Husbands out there - what could your wife do differently to increase your drive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So we figured it out, op. Men will not have sex with overweight women. So it doesn't matter what color bra you are wearing.

Nice selective reading.

That's totally not what was said here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a DW who's interested in this question too, OP. So far, I've thrown out all my granny panties and only have matching bra and panty sets; I've stopped burping around him (never farted); I've sent him raunchy pics; and I'm letting my hair get quite long.

I'm this poster, and to clarify, we do have sex. I just want him to be more grabby and frisky with me outside the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a DW who's interested in this question too, OP. So far, I've thrown out all my granny panties and only have matching bra and panty sets; I've stopped burping around him (never farted); I've sent him raunchy pics; and I'm letting my hair get quite long.

Something is seriously wrong with a man who can't get excited over a ready and willing wife.

My husband has two chronic illnesses and a long commute. He's over 50. I'm lucky to get it once a week.

Your DH falls into the seriously wrong category=chronic illnesses. Luckily no the seriously wrong category=gay.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a DW who's interested in this question too, OP. So far, I've thrown out all my granny panties and only have matching bra and panty sets; I've stopped burping around him (never farted); I've sent him raunchy pics; and I'm letting my hair get quite long.

I'm this poster, and to clarify, we do have sex. I just want him to be more grabby and frisky with me outside the bedroom.

No means no. Unless you have a woman's enthusiastic consent in advance, you don't touch her. I've been reading feminist boards, so I know these things.

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Re: grabby & frisky.

Just a stab in the dark here, but was there - by chance - a period shortly after kids where PP (OP?) didn't want DH to bother her. Because I went through this, and I've seen it alluded to in other discussions:

Couple has decent sex life. Couple has kids. Wife's libido tanks. Husband gets rejected quite a bit & stops trying very hard. Wife's libido returns & she wonders why he isn't initiating.

[Anonymous]

Spontaneous BJs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a DW who's interested in this question too, OP. So far, I've thrown out all my granny panties and only have matching bra and panty sets; I've stopped burping around him (never farted); I've sent him raunchy pics; and I'm letting my hair get quite long.

I'm this poster, and to clarify, we do have sex. I just want him to be more grabby and frisky with me outside the bedroom.

No means no. Unless you have a woman's enthusiastic consent in advance, you don't touch her. I've been reading feminist boards, so I know these things.

Yeah. I think people underestimate the level of confusion and paranoia that men have to deal with when it comes to being the one that has to initiate all the time. Either we are creepy predators, or we are gay. Maybe it would be easier for everyone if men just collectively stopped initiating altogether and let women do the chasing, sort of an inverse Lysistrata.

[Anonymous]

Lose some LBs

Dress sexier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has not initiated sex for over a year. Is it me? Is it him? I'm not perfect but not that repulsive.

Who said anything about you being repulsive? He's just tired of fucking you.

Geez, what a reach.

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Anonymous wrote: Any normal man is going to jump at tue opportunity with a ready and willing woman.

False

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
No means no. Unless you have a woman's enthusiastic consent in advance, you don't touch her. I've been reading feminist boards, so I know these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Any normal man is going to jump at tue opportunity with a ready and willing woman.

False

Abnormal.