How bad is it to decline an offer to be a bridesmaid for my SIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stand there in the dress. It isn't complicated.

Don't make it complicated.

Yeah, what's the big deal? It probably won't be more than showing up in the dress. I imagine you would attend the bachelorette, shower, etc anyway, even if you weren't a bridesmaid? You should say yes.

I suppose one could argue that there's a lot more work that goes into planning an event than just showing up the day of. That said until SIL actually gets engaged and starts making plans this is all moot points.

[Anonymous]

For some people, being in the bridal party is just about showing up in the dress. That's what I asked of my attendants. I even paid for everything. For others, like a former friend, it was thousands of dollars of events and committments I didn't realize. You're projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For some people, being in the bridal party is just about showing up in the dress. That's what I asked of my attendants. I even paid for everything. For others, like a former friend, it was thousands of dollars of events and committments I didn't realize. You're projecting.

+1

Me too, PP. Nothing was enough for SIL. Kind of similar to OP!

OP, put on your big girl panties and do the right thing for once. Not everything is about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For some people, being in the bridal party is just about showing up in the dress. That's what I asked of my attendants. I even paid for everything. For others, like a former friend, it was thousands of dollars of events and committments I didn't realize. You're projecting.

+1

Me too, PP. Nothing was enough for SIL. Kind of similar to OP!

OP, put on your big girl panties and do the right thing for once. Not everything is about you.

OP - Do what you want. Ignore the DCUM shrews and harpies.

[Anonymous]

Geez, you sound awful.

It's NICE of her to ask you. She probably doesnt want to be around you. But she is being gracious.

Seems you need to learn some manners.