Found out my boyfriend I met online has been lying to me....

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can't you also warn match or whatever website it was about him? You might not even know his real name.


OP here: im actually starting to think that he's lying to me about his real name. I looked on pipl like some people suggested and literally nothing comes up under his name for his age or state. I've also tried googling him and nothing comes up. I'm so pissed off that I fell for this shit.


Live and learn. Just be glad you didn't lend him any money.
Anonymous
How old are you, OP? 15?
Anonymous
Yay for checking him out on pipl OP!
When I did online dating, I forced myself to be thick skinned and trust but verify. It helped so much when sure enough, google revealed one guy that I liked a lot was not actually officially divorced as claimed.

Hey, youre not the first to fall for B.S. and you won't be the last. Take a deep breath, really think about what you value and what you need and then relaunch an intensive search.

Hugs...there are lying manipulative mIsogynists in this world...online and elsewhere and you need to know how to protect yourself and identify the ones with great character.

The book women, sex and addiction by charlotte Davis kasl is imo a great read for learning to. Form a healthy intimate relationship. It changed my life. Second marriage is solid and free of abuse and craziness.

You can do it OP! Ill be rooting for you



Anonymous
Does he know where you live? I don't even know if I would confront him because he may be unstable. Just end it.
Anonymous
1. Be glad you found all this out now, before your lives are any more entangled.

2. Look up catfishing. Be on the lookout for catfishing.

3. Write a great novel about a woman who turns the tables on a catfisher.

4. Success!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Does he know where you live? I don't even know if I would confront him because he may be unstable. Just end it.



Op here: yes he does know where I live
Anonymous
You're moving on, right, OP?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does he know where you live? I don't even know if I would confront him because he may be unstable. Just end it.



Op here: yes he does know where I live


Well, it sounds like things were ending anyway. So you can escape gracefully.
Anonymous
OP's not moving on, she needs to find out the truth.
Lol now granted she already knows the simple truth of the matter - that he's a liar. That's plain as day. But nooooooooooooo...the OP is obsessed and she is going to spend the next 4/5 months glued to her computer doing background searches and creating fake profiles and making friendly with him under false names to get every intimate detail she can about this guy; and for what? To find out the truth. Lol now granted she already knows the simple truth of the matter - that he's a liar. That's plain as day. But nooooooooooooo...

(classic)
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You're moving on, right, OP?


OP here: him and I are over, that's 100% done. Still pisses me off that he lied to me about pretty much everything and maybe even his name. The "immature" side of me would love to screw him over too and keep up the fake profile and get him to fall for this fake person and have him go to meet this person just to be stood up but I've decided that im gonna take the high road and not do that. He will get his karma one day so that's all I need to know. Now I just need to get him to stop trying to text me and remain "friends" as he keeps asking me to do.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're moving on, right, OP?


OP here: him and I are over, that's 100% done. Still pisses me off that he lied to me about pretty much everything and maybe even his name. The "immature" side of me would love to screw him over too and keep up the fake profile and get him to fall for this fake person and have him go to meet this person just to be stood up but I've decided that im gonna take the high road and not do that. He will get his karma one day so that's all I need to know. Now I just need to get him to stop trying to text me and remain "friends" as he keeps asking me to do.


Block his number. Delete everything about him. NOW. Do it.

Also, grammar lesson for the day: It's "he and I" NOT "him and I."
Anonymous
Just move on.
Anonymous
What do expect from losers who post on line?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is going to be long so I apologize!

So I met a guy online in mid December and we really connected right away. We talked for about 3 days online and then exchanged numbers. We then texted for about 2 weeks before we decided to meet in person. He lives 4 hours away from me so he came down for the weekend and stayed in a hotel. After that weekend, we decided to make things official. We definitely fell for each other pretty quickly and I thought that he might be "the one". Well over the last couple of weeks, certain things have been making me question him and wonder if he's being honest with me. He will disappear for hours (8+ hours) and I won't hear from him at all. For example, a couple of weeks ago, we were texting throughout the day and randomly at around 3:30pm, he stopped texting me and I didn't hear from him until 8:30am the next morning. I of course was freaking out thinking that something happened to him and when he texted me the next morning at 8:30, he just used some excuse about getting busy at work (he works on a farm in upstate NY) and then went to his grandparents house and lost track of time, etc. etc. This has happened about 4-5 times now where he will disappear for hours and then re appear with some weird excuse.

Well over the last 2 weeks, things have been a bit weird with us and he's been a bit distant and we've been arguing and questioning our relationship. Things got really bad the other day and we spent all day just arguing via text. Well I got a weird feeling about things and went online and saw that he put his dating profile back up. Obviously I called him out on it and he told me that he did it because he was angry and frustrated and it "just happened". Well yesterday, we pretty much ended things after fighting all day but yet he keeps telling me he cares about me and doesn't want to end things and that he's just confused, etc. Well my best friend doesn't trust him at all and told me that I should make a fake profile online and start talking to him and see if he is lying about everything. So tonight, I decided to make a profile and message him and just see if he said anything that didn't line up. Well literally 10 minutes into us messaging, I asked him what he did for a job and he told the "fake profile girl" that he works for 2 different jobs in the morning/night which is NOT what he's been telling me. So I made a comment about seeing in his profile that he works for his family (which is what he's told me, that he works for his families farm) and his response was "I used to but they sold it a couple of years back and now I work.....". I literally sat there in SHOCK. So pretty much for 2 months now, he's been lying to me about what he does for a job and now I'm questioning everything he's ever told me. My friend is telling me that this is probably one giant joke to him and that I should keep talking to him on this profile to see what else I find out.

I honestly don't know what to do. It took every ounce of me to not text him the second I saw that message and just go off on him but I controlled myself. So I want to see what others think about all of this and what you would do. Would you dig deeper and see what else you could find that he may be lying about or just let it go and move on? Oh and if it matters, I'm 27 and he's 26.


OP, You could have save yourself some typing by just stopping with the bolded. That tells you all you need to know.

Next time, please be smarter. At 27 you are too old to fall for this.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're moving on, right, OP?


OP here: him and I are over, that's 100% done. Still pisses me off that he lied to me about pretty much everything and maybe even his name. The "immature" side of me would love to screw him over too and keep up the fake profile and get him to fall for this fake person and have him go to meet this person just to be stood up but I've decided that im gonna take the high road and not do that. He will get his karma one day so that's all I need to know. Now I just need to get him to stop trying to text me and remain "friends" as he keeps asking me to do.


You sound like you are only marginally less wacky than he is. This is way too much emotion for a guy that you've barely met.
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