10 year old nephew crying when left with moms boyfriend

[Anonymous]

For me, they'd be ALARM bells.

[Anonymous]

me too.... especially if a 10 year old cries. I know its hard and you live in a different city... but someone (yourself or the grandmother) should really pay a visit.... you will regret it if the bad things really happen to this child. I have seen it in two families.... and it takes nearly forever to undo the damages done.

Even if nothing bad was happening, the reassurances of just being there would have positive effects on the child.....

And maybe to logically talk to your sister as well.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he had school Monday and great grandmother lives 3 hours away. Mom stayed overnight at her house.

Wait, Mom left her 10 year old son home alone with her boyfriend overnight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His mother told me he has called her crying the last two nights she's worked, and he had an epic meltdown in front of his great grandmother when his mom left to drive great grandmother home.

So this means, Mom, great grandma, and son were all together in mom's house.... and mom and great grandma left the sobbing, crying, tantrumming 10 year old boy .... with Boyfriend to watch the 10 year old overnight? Mom didn't come back till the AM and it was Boyfriend who was home all night with the boy, and got him off to school the next morning?

In this situation mom should have taken the boy with her on the overnight trip and had him miss school. Or sent Great grandma with someone else.

Why would she think it is a good idea for him to stay alone with a man, all night?

[Anonymous]

This sounds very bad. I would contact your nephew's school immediately and ask for the counselor and then a local contact on how to proceed. Leaving this poor child with this guy seems beyond irresponsible and cruel.

[Anonymous]

I just can't get over the "overnight" part.

OP, in your head, rewrite the title of this thread to:

"10 year old nephew crying when left OVERNIGHT with Mom's boyfriend".

That's a pretty significant detail.

[Anonymous]

This whole thread makes me want to cry. If this were my nephew, I'd be on a plane ready to take my sister down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His mother told me he has called her crying the last two nights she's worked, and he had an epic meltdown in front of his great grandmother when his mom left to drive great grandmother home.

So this means, Mom, great grandma, and son were all together in mom's house.... and mom and great grandma left the sobbing, crying, tantrumming 10 year old boy .... with Boyfriend to watch the 10 year old overnight? Mom didn't come back till the AM and it was Boyfriend who was home all night with the boy, and got him off to school the next morning?

In this situation mom should have taken the boy with her on the overnight trip and had him miss school. Or sent Great grandma with someone else.

Why would she think it is a good idea for him to stay alone with a man, all night?

Seriously! I feel bad for single moms but geez, think about your kids before your c*nt (yes I went there.) The only boyfriends who truly want and are okay with babysitting your kids are probably NOT the type of men you want around your kids in the first place.

[Anonymous]

The School counsellor is involved. We will see what happens next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The School counsellor is involved. We will see what happens next.

OP, if that's you, do update us. I keep checking back here because I'm worried about this boy! I'd love to hear someone is addressing this for him.

[Anonymous]

That was me, OP. I called his school. his mom said it was because his friend was missing his mom, and it was contagious. I'm not buying it.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your nephew. When he's not with the guy and not crying obviously. Ask him "Tom, what is it that makes you cry so much when you're with Boyfriend?" Talk to him. Listen to him. Maybe he'll tell you something. Maybe he won't. But if he does, all of a sudden you have something to go by. Because it sounds like his Mom is not going to do this...but someone MUST!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to your nephew. When he's not with the guy and not crying obviously. Ask him "Tom, what is it that makes you cry so much when you're with Boyfriend?" Talk to him. Listen to him. Maybe he'll tell you something. Maybe he won't. But if he does, all of a sudden you have something to go by. Because it sounds like his Mom is not going to do this...but someone MUST!

+1. Time for a visit out to your nephew so you can try to talk to him. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

while I also think the mom should stop leaving the boy with this guy, I do see that it could be something other than abuse. Children are clingy like that when parents leave if they are feeling worried or unloved. It's possible he needs more love and attention from his mother. And if that's the case, it's a critical age. Another year or two he's not going to reach out anymore but will turn all the sadness and alienation inward.

[Anonymous]

OP, Did you talk to your nephew?. As a parent this has me worried.