Marriage roles

[Anonymous]

Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

Why? Serious question. What is weird about a woman driving a car?

[Anonymous]

We definitely have a division of labor in our house. It's not all typical man and woman work, although we do joke about what is man work vs. woman work. We also joke that our marriage is a business and have titles, so I'm the CEO and he's the CFO. I'm the Minister of Nutrition (meal planning and most of the cooking and he's the Minister of Agriculture (he likes to garden and grows veggies for the family). I'm the CTO. He's the CSO (Chief Sanitation Officer--he takes out the trash). He is also responsible for anything that requires a taller or stronger person than me. I guess that is sort of stereotypical, but he is taller and stronger. By contrast, I am solely responsible for gestating and breastfeeding our children and am the heavy when it comes to discipline.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great to have roles and specialization. Not sure why they have to be "gender roles." They can be whatever each person is good at/enjoys/doesn't mind.

Agree. In our family, DH does all the laundry. It is a man's job.

I think I have vacuumed twice. Vacuuming and laundry are definitely a man's job in my house!

In mine, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh shit - my wife and I are in a same sex marriage. What do we do now?!?

How will ever get your oil changed or your lawn mowed?

My god...neither of them can be the primary driver either!

+1. You're in serious trouble PP. You are unable to have gender roles in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

Why? Serious question. What is weird about a woman driving a car?

Explanation #1: It's the active role. Being a passenger is the passive role. Active = man, passive = woman. Just like the sperm and the egg, or something!
Explanation #2: Something something operating heavy machinery.
Explanation #3: Women drivers (take my wife, please).

Those are all of the reasons I can think of, but if you know of any that I have missed, please list them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

Why? Serious question. What is weird about a woman driving a car?

Explanation #1: It's the active role. Being a passenger is the passive role. Active = man, passive = woman. Just like the sperm and the egg, or something!
Explanation #2: Something something operating heavy machinery.
Explanation #3: Women drivers (take my wife, please).

Those are all of the reasons I can think of, but if you know of any that I have missed, please list them!

#5 You are from Saudi Arabia, and the reality a proper woman driving leads to riots and beheadings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh shit - my wife and I are in a same sex marriage. What do we do now?!?

But what happens if you need gas at night?!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

This is the most f'ed up thing I've read in a while. Are you from Saudi Arabia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

Why? Serious question. What is weird about a woman driving a car?

Explanation #1: It's the active role. Being a passenger is the passive role. Active = man, passive = woman. Just like the sperm and the egg, or something!
Explanation #2: Something something operating heavy machinery.
Explanation #3: Women drivers (take my wife, please).

Those are all of the reasons I can think of, but if you know of any that I have missed, please list them!

You got it wrong. Man's role in procreation is as passive as it can get. Nice try, but check your misogyny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly the man should always be the primary driver too. Can I get an amen, OP?

Whenever I see a woman driving and the man in the passenger seat, I think that marriage has huge issues, and each person independently, as well. The woman has control issues, for one. Whether or not it is old fashioned of me to think so.

I am guessing you are a man over 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great to have roles and specialization. Not sure why they have to be "gender roles." They can be whatever each person is good at/enjoys/doesn't mind.

Agree. In our family, DH does all the laundry. It is a man's job.

Lol, I love you. I need to show this post to DH. He claims the laundry is always softer and folded more nicely when I do it ... sigh.

PP here--that is hilarious. DH actually doesn't do a great job with the laundry; he doesn't believe in stain treatment, apparently. But I do shoulder nearly all the cooking and cleaning and it is wonderful to know that there is one chore for which I bear zero responsibility. (He also pays all the bills, which is awesome. I hate bills. And he does our taxes and makes the kids' lunches. Love him.)

Jealous. I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills, taxes and make the kids' lunches Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly the man should always be the primary driver too. Can I get an amen, OP?

Whenever I see a woman driving and the man in the passenger seat, I think that marriage has huge issues, and each person independently, as well. The woman has control issues, for one. Whether or not it is old fashioned of me to think so.

I am guessing you are a man over 50?

I'd guess that too. Whenever I see a woman driving and a man in the passenger seat, I think, they probably have a strong relationship and have frequent sex because he's not hung up on some bullshit notion that men to "man things' and women do shit like cook and get their nails done. Controlling dudes are the WORST in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chore chart in our house:

Me: Pick up, dinner, unpacking of daily bags, general straightening, laundry, baby bedtime.

DH: Drop off, dinner/kitchen/dishes clean up, packing of bags for next day, vacuuming, toddler bedtime.

It very recently got to a chore chart but I was about ready to lose my mind trying to do everything. Honestly, having everything mapped out makes it so much easier.

And yes, he drives everywhere. I always thought women driving was weird, but my SIL has awful car sickness so she always drives

Why? Serious question. What is weird about a woman driving a car?

Maybe this PP lives in Saudi Arabia?

[Anonymous]

Neither of us would ever get gas at night. One of us would notice when the tank was getting low and refill during the daytime.