V-day and alone
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Anonymous
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Ok - It's V-day and my daughter is with her Dad.
To me V-day is really Single Awareness Day. And the pressure to be "in love" feels like a huge weight on my shoulders. Hurts my head thinking about it. While I spend a this cold Saturday morning alone, thinking about going to the gym, I'm wondering - Am I the only one that feels this way? Just curious. I adore my freedom but "holidays" like this are just so off-putting |
Anonymous
| Then be put off, and ignore it. Valentine's Day (like New Year's Eve) is all about hype and disappointment. |
Anonymous
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It's a day to focus on love. So think about all of the things you love about yourself. Or all of the things you want to love in your next relationship. It doesn't have to be depressing unless you let it be.
I've been in both positions and being with someone I don't want to be with is way worse than being single on v-day. At least when you are single you have some hope for next year! |
Anonymous
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Oh I agree - as I always say, Nothing is better than a shit something.
Still, I was just curious if anyone else felt this way. I guess, in my silly way, I want to feel not alone in my feelings of such. Yes, it is any other day. However, the minute I leave my apt, its gonna be V day bonanza where ever I go today. So, just saying. Feels weird |
Anonymous
| Haha. You need some v day dick. Put on a cute outfit later and go to a hotel bar and flirt with some guys. |
Anonymous
| Hey...go to the gym, buy yourself a nice treat and a decadent dinner. Love yourself. You are worth it! |
Anonymous
I get it. I don't feel this way but plenty of people do, so you are definitely not alone in that. |
Anonymous
| Love. Think about the love in your life - of friends, of your daughter, of your family, of yourself. Love yourself today: be kind to yourself and do things that make you feel good. You are loved and you are love. Blessings! |
Anonymous
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Think about it this way. It's not a very fun day for everyone. Even in people in couples. There is so much pressure for both people. If things haven't been going great, you have to put a game face on act in love. Have to sit through the BS of the special dinners at the restaurants with the flowers and everything around. It's just all so contrived. Which is fine if you are truly giddy about each other. But if not, you have to still go through the motions, act happy, submit to sex, etc. For those still in early relationships, the women feel obligated to have sex after the expensive dinner, etc.
Long story short, it's not a fun day for most people really. |
Anonymous
| I made plans to go with friends to go to live comedy club. I knew I needed the humor. And some of my friends are single, some in couples. The men in the couples appreciate having plans that involve humor and no or low pressure. |
Anonymous
| I agree - I do need V-day dick. Too funny. A distraction always helps. LOL! |
Anonymous
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It's a Hallmark holiday. Nothing more.
I have to go to two basketball games today and clean 3 bathrooms. I am happily married, but I'd trade places with you in a heartbeat to have the entire day to myself with no responsibilities. Go to the mall or the movies. Or order delivery and veg out in bed watching tv. Now I'm jealous :0) |
Anonymous
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OP, it's like every other holiday/ birthday/ occasion. Everyone has years when they are great, most years when they are just fine but nothing spectacular, and years when they are really bad.
I had plenty of horrible Valentine's Days when I was single, and a few really fun ones. Since I've been married, it's about the same. Today I have a fabulous husband, two cute boys, fun plans for a family Valentine's Day -- and the flu. What are you going to do? Stop moping. It's not that big of a deal. |
Anonymous
Ok - I'll hit the gym and make eyes at the hot trainers just because.  )
A perfect day for flirting. Vday is my excusing for doing so. )))
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Anonymous
This. |