Found out my boyfriend I met online has been lying to me....

[Anonymous]

Move on, be glad you learned about him now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All this drama over someone 4 hours away that you've "known" for all of two months and only met once? You obviously don't really know this person at all. My first thought with him disappearing overnight is that he's married.

OP here: we've met more the once. We've seen each other 4 times since our first time meetir when he came down here and stayed in the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All this drama over someone 4 hours away that you've "known" for all of two months and only met once? You obviously don't really know this person at all. My first thought with him disappearing overnight is that he's married.

OP here: we've met more the once. We've seen each other 4 times since our first time meetir when he came down here and stayed in the hotel.

Still doesn't change the answer. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All this drama over someone 4 hours away that you've "known" for all of two months and only met once? You obviously don't really know this person at all. My first thought with him disappearing overnight is that he's married.

OP here: we've met more the once. We've seen each other 4 times since our first time meetir when he came down here and stayed in the hotel.

Sigh...one time 4 times whatever.
What matters is that you found out he was full of shit early - thank your lucky stars and move on don't waste another second stressing/guessing about this jerk.

[Anonymous]

Move on, OP! It's hard and frustrating but it's going to happen anyway so don't stretch it out any further.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All this drama over someone 4 hours away that you've "known" for all of two months and only met once? You obviously don't really know this person at all. My first thought with him disappearing overnight is that he's married.

OP here: we've met more the once. We've seen each other 4 times since our first time meetir when he came down here and stayed in the hotel.

For crying out loud- its been 2 months. There's food in my fridge older than that. Grow up and move on already.

[Anonymous]

I say keep messing with him and come back and tell us what he said

[Anonymous]

From an online vet:

Online dating often feels much more intense. That's not real.

Long distance dating often feels more intense. That's not real either.

2 months is nothing.

The whole point of dating is finding out whether you are compatible or not. You've just found out you aren't. Dating worked as it should.

The fact it felt so intense so fast will make it feel harder to drop it, but you've got to.

There are better men out there for you. I've been married to my Yahoo Personals guy for 11 years now. You'll find a good guy.

[Anonymous]

Can't you also warn match or whatever website it was about him? You might not even know his real name.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is right. You don't know anything about this guy except that he lies. Onwards.

[Anonymous]

check out Truedater.com

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would let it go and move on. It's hard enough having a long-distance relationship, and you've got very little invested in this relationship. I know it doesn't feel like that to you, emotionally, but in practical terms - you've known him only a couple of months. You don't have shared finances, or children, or friends/family. What would continuing to chat with him under the fake persona gain you? You already know he is willing to pursue other women, even if only online. You already know he is either lying to you directly, or to your 'fake persona.' Does any of this sound like a guy you want to be in relationship with?

OP here: I just feel like I wasted two months of my life with someone who I really thought could be the one because we just clicked so easily from day 1. It really pisses me off to think that this could have been a game to him from the beginning and I kind of just want to know what else he could be lying to me about. I know that probably comes off as immature or pathetic but I'm the type of person who likes to know EVERYTHING and thinking that there may be A LOT more that he's been lying about, is driving me crazy!

Better to waste two months than several years.... or even another second. End it and move on.

[Anonymous]

OP ain't gonna move on - you see she's obsessed with knowing EVERYTHING and I got $5 says that in corresponding with him under a faux persona she's gonna end up falling for him all over again and rationalizing his lies and in another 2 months she'll be back on here pissed off because he she paid to get his car fixed or foot the bill for their vacation to Vegas or something.
Some people just can't see the benefit of moving on and end up paying for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't you also warn match or whatever website it was about him? You might not even know his real name.

OP here: im actually starting to think that he's lying to me about his real name. I looked on pipl like some people suggested and literally nothing comes up under his name for his age or state. I've also tried googling him and nothing comes up. I'm so pissed off that I fell for this shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's either married, has kids, is a creep or outright panty chaser.

Go find someone else that lives near you preferably in the same town where you can check his life yourself. These long distance romances never work out. Either money or time kills it and the opportunity to lie is too easy.

You already know everything you need to know.

+1

+2 And don't tell him about the fake profile, he might be crazy. Delete your profiles and start meeting people in person. Don't get to know people "online" or by text -- learn that lesson, you can only really get to know someone in person and on the phone.