I don't understand if I am being too needy or if he is being emotionally unavailable

[Anonymous]

Huh??
Are you 12?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends a lot on the tone of your relationship prior to him leaving for vacation. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a phone call once or twice a day if your relationship is serious and committed. some relationships are and some aren't at 6 months so it's hard to say.

For comparison, my husband calls about twice a day when he is on work trips- once in the morning to say hi to the kids and usually at night when he is back in his hotel. very occasionally we might exchange a few texts too but that is rarer. I don't think my expectation of these phone calls makes me needy, but this is something that works for both of us and is an understood part of the relationship.

I would just talk to him when you get back- don't guilt him or lay it on just say hey, I think we should talk about where we are in the relationship and what expectations you each have about communication.

You're married. That's quite different.

Communicating daily seems perfectly normal for married couples. For a boyfriend of six months, expecting 1-2 phones every day is needy, especially when he is willing to text.

[Anonymous]

One thing to add for OP- neediness from one partner and emotional unavailability from the other is a vicious cycle. I was very insecure early on in my relationship with DH and needed a lot of contact and affirmation of our relationship--this made him want to pull away even more, which made me feel even more needy, and so on. We're married now though, so obviously we worked through it...a lot of open communication helps, but let it wait until after the vacation.

[Anonymous]

What is a heart text?

Just a text of a heart emoticon?

[Anonymous]

Bear in mind most people are going to buckle under the weight of "please be my everything at all times"