I Don't Ow You an Account of How I Spend My Time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Be careful about overloading him with stuff to do. When I need my DH to do things I just put it on our shared family google calendar so the phone popus a reminder. It seems to work. Also, he should be open with telling you what and what he has been doing. If he isn't hiding anything he ought to be able to tell you what he was doing. At the same time you don't want to be over the top about it.

True, he should be able to. However, it sounds like OP is a micromanaging nagger and I'm sure he's avoiding telling her he relaxed because she'll lose her shit. I can't imagine being stuck with such a controlling spouse who wanted me to account for exactly what I did in a 3 hr time span. If this was a husband writing in about his wife, everyone would be calling him a controlling asshole.

My husband (ex-husband) was always worried if I were carrying my weight. If I took a breath, he'd wonder why something hadn't been done or why I was asking for his help with a task.

Exhausting. Ex-husband.

WERE you carrying you weight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tenants are responsible for caulk

Nope. My landlord just switched mine out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I agree on your statement re: the parent-child dynamic. My husband does not have my drive, at work or with household stuff. Constant source of tension in our house.

Guess you didn't do a good job picking him, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd back off; you're going to build a monster.
If you rode me like that the second you left town I'd be doing cocaine off a hookers boobs in your bed.

Make sure you do it through a $100 bill. I understand it improves the experience.

[Anonymous]

Next time give him a list of tasks that you expect him to accomplish while your gone. Ask him to give you a status report every 3 hours - 8am, 11am, 2pm, 5pm. If something is not done by 5pm, tell him that he will need to work overtime.

Give him the evenings off. But let him know that you expect him to eat only healthy, non-processed foods. At least 5 fruits and veggies every day. Plus exercise.

If he fails, give him a warning. But if he fails repeatedly you may need to let him go. I'm sure he'll respond well to this plan. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

DH took a new job over a year ago and travels a lot now. I was concerned about it at first, but we manage fine when he travels. I would say the most important thing is that he does not micromanage. If the kitchen is a disaster when he returns, he starts cleaning up. If an errand didn't get done, he offers to take care of it. If he was micromanaging my time from a distance, it would be a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time give him a list of tasks that you expect him to accomplish while your gone. Ask him to give you a status report every 3 hours - 8am, 11am, 2pm, 5pm. If something is not done by 5pm, tell him that he will need to work overtime.

Give him the evenings off. But let him know that you expect him to eat only healthy, non-processed foods. At least 5 fruits and veggies every day. Plus exercise.

If he fails, give him a warning. But if he fails repeatedly you may need to let him go. I'm sure he'll respond well to this plan. Good luck!

Oh, and she should leave her dishes for him to do. That has worked wonders for the lady in the 'share the burden' thread.