Babysitter got pregnant by married man...

[Anonymous]

Pro-Abortion here.

I love that abortion is legal, and safe, and available for babysitters who get pregnant by married men. I love when people chose abortion rather than derailing their lives. I think if you're considering it, it's generally the right choice.

I don't buy into the whole "abortion is sad" thing. Unintended pregnancy is sad. Abortion is a solution (as is adoption and parenting). As the child of unmarried teenage parents (who also put another child up for adoption) I say- yes, I love abortion. Sorry if that offends people, but I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. I would not hire a male babysitter or allow any male to be in the house with my kids if I am not there. This is how sexual abuse happens.

That is a very unfair statement about males.

My babysitter (for preschool-age DD) is male and is wonderfully skilled, creative, and competent. He is a preschool teacher. Hiring someone like him to care for a child is not "how sexual abuse happens."

But thanks for discouraging all of the parents on this board from telling their teenaged sons to give babysitting a try-- which could earn them some nice money and prepare them for their future lives as parents. On behalf of those kids, their parents, and their future wives and children, thanks a million!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pro-Abortion here.

I love that abortion is legal, and safe, and available for babysitters who get pregnant by married men. I love when people chose abortion rather than derailing their lives. I think if you're considering it, it's generally the right choice.

I don't buy into the whole "abortion is sad" thing. Unintended pregnancy is sad. Abortion is a solution (as is adoption and parenting). As the child of unmarried teenage parents (who also put another child up for adoption) I say- yes, I love abortion. Sorry if that offends people, but I love it.

Either you are using deliberately incendiary language to get a rise or you're really low. I had an abortion as a younger woman and never regretted it, felt a moment's guilt, nor have I looked back and questioned my decision. It should remain legal, unburdensome, and should be universally covered by health insurance and medicaid.

When I had my abortion, I made a choice based on my life's values, goals, and how I wanted the next 20 years of my life to unfold. I think having an abortion because some nitwit one babysits thinks its best so that I can continue to watch over her child without letting my inconvenient lifestyle choices produce any tangible results her kids might notice, well, that's pretty weird. If you don't like her life choices, get your kids out of that environment, period. Do something proactive to find another sitter instead of bitching about and judging another woman's problems on this message board. I totally misunderstood your initial post. It turns out that you don't care if your babysitter parades her married woman around your kids, you only seem to care that there might be an inconvenient little crying result in nine months time. It's all good if everyone can turn a blind eye, right? Lady, you're revolting.

I don't think abortion is wrong nor do I think it is "sad." But I think a woman who sits on a message board bitching about how the bad decisions she is making with her children's care is being caused by a woman who won't have an abortion, who then has the utter nuts to suggest she knows better than that woman about whether or not she should have an abortion is sad. Pathetic, actually.

But don't worry, I'm sure your babysitter respects you and your choices so much that she will certainly toe the line when you suggest she abort that baby. You should be sure to tell her what to do at the earliest convenience. Convenient for you, that is. In fact, women should basically be required to ask your permission before giving birth to their little mistakes all of the time. You know best about other people's abortions, clearly.

Ew! Have I mentioned that you're revolting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pro-Abortion here.

I love that abortion is legal, and safe, and available for babysitters who get pregnant by married men. I love when people chose abortion rather than derailing their lives. I think if you're considering it, it's generally the right choice.

I don't buy into the whole "abortion is sad" thing. Unintended pregnancy is sad. Abortion is a solution (as is adoption and parenting). As the child of unmarried teenage parents (who also put another child up for adoption) I say- yes, I love abortion. Sorry if that offends people, but I love it.

Either you are using deliberately incendiary language to get a rise or you're really low. I had an abortion as a younger woman and never regretted it, felt a moment's guilt, nor have I looked back and questioned my decision. It should remain legal, unburdensome, and should be universally covered by health insurance and medicaid.

When I had my abortion, I made a choice based on my life's values, goals, and how I wanted the next 20 years of my life to unfold. I think having an abortion because some nitwit one babysits thinks its best so that I can continue to watch over her child without letting my inconvenient lifestyle choices produce any tangible results her kids might notice, well, that's pretty weird. If you don't like her life choices, get your kids out of that environment, period. Do something proactive to find another sitter instead of bitching about and judging another woman's problems on this message board. I totally misunderstood your initial post. It turns out that you don't care if your babysitter parades her married woman around your kids, you only seem to care that there might be an inconvenient little crying result in nine months time. It's all good if everyone can turn a blind eye, right? Lady, you're revolting.

I don't think abortion is wrong nor do I think it is "sad." But I think a woman who sits on a message board bitching about how the bad decisions she is making with her children's care is being caused by a woman who won't have an abortion, who then has the utter nuts to suggest she knows better than that woman about whether or not she should have an abortion is sad. Pathetic, actually.

But don't worry, I'm sure your babysitter respects you and your choices so much that she will certainly toe the line when you suggest she abort that baby. You should be sure to tell her what to do at the earliest convenience. Convenient for you, that is. In fact, women should basically be required to ask your permission before giving birth to their little mistakes all of the time. You know best about other people's abortions, clearly.

Ew! Have I mentioned that you're revolting?

PP, I think I have a girl crush on you. Rock on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. I would not hire a male babysitter or allow any male to be in the house with my kids if I am not there. This is how sexual abuse happens.

That is a very unfair statement about males.

My babysitter (for preschool-age DD) is male and is wonderfully skilled, creative, and competent. He is a preschool teacher. Hiring someone like him to care for a child is not "how sexual abuse happens."

But thanks for discouraging all of the parents on this board from telling their teenaged sons to give babysitting a try-- which could earn them some nice money and prepare them for their future lives as parents. On behalf of those kids, their parents, and their future wives and children, thanks a million!

I like your outlook a lot, but statistically speaking, it's far more likely to be a male caregiver who abuses than a female caregiver...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. I would not hire a male babysitter or allow any male to be in the house with my kids if I am not there. This is how sexual abuse happens.

That is a very unfair statement about males.

My babysitter (for preschool-age DD) is male and is wonderfully skilled, creative, and competent. He is a preschool teacher. Hiring someone like him to care for a child is not "how sexual abuse happens."

But thanks for discouraging all of the parents on this board from telling their teenaged sons to give babysitting a try-- which could earn them some nice money and prepare them for their future lives as parents. On behalf of those kids, their parents, and their future wives and children, thanks a million!

I like your outlook a lot, but statistically speaking, it's far more likely to be a male caregiver who abuses than a female caregiver...

PP here: true, but we don't hire statistics as babysitters. We hire people. People whom we vet, check, and double and triple check. A high degree of scrutiny is necessary for any potential caregiver.

Statistically, relatives are the most likely to abuse, but we don't rule them out.

No way would I allow a confirmed adulterer to hang out with his girlfriend while she babysat my DD. Why? He's demonstrated that he is willing to break both sexual rules and sexual taboos. Not a good sign. But if I had a teenaged babysitter with a significant other, I'd be okay with that person coming by after my child goes to sleep, and them watching a movie together.

[Anonymous]

OK let me tell you a secret. In my teens I baby sat the neighbors kid. Had a friend come over and we did the do in the ladies bedroom. Kid woke up and saw us but did not say anything until next day when mom came back. Yes I did feel bad, but I was not thinking with the right mind like now because I was 14. I do not think people are watching movies together I am also not saying they are having sex. IMO, work is separate from personal life. If you want to cozy up with BF fine, don't sit that night but you should be able to separate the two.