Law school hook up culture?

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, not just a former law student, I find this question and thread offensive. Women can do what they want with their bodies. If your crush doesn't want to date you, that's isn't the fault of every woman in your class.

+1

Who has time for serious relationships in law school? Shouldn't you be reading your cases for tomorrow or working on your outline, anyway? Buckle down and get serious about the work, OP. That's what your classmates are doing.

--32 year old associate now stuck in a law firm office at midnight with no life....

45 year old partner in a small law firm with two kids, a husband, a dog and a great work-life balance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - if SMV includes a host of factor to which each person assigns different weights, it becomes a meaningless indicator.

You never said it wasn't looks-driven. A numerical indicator in the context of women has always been associated with looks, nothing else, and you know it perfectly well.

Even in your own post you clarify that you pursue relationships with 6/7 educated women - so you feel the need to insert the word "educated" because you know the number alone in the context of women gives no credit to education.

There it is!
I understand the PUA types really want to quantify the whole thing so they can feel like they have a handle on it, but it's more complicated than they make it out to be.

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I haven't read through the whole thread, but I hope someone has pointed out that you are there to get an education not date.

Direct your time and energy to trying to make Law Review, so you can actually get a job when you graduate.

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Anonymous wrote:Any relatively recent law school grads (like within the last 10 years or so) on this board? If so, do you also notice how casual "dating" has become the norm in law schools? I am a 1L and, while I was very aware of the hook up lifestyle in college, I had hoped law school would be different. But people are so stressed and busy and have such tight schedules that they don't seem to prioritize relationships. Onle a few people have become actual boyfriend/girlfriend in my 1L class and I know for a fact that one couple is cheating on each other. The upperclassmen at my law school seem to participate in this hook up scene too, and I can think of very few relationships - maybe 3 off the top of my head.

Personally, I would not think of dating in your first year of law school. Those are the only grades that really matter in your career if you want any type of selective job. After your first year, school gets a lot easier and you have more time and energy to socialize.

I was lucky enough to meet my wife while we were attending law school. However, I would not recommend that anyone date a majority of my male classmates. Most of the guys, despite mostly troll-like looks, thought very well of themselves and were insufferable to be around. So many of those guys are now working on second and third marriages and are still insufferable to be around. Of course, I could say they same thing about a lot of my college friends who went to medical school or business school.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just a little sad because it looks like all the men I like don't actually want to date me (just sleep with me) and because they have so many casual sex options because the other women seem to want casual sex, I don't get a chance at a relationship.

You're too young for a serious relationship. Finish school, pass the bar, get a job, then look for a guy. Worked for me.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea of the market value of women makes me want to upchuck. Revolting and a crick if sh-t.

it isn't a woman only concept.

men have a market value too.

market value doesn't literally mean dollars and cents. it is a place holder of how competitive you are in the dating pool in relation to others.

If you don't think competition exists in the dating pool, you are deluding yourself.

It is better to get smart and educated so you can optimize your mating strategy over being naive.

Yup. I'm an 8 married to a guy who was a 9 when we married and who's about a 6 now.

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Anonymous wrote:Just about every married attorney I know met spouse in law school, including me. I think of it as a very expensive dating service.

Female attorney married to a male attorney. We met 4 years out of law school for him, two years after for me. Different law schools, too.

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Anonymous wrote:No guy below the age of 28 is even ready for a serious relationship nowadays. Women need to know this and use their 20s to invest in their own self instead of chasing for a long term relationship.

Women - get educated, get fit, cultivate good interests and hobbies, travel the world, save and invest your money - get a life and lead an interesting, healthy, fulfilling life - without chasing these guys. Trust me that when these men turn 30 - they will see you as the one who is a 8,9, 10. And you will have your pick.

I really dislike this way of thinking. Why is this extended adolescence the ideal? No wonder so many people are infertile now. I see nothing wrong with settling down in your 20's.

Bo-ring

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Anonymous wrote:No guy below the age of 28 is even ready for a serious relationship nowadays. Women need to know this and use their 20s to invest in their own self instead of chasing for a long term relationship.

Women - get educated, get fit, cultivate good interests and hobbies, travel the world, save and invest your money - get a life and lead an interesting, healthy, fulfilling life - without chasing these guys. Trust me that when these men turn 30 - they will see you as the one who is a 8,9, 10. And you will have your pick.

I really dislike this way of thinking. Why is this extended adolescence the ideal? No wonder so many people are infertile now. I see nothing wrong with settling down in your 20's.

You may dislike this way of thinking but this is the reality. Women need to look after themselves first and not waste their 20s. which is the prime years to get higher education and a career, in the quest of being married. Guys in their 20s are doing the exact same thing - building their careers and financial worth. Especially true for those careers where graduate school or professional higher education is a must.

Women who invest in themselves will be in demand from the guys who are equally successful.

Of course, being young and extremely hot also works in getting a loaded and successful older man in giving you the MRS degree. However, if women want to marry their contemporaries in high earning fields, they need to know that marriage or LTR is not in the agenda of any guy who has not established himself in his career or is just starting out.

28 years translate to 6-8 years in college and a couple years of work experience for such men - doctors, lawyers, wall street types, silicon valley entrepreneurs....

Men think of LTR and marriage when they are settled in their career - women need to do the same.

Exactly. I was 31 when we got married, husband was 33.

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OP - If you haven't already figured this out, law school is just like college as far as dating life/hook ups and just like high school in terms of the drama. And even once you graduate, most men in their mid to late 20s are not looking for long term relationships, as PP have said. You might have better luck trying to date someone who isn't in law school and/or an older guy who is a bit more settled in his life (although I fully agree with PP -- you really need to focus on school at this point). Make friends with people in your class and then meet their non-law school guy friends (unless you have your heart set on dating an attorney). That's how it worked for me -- met my husband as a 3L through a mutual friend who was in my class. But why would you want to be in a relationship right now anyway? Just focus on establishing your career, not a relationship. Most men who are worth being in a relationship with like women who bring something to the table.

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Law school seems like it would be an extraordinarily bad time to have a relationship. I would have to think most people just want to get their rocks off a couple of times a week.

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Law school isn't that fucking hard. That said, I wouldn't have wanted to date any of my classmates. Most of them were neurotic assholes. I went trolling for undergrads, married one, and things have worked out nicely.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea of the market value of women makes me want to upchuck. Revolting and a crick if sh-t.

Truth hurts.

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Anonymous wrote:Most men who are worth being in a relationship with like women who bring something to the table.

BUT BUT BUT I WANNA SAH!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:You must be a male. Women always do this with other women(competition) and men. Please what value does a male who works at a gas station have vs a L2 at a big name school?

I agree. Please what value does an average looking 26 y/o with below average tits have vs a hot think 26 y/o with a great rack and a great ass?