on in-laws...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Perhaps you should take your own advice. Try having a little sympathy for the MILs who have to deal with the petty, antagonistic, jealous, controlling DILs. It isn't just a one way street as many of the recent post of so aptly demonstrated.

+ 1.

Bitchy and mean women will be bitchy and mean as DIL and as MIL. Many DCUM posters fall in that category. Yes, people who have normal DILs or MILs will never fathom what others are talking about, because these women excel in making mountains out of molehills.

+1

[Anonymous]

Mountains out of molehills? I know both MILs and DILs BOTH that are quite good at that.

It is NOT one way, but there is a MIL here who refuses to accept that. Perhaps she is having a particularly bad day today. All she seems to have a a retort is weak attempts to insult others.

What it often comes down to is MIL realizing that DS is not your little boy any more. He has a NEW, improved family now. Get over it.

If I had a dime for all the crap my MIL filled my DH's head with, and how he was abused growing up - we MIGHT just have enough for therapy. MIL's much needed therapy, too!

Really, don't push DIL too much, or ALL the dirt might come out.

But you know, if MIL wasn't such an atrocious SOB, DH would not be as great as he is!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mountains out of molehills? I know both MILs and DILs BOTH that are quite good at that.

It is NOT one way, but there is a MIL here who refuses to accept that. Perhaps she is having a particularly bad day today. All she seems to have a a retort is weak attempts to insult others.

What it often comes down to is MIL realizing that DS is not your little boy any more. He has a NEW, improved family now. Get over it.

If I had a dime for all the crap my MIL filled my DH's head with, and how he was abused growing up - we MIGHT just have enough for therapy. MIL's much needed therapy, too!

Really, don't push DIL too much, or ALL the dirt might come out.

But you know, if MIL wasn't such an atrocious SOB, DH would not be as great as he is!

Really. I have seen some unstable posters today, but none that appeared to be a mil. Your frustration with your own life may be clouding your judgment.

[Anonymous]

I know, name calling is really the way to handle things. Let me guess, you are definitely NOT a lawyer, right? A rhetorical question, at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know, name calling is really the way to handle things. Let me guess, you are definitely NOT a lawyer, right? A rhetorical question, at best.

A little clarity would be beneficial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know, name calling is really the way to handle things. Let me guess, you are definitely NOT a lawyer, right? A rhetorical question, at best.

A little clarity would be beneficial.

See PP unstable MILs posts resorting to name calling DILs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know, name calling is really the way to handle things. Let me guess, you are definitely NOT a lawyer, right? A rhetorical question, at best.

A little clarity would be beneficial.

See PP unstable MILs posts resorting to name calling DILs.

You have to be kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like some of you are creating problems, where there aren't any. Like you THINK you're supposed to not get along with your in-laws, so you create or magnify a "problem" in your head. Like you think in-law problems are supposed to be something everyone has, so you make a totally needless issue out of nothing. Your in-law says they love you? Adoringly refers to grandkids as "my kids?" Helps you out when you're moving, and is now getting on your nerves?

I know a few people have really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws, but some of these "problems," man... they just seem so manufactured and ridiculous.

OP, thank you for admitting that there are some people with "really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like some of you are creating problems, where there aren't any. Like you THINK you're supposed to not get along with your in-laws, so you create or magnify a "problem" in your head. Like you think in-law problems are supposed to be something everyone has, so you make a totally needless issue out of nothing. Your in-law says they love you? Adoringly refers to grandkids as "my kids?" Helps you out when you're moving, and is now getting on your nerves?

I know a few people have really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws, but some of these "problems," man... they just seem so manufactured and ridiculous.

OP, thank you for admitting that there are some people with "really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws..."

Yes, and that does indeed include DIL's, as we are seeing on thread after thread...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like some of you are creating problems, where there aren't any. Like you THINK you're supposed to not get along with your in-laws, so you create or magnify a "problem" in your head. Like you think in-law problems are supposed to be something everyone has, so you make a totally needless issue out of nothing. Your in-law says they love you? Adoringly refers to grandkids as "my kids?" Helps you out when you're moving, and is now getting on your nerves?

I know a few people have really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws, but some of these "problems," man... they just seem so manufactured and ridiculous.

OP, thank you for admitting that there are some people with "really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws..."

+1 I can only imagine the Mil on here. She would make any Mil look good!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like some of you are creating problems, where there aren't any. Like you THINK you're supposed to not get along with your in-laws, so you create or magnify a "problem" in your head. Like you think in-law problems are supposed to be something everyone has, so you make a totally needless issue out of nothing. Your in-law says they love you? Adoringly refers to grandkids as "my kids?" Helps you out when you're moving, and is now getting on your nerves?

I know a few people have really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws, but some of these "problems," man... they just seem so manufactured and ridiculous.

OP, thank you for admitting that there are some people with "really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws..."

+1 I can only imagine the Mil on here. She would make any Mil look good!

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I don't know how you presume to know who us or isn't a mil on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

I have a great MIL and I am a great DIL. She has adjusted to include me in her life as I have adjusted to include her in my life.

My DH is a great guy and I am deserving of him as much as he is deserving of me. My MIL deserves credit for raising such a decent and caring man. And because of how he was raised he is also a very good son-in-law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a great MIL and I am a great DIL. She has adjusted to include me in her life as I have adjusted to include her in my life.

My DH is a great guy and I am deserving of him as much as he is deserving of me. My MIL deserves credit for raising such a decent and caring man. And because of how he was raised he is also a very good son-in-law.

Therein the solution. You both adjusted. Smart ladies, both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like some of you are creating problems, where there aren't any. Like you THINK you're supposed to not get along with your in-laws, so you create or magnify a "problem" in your head. Like you think in-law problems are supposed to be something everyone has, so you make a totally needless issue out of nothing. Your in-law says they love you? Adoringly refers to grandkids as "my kids?" Helps you out when you're moving, and is now getting on your nerves?

I know a few people have really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws, but some of these "problems," man... they just seem so manufactured and ridiculous.

OP, thank you for admitting that there are some people with "really, truly, insanely horrific in-laws..."

+1 I can only imagine the Mil on here. She would make any Mil look good!

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I don't know how you presume to know who us or isn't a mil on an anonymous forum.

How do you presume it isn't obvious, even with your poor denial? Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a great MIL and I am a great DIL. She has adjusted to include me in her life as I have adjusted to include her in my life.

My DH is a great guy and I am deserving of him as much as he is deserving of me. My MIL deserves credit for raising such a decent and caring man. And because of how he was raised he is also a very good son-in-law.

I love this. Especially that you and MIL are *secure* enough to understand and appreciate each others differences. That is the key!