be naked and I can be comfortable in my sexuality. I see so many women who cant. so many women who view sex as a chore Or even filthy.

[Anonymous]

I was 17 and had a 20-year-old boyfriend. We loved each other, so I'm glad my first time was with him. A lot of the guys I met in college were jerks, so better to have had my first time with someone nice. We broke up before I left the state for college, but stayed friends for a long time afterward, and I'd probably look him up to see what happened to him, except for his incredibly common irish name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:14, 15 is way too young.

According to who? I don't know why people can't understand that everyone does not share the same feelings on virginity and sex, and a person making different choices than you made/wish you made does not make them pathological.

I unashamedly had sex at 14, but I can see now as a parent how terrifying that thought is. In our culture it is too young. Sex is viewed as dirty and shameful. Most people don't want their daughters to engage in dirty shameful activities until they are old enough to....I have no idea....until they are old enough for something, whatever that something us.

You cant change society. I'm just grateful that Im a free thinker and never bought into the bullshit. I can be naked and I can be comfortable in my sexuality. I see so many women who cant. so many women who view sex as a chore Or even filthy.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad that I waited until I was away at college. The guy I was with was somewhat experienced so there was nothing awkward about it. And we were able to fall asleep afterwards in each others arms and wake up in the morning and cook breakfast together...and hang out, etc. all day long. No parents to answer to...

I pretty sure it would have been a different experience entirely in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad that I waited until I was away at college. The guy I was with was somewhat experienced so there was nothing awkward about it. And we were able to fall asleep afterwards in each others arms and wake up in the morning and cook breakfast together...and hang out, etc. all day long. No parents to answer to...

I pretty sure it would have been a different experience entirely in high school.

Soeey, this made me giggle!

[Anonymous]

I have no regrets. He was lovely in every way. We were fifteen, and became each others' first loves, though we were only together a short time before my family moved.

I've always had a high sex drive, and came of age in the 70s, when things felt a lot freer than now, in a weird way.

I advise my teens to stick with masturbation, and that they should try to wait to start sexual relationships until they're a bit older, if possible, because adding sex can complicate, confuse. and intensify feelings, and you don't need more complications as a teen.

[Anonymous]

Nope.I waited until I was ready, which happened to be after I was 18 and in college. It was with my first boyfriend who pressured me for two years. I thought it was "fine"and assumed not everyone got orgasms. He said I wasn't that good at sex. We broke up after the second time we had sex (not because of the sex).

A year later, dating my second boyfriend - who went on to become my husband - I found out I was actually great at sex.

I'm really glad my husband isn't the only person I've had sex with - I know exactly what I'm missing out on. And I'm glad I waited until I felt mature enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had done it sooner

+1

[Anonymous]

Guy here...I am not going to claim I waited, but I had the first opportunity (that I recognized) at 20. I chatted with a former GF a few years ago -- I was 16, and she was 15 at the time. We fooled around a bit, but always with our clothes on. She wanted me to make the first move -- but I was too awkward and shy to realize it.

[Anonymous]

I had sex impulsively at 14, just seduced some kid I didn't know for a variety of flawed reasons- and somewhat because I just wanted it but mostly because I was depressed, lonely and in my child's mind thought this might make the kid fall in love with me.

The result of course was public slut shaming by many at my high school, my crimes scrawled on all the bathroom stalls, and embellished tales about things I would never do-such as I took on half the football team.

I have since forgiven myself for the choice, and have compassion for myself because my crappy childhood and mental health informed it.

I don't regret having sex then- it was the way I did.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I was 14 and he was 15.
Nothing bad happened we were just too damn young.
I wish we had been older even if just by 3 or 4 years.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no.
I was one of those people that waited until marriage, and I did not marry young.
Don't regret the sex part, wish I had met my DH earlier in life.

[Anonymous]

Nope.I waited until I was ready, which happened to be after I was 18 and in college. It was with my first boyfriend who pressured me for two years. I thought it was "fine"and assumed not everyone got orgasms. He said I wasn't that good at sex. We broke up after the second time we had sex (not because of the sex).

A year later, dating my second boyfriend - who went on to become my husband - I found out I was actually great at sex.

I'm really glad my husband isn't the only person I've had sex with - I know exactly what I'm missing out on. And I'm glad I waited until I felt mature enough.

Just curious, why do you think you are great at sex? How do you measure it? As a guy it is easier to know if you are good..as a women how do you know?