V-day and alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The LAST thing anyone wants is an STD On Valentine's Day from some stranger. WTF is wrong with you to suggest such a stupid thing ? Men would fuck a mud hole if they could. Nasty ass.

But the thing is, women can find a sex partner whenever they want. Straight men cannot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok - It's V-day and my daughter is with her Dad.

To me V-day is really Single Awareness Day. And the pressure to be "in love" feels like a huge weight on my shoulders. Hurts my head thinking about it.

While I spend a this cold Saturday morning alone, thinking about going to the gym, I'm wondering - Am I the only one that feels this way?

Just curious.


I adore my freedom but "holidays" like this are just so off-putting

Im sorry you are feeling weighed down.

I'm recently separated after 20 years, daughter is with her dad. I'm struggling with taking back my brain after dealing with a person who went from loving to progressively more abusive and crazy making. I struggle some days with just redefining myself NOT in relation to him, even to myself. But Ive made alot of progress in just over a month. And today, by whatever coincidence, I feel really good. Just got groceries and a bottle of wine that I am actually genuinely looking forward to having a glass or two all by myself.

Maybe it will help to remember that these days like Valentines day are just made up days designed to make people buy stuff. It has nothing to do with who you are and what your worth is or what your future holds. Im sure as I go into a few years of aloneness I will have all kinds of experiences that are not great. But any of it has to be better than the toxic marriage I escaped.

OP, school kids give their friends Valentines cards. Maybe make this day about your friendships? Hope you feel better- hey, at least the dang sun is out! ((((hug))))

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok - It's V-day and my daughter is with her Dad.

To me V-day is really Single Awareness Day. And the pressure to be "in love" feels like a huge weight on my shoulders. Hurts my head thinking about it.

While I spend a this cold Saturday morning alone, thinking about going to the gym, I'm wondering - Am I the only one that feels this way?

Just curious.


I adore my freedom but "holidays" like this are just so off-putting

Im sorry you are feeling weighed down.

I'm recently separated after 20 years, daughter is with her dad. I'm struggling with taking back my brain after dealing with a person who went from loving to progressively more abusive and crazy making. I struggle some days with just redefining myself NOT in relation to him, even to myself. But Ive made alot of progress in just over a month. And today, by whatever coincidence, I feel really good. Just got groceries and a bottle of wine that I am actually genuinely looking forward to having a glass or two all by myself.

Maybe it will help to remember that these days like Valentines day are just made up days designed to make people buy stuff. It has nothing to do with who you are and what your worth is or what your future holds. Im sure as I go into a few years of aloneness I will have all kinds of experiences that are not great. But any of it has to be better than the toxic marriage I escaped.

OP, school kids give their friends Valentines cards. Maybe make this day about your friendships? Hope you feel better- hey, at least the dang sun is out! ((((hug))))

Thank you PP! Yes, I do get reminders of being thankful of getting out of a toxic marriage. Hard as hell but absolutely neccessary. Props to you and me!
I'm glad you are feeling good today too. Still in my sweats from the gym but gonna get showered and find myself a decent dinner somewhere. With my Rolling Stone as my companion. Why the hell not, right??? Hugs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha. You need some v day dick. Put on a cute outfit later and go to a hotel bar and flirt with some guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The LAST thing anyone wants is an STD On Valentine's Day from some stranger. WTF is wrong with you to suggest such a stupid thing ? Men would fuck a mud hole if they could. Nasty ass.

But the thing is, women can find a sex partner whenever they want. Straight men cannot.

They can find someone willing to have sex, but finding someone they want to have sex with can be difficult.

[Anonymous]

OP here, all in all my evening turned out pretty well.

Bartender gave me happy hour prices and a free chocolate. Yeah! Then some random dude wanted to play pool so I did that. V-day in a dingy pool hall. Kind of fun! Bonus - every shot I took emulated my life:

A shot too soft to make the ball make the pocket or
A shot that hit the ball at the wrong angle and missed the pocket.

I ended up wining 2 rounds only because of dumb luck - the dude sunk the 8 ball.

Thank you to the kind nice DCUM peeps (you know who you are). You brightened my day enough to get my butt out of my apartment. And now I have a fun story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh I agree - as I always say, Nothing is better than a shit something.

Still, I was just curious if anyone else felt this way. I guess, in my silly way, I want to feel not alone in my feelings of such.

Yes, it is any other day. However, the minute I leave my apt, its gonna be V day bonanza where ever I go today.

So, just saying. Feels weird

I definitely feel this way. I was so happy today that it was over, but the stupid commercials are still playing and the candy is still in the store. All of it screams to me you're old and you've never truly been in love. In fact, you've probably missed your chance. I know that's silly (hopefully) but it's how I feel. Just writing that down feels a little better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, all in all my evening turned out pretty well.

Bartender gave me happy hour prices and a free chocolate. Yeah! Then some random dude wanted to play pool so I did that. V-day in a dingy pool hall. Kind of fun! Bonus - every shot I took emulated my life:

A shot too soft to make the ball make the pocket or
A shot that hit the ball at the wrong angle and missed the pocket.

I ended up wining 2 rounds only because of dumb luck - the dude sunk the 8 ball.

Thank you to the kind nice DCUM peeps (you know who you are). You brightened my day enough to get my butt out of my apartment. And now I have a fun story.

This is awesome, good for you!