Suit for a little girl (wedding)?

[Anonymous]

She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

[Anonymous]

I don't see why she can't just wear pants and a buttondown-w/ tie if you feel that the event requires it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

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Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

THIS

Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

What does "political correctness" have to do with this?

What I was actually going to say is that an 8-year-old's clothing at a wedding is not the hill I want to die on. Tell the child what people will be wearing; offer some choices; if she doesn't want them, she can go in what she wants to go in and be inappropriately dressed. There are many, many, many worse things in the world than an 8-year-old dressed inappropriately for a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

THIS

Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

I'm 13:01 who wrote the original quote here. Just to clarify, I didn't mean it in some judgmental "bad parenting" way, I honestly meant it as in -- would this approach be an option for you? I don't think most kids love dressing up in formal clothes but a majority of them seem willing to do so if they're told the absolutely have to, so maybe your DD would actually wear some of the "Girly" options even if you think she might hate them and not choose them normally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

THIS

Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

What does "political correctness" have to do with this?

What I was actually going to say is that an 8-year-old's clothing at a wedding is not the hill I want to die on. Tell the child what people will be wearing; offer some choices; if she doesn't want them, she can go in what she wants to go in and be inappropriately dressed. There are many, many, many worse things in the world than an 8-year-old dressed inappropriately for a wedding.

I personally wouldn't allow inappropriately dressed because I feel it is disrespectful and we don't allow disrespect. So we would try to find something my kid didn't mind wearing that I considered appropriate and appropriately priced, but if we couldn't find anything on time I would give a few options and insist she pick one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.thefader.com/2014/12/17/shilohs-suit-game-is-on-fleek

Let her wear what Shiloh wears and she'll kill it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:http://www.thefader.com/2014/12/17/shilohs-suit-game-is-on-fleek

Let her wear what Shiloh wears and she'll kill it.

No, she would be made fun of the entire time. This kid isn't a Hollywood kid. She is going to a wedding. If she is 8 and can handle it, all the power to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

THIS

Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

What does "political correctness" have to do with this?

What I was actually going to say is that an 8-year-old's clothing at a wedding is not the hill I want to die on. Tell the child what people will be wearing; offer some choices; if she doesn't want them, she can go in what she wants to go in and be inappropriately dressed. There are many, many, many worse things in the world than an 8-year-old dressed inappropriately for a wedding.

And we wonder why we are raising whiny self-entitled kids. My son wants to go in sweatpants and t-shirt. There are "worse" things so I don't fight this battle.

[Anonymous]

Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

[Anonymous]

http://apracticalwedding.com/2014/04/tomboy-flower-girls-spring/

http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/11/roundup-tomboy-flower-girl-outfits/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

I would allow "none of the above" to be an option. And if my child then went in inappropriate clothes and felt like a fool --- well, experience is the best teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

Way back on pg 1 OP LOVED an option. It's the rest of the cluckers making an issue from nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

Way back on pg 1 OP LOVED an option. It's the rest of the cluckers making an issue from nothing.

Yes, OP said "OP again. LOVE this idea. Going to look on ebay for something similar (and cheaper)! "

If she has managed to obtain something similar at a price she finds acceptable, great and problem solved! However, her subsequent posts on this thread indicate that there's a possibility that's not the case. If she hasn't found anything yet, it's probably time to come up with the "if we don't find anything in time then what" plan. That may include giving DD her options and having her pick which one is the least objectionable even if she doesn't actually like any.

For our family, "none of the above" would not be an option because we do not think the only consequence would be DD feeling foolish for being inappropriately dressed. We feel that inappropriate dress for a formal event or anything with a dress code is disrespect for the host(s)/ess(es), which we're not OK with.