NCS and St. Albans misconduct

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"She said school officials became aware of the shared online document on Dec. 15, and moved quickly to shut it down."

Looks like NCS and St. Albans officials are trying to bury this. What was in the Google document? What are they hiding? I, for one, will stand up for the students who have been wronged.

That google doc likely had private and identifying information that students and parents would not want to be made public. I don't blame the school for not making it public.

I'm a parent with kids at another private, and alcohol being served at people's home is very frustrating. Even for vigilant parents it is hard to avoid.

[Anonymous]

So is it just the one grade that is bad? This happens - there are grades at other schools that are known as bad in some ways. And other grades are good and unlikely to have similar issues.

[Anonymous]

And if the cohort in a grade at a school is bad, you can bet the school knows that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So is it just the one grade that is bad? This happens - there are grades at other schools that are known as bad in some ways. And other grades are good and unlikely to have similar issues.

Was this the grade in which they cleaned house between 6th and 7th grade (i.e., as many as 6-10 boys left)?

[Anonymous]

I am not a parent at your school, but family issues are best aired and debated privately.

A school community that has serious concerns and relevant facts about an important issue is well served by first taking those to the Head of School, Faculty, Counselors, and the community of students and parents.

If you want to continue to attract students and families who you think will contribute to a positive community and environment, then posting anonymously on this site is not the way to do it.

[Anonymous]

So under the rug works best for admissions?

[Anonymous]

Question for current upper school families. Do you think anything is likely to change or will it be the same group of people throwing money at the school and smirking all the way to graduation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So under the rug works best for admissions?

Not for admissions, but for positive change to a community. If you want a different type of student to be there, then you have to give them a reason to be there. Again, I have absolutely no association with this school or any other private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

I think it's newsworthy because it shows how the active "rape culture/victim culture" debate on college campuses filters down to secondary schools. Both the behavior and the social media response to such behavior take on forms that parents and school administrators may not have expected. Here, it's pretty clear that what happened is that the "Google doc" created by the NCS students became the equivalent of a very large wall on a bathroom stall, where girls accused boys and boys shamed girls.

I think the administrators at both schools were right to step in, and that their messages to parents were appropriate. In the future, they need to give more thought to how NCS and St. A's students can appropriately collaborate on such topics and, of course, counsel them on the appropriate use of social media and Google docs.

It's not filtering down. It's incubating and being practiced at the private schools and they are taking their sick practices with them to college.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So under the rug works best for admissions?

Not for admissions, but for positive change to a community. If you want a different type of student to be there, then you have to give them a reason to be there. Again, I have absolutely no association with this school or any other private school.

I thought that the issue was how to deal with the students who are actually there already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question for current upper school families. Do you think anything is likely to change or will it be the same group of people throwing money at the school and smirking all the way to graduation?

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So under the rug works best for admissions?

Not for admissions, but for positive change to a community. If you want a different type of student to be there, then you have to give them a reason to be there. Again, I have absolutely no association with this school or any other private school.

I thought that the issue was how to deal with the students who are actually there already.

Yes, again no dog in this contest, but the way to begin to address an issue may be within the community itself. Or, as you put it, with the people who are actually there. Bring in outside resources to help, by all means, but I personally do not think that anonymous postings on this public forum - some posted by people who may not have good intentions (i.e., "trolls") - is a good way to begin this important discourse, or to move it forward productively.

[Anonymous]

I believe the point people were making is that these issues have been raised within the community for years with no progress. Perhaps public scrutiny will give the leaders involved additional motivation to address this issue. Many complaints have been leveled at the STa community regarding the disrespectful way the NCS girls are treated. Recently, there was a discussion of dances and the unequal treatment of girls at the Sta events compared to boys at NCS events. Small issues but they speak volumes. Such an easy fix you wonder why the leaders at STa are so resistant.

Of course, it appears that the current issues are more serious and deeply personal. I could recount specifics but it might be identifying. It appears that is what the Boys did with the google doc. They identified the girls sharing their stories. It appears their behavior was "inappropriate." I hope that is not a euphymism for debasing and humiliating. If that is the case, then one can see how the minimizing language used by STa is a part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

NCS does not address problems or questions. They respond with silence. Lack of leadership is now bubbling over.

[Anonymous]

Time for some succession planning.