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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok - It's V-day and my daughter is with her Dad.

To me V-day is really Single Awareness Day. And the pressure to be "in love" feels like a huge weight on my shoulders. Hurts my head thinking about it.

While I spend a this cold Saturday morning alone, thinking about going to the gym, I'm wondering - Am I the only one that feels this way?

Just curious.

I adore my freedom but "holidays" like this are just so off-putting[/quote]

Im sorry you are feeling weighed down.

I'm recently separated after 20 years, daughter is with her dad. I'm struggling with taking back my brain after dealing with a person who went from loving to progressively more abusive and crazy making.  I struggle some days with just redefining myself NOT in relation to him, even to myself. But Ive made alot of progress in just over a month. And today, by whatever coincidence, I feel really good. Just got groceries and a bottle of wine that I am actually genuinely looking forward to having a glass or two all by myself.

Maybe it will help to remember that these days like Valentines day are just made up days designed to make people buy stuff. It has nothing to do with who you are and what your worth is or what your future holds. Im sure as I go into a few years of aloneness I will have all kinds of experiences that are not great. But any of it has to be better than the toxic marriage I escaped.

OP, school kids give their friends Valentines cards. Maybe make this day about your friendships? Hope you feel better- hey, at least the dang sun is out! ((((hug))))[/quote]

Thank you PP!  Yes, I do get reminders of being thankful of getting out of a toxic marriage. Hard as hell but absolutely neccessary. Props to you and me!  
I'm glad you are feeling good today too. Still in my sweats from the gym but gonna get showered and find myself a decent dinner somewhere. With my Rolling Stone as my companion. Why the hell not, right???  :) Hugs! [/quote]

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