How do you feel about muffins with mom, donuts with dad type events in a school setting for kids?

[Anonymous]

the problem (I think) is that if you do a cupcakes with caregivers or the like, I would venture that in 90% of cases, just the mom would show up. the point of these events is for dads to show up, and not be the only dad.

[Anonymous]

I hate it. I feel sad for kids in other situations. I was always sad on Grandparent's day when we did gifts for them in school growing up and all of mine passed away when I was a baby. I can't even imagine dealing with it if my mom and/or dad weren't around. Do special things with your kids on your own, not in school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the problem (I think) is that if you do a cupcakes with caregivers or the like, I would venture that in 90% of cases, just the mom would show up. the point of these events is for dads to show up, and not be the only dad.

Sure, but why do them anyway? I just don't get what the purpose is. There can be plenty of other things to bring parents to school -- performance, science fairs, etc. It seems to me it's just something to occupy the volunteering energies of the PTA.

[Anonymous]

Why do it? To get dads to go to the school and see what we moms do the other 99% of the time, for them to see their kids in the school setting, with their friends. For the dads to meet/get a chance to talk to each other. If it's a caregiver event, no way dh would go. If it's an event for dads, then maybe. FWIW, not all dads go, obviously. But for the ones who want to volunteer at school and not be the only male, I think it's fine.

[Anonymous]

And give everyone a trophy or a medal for signing up to be on a team, putting on a uniform, and doing cartwheels in the outfield. Kids need to learn that not everything is fair and equal. I teach children who do not have this concept, and work with people who don't. It sucks.

Not saying it isn't hard when a parent or loved one just passed away or is not present, but we can't make the whole world equal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks these are just terrible? My child has two loving parents and we would absolutely go to these types of events to be there .. but I feel awful for the kids who do not have two parents who can attend. What if dad is in the military and deployed (We live in a very military heavy area, so this is a very real issue at our school)? What if mom works and can't attend? Or God forbid one of the parents have passed away, or lives far away because of a divorce?

These things just really, really, really rub me the wrong way.. especially with little kids. Why can't it be muffins with special friends or something like that?

I live in a base town. The invitation always says that you can bring anyone you like. If Dad isn't available, Mom or Grandpa or Uncle Steve can come.

But, but, I don't have an Uncle Steve, just an Uncle Scott and Aunt Belinda! Can they come? All of the demands to include everyone just becomes maddening.

French Fries with Foster Parents! Waffles with Widows! Hush puppies with Home-Based Caregivers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks these are just terrible? My child has two loving parents and we would absolutely go to these types of events to be there .. but I feel awful for the kids who do not have two parents who can attend. What if dad is in the military and deployed (We live in a very military heavy area, so this is a very real issue at our school)? What if mom works and can't attend? Or God forbid one of the parents have passed away, or lives far away because of a divorce?

These things just really, really, really rub me the wrong way.. especially with little kids. Why can't it be muffins with special friends or something like that?

I live in a base town. The invitation always says that you can bring anyone you like. If Dad isn't available, Mom or Grandpa or Uncle Steve can come.

But, but, I don't have an Uncle Steve, just an Uncle Scott and Aunt Belinda! Can they come? All of the demands to include everyone just becomes maddening.

French Fries with Foster Parents! Waffles with Widows! Hush puppies with Home-Based Caregivers.

No, no, no - only those kids with an Uncle Steve are included. However, I am totally showing up on French Fries with Foster Parents day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care because I have a job so I can't go anyway. I highly recommend that people who think too much about x,y,z get themselves one of these job thingies.

I like you.

me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care because I have a job so I can't go anyway. I highly recommend that people who think too much about x,y,z get themselves one of these job thingies.

I like you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The donuts for dads event this year was very hard for DD and I (DH died in the past year). I took her to breakfast before school and dropped her off. I cried all the way home. Why not just have a family day???

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would be willing to forgo the dubious value-add of specifying which parent should attend in trade for not causing some kids and parents pain.

[Anonymous]

Is the primary reason for donuts with Dads is to make Dads more comfortable in the school? The Dads are grown ups, and should be able to deal with discomfort of being the only Dad at an event. The kids without Dads seem to be the more sensitive population here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You bleeding heart types know kill me. Isn't it tiresome to be so worried about every little thing every minute of every day?

+1 Stop helicoptering. I can't even imagine anyone being concerned about this when I was a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the primary reason for donuts with Dads is to make Dads more comfortable in the school? The Dads are grown ups, and should be able to deal with discomfort of being the only Dad at an event. The kids without Dads seem to be the more sensitive population here.

+1 Why do dads need a special event to make them come to school? There are lots of dads at our school at back-to-school nite, book fair, international nite, concerts, etc. If you do a breakfast event, sure, not many dads will be there because they are going to work and why should they have to take time off work to go eat donuts at school for no purpose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the primary reason for donuts with Dads is to make Dads more comfortable in the school? The Dads are grown ups, and should be able to deal with discomfort of being the only Dad at an event. The kids without Dads seem to be the more sensitive population here.

+1 Why do dads need a special event to make them come to school? There are lots of dads at our school at back-to-school nite, book fair, international nite, concerts, etc. If you do a breakfast event, sure, not many dads will be there because they are going to work and why should they have to take time off work to go eat donuts at school for no purpose?

there were tons of dads at your school for donuts for dads. They even go back to the classroom with the kids to participate in the morning meeting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the primary reason for donuts with Dads is to make Dads more comfortable in the school? The Dads are grown ups, and should be able to deal with discomfort of being the only Dad at an event. The kids without Dads seem to be the more sensitive population here.

+1 Why do dads need a special event to make them come to school? There are lots of dads at our school at back-to-school nite, book fair, international nite, concerts, etc. If you do a breakfast event, sure, not many dads will be there because they are going to work and why should they have to take time off work to go eat donuts at school for no purpose?

there were tons of dads at your school for donuts for dads. They even go back to the classroom with the kids to participate in the morning meeting.

I was replying to the prev poster who said if it's not labeled as specifically for dads they won't come. So, your school got a lot of dads to come by making it a "dads only" event. I still don't see how that's something needed. I generally don't like the school making up events that require parents to have to take off time from work.