I don't understand if I am being too needy or if he is being emotionally unavailable

[Anonymous]

boyfriend of 6 months is on vacation with his daughter and other family, but he is only sending one or two heart texts a day. This has been going on for about a week. I get that he wants space to hang out with his daughter/sister/BIL/niece etc…but I miss him and feel like a heart a 6:30 am is insufficient, I've tried to engage but get minimal in response.

Am I being needy?? how do I tell him that I need more?

I know to a lot of you this will be pathetic, but I was with my ex husband from 15 - 38, so I have absolutely no idea what is normal dating…

[Anonymous]

You are being needy. He is on vacation with his daughter and family - his time, energy and focus should be on them. Why do you need to make his vacation about you. He is sending you a couple texts a day letting you know that a) he is fine, b) he is thinking of you, c) a heart = positive.

You have only been together six months. You should be fine to be apart for a week without needing constant reassurance and long conversations that take him away from his daughter.

Seems your focus is me...me....me. What you need, what you want without a care for what he needs or wants.

[Anonymous]

Just to clarify, by "other family" do you mean his wife?

[Anonymous]

Definitely needy.

This, and the fact that you got married at 15, leads me to suggest that you would benefit from therapy. You need to experience life as an independent adult.

[Anonymous]

ok, thanks, I appreciate the clarification.

Haha… I married my high school sweetheart when I was 28, not 15; no the new boyfriend isn't with his wife…

I guess I'm just feeling lonely.

[Anonymous]

I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ok, thanks, I appreciate the clarification.

Haha… I married my high school sweetheart when I was 28, not 15; no the new boyfriend isn't with his wife…

I guess I'm just feeling lonely.

Your feelings are your problem not his. Learn to cope with your own feelings. Learn to find your own happiness. Learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to be your own person. You need to develop more independence.

[Anonymous]

Assuming he isn't in another country, on a weeklong vacation, I think he should call you at least once or twice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

[Anonymous]

You are being WAY too needy. It's only a six month relationship. Let him focus on his daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

While I think once a day is a bit much, a call or two during the week seems a bit more appropriate than just a heart text. He's not with his dd and family 24/7. At some point he must have 5 minutes to himself where he could call just to say hi.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

While I think once a day is a bit much, a call or two during the week seems a bit more appropriate than just a heart text. He's not with his dd and family 24/7. At some point he must have 5 minutes to himself where he could call just to say hi.

A call with Op isn't going to be 5 minutes. She is lonely and upset he isn't calling and thinking he is emotionally unavailable because of it. The phone call will be a long one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

While I think once a day is a bit much, a call or two during the week seems a bit more appropriate than just a heart text. He's not with his dd and family 24/7. At some point he must have 5 minutes to himself where he could call just to say hi.

A call with Op isn't going to be 5 minutes. She is lonely and upset he isn't calling and thinking he is emotionally unavailable because of it. The phone call will be a long one.

And there will be a lot of yelling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

While I think once a day is a bit much, a call or two during the week seems a bit more appropriate than just a heart text. He's not with his dd and family 24/7. At some point he must have 5 minutes to himself where he could call just to say hi.

A call with Op isn't going to be 5 minutes. She is lonely and upset he isn't calling and thinking he is emotionally unavailable because of it. The phone call will be a long one.

And there will be a lot of yelling.

And crying. Have to ramp up the guilt factor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why he couldn't call you once a day. I don't think you're being needy.

150% agreed!!

While I think once a day is a bit much, a call or two during the week seems a bit more appropriate than just a heart text. He's not with his dd and family 24/7. At some point he must have 5 minutes to himself where he could call just to say hi.

A call with Op isn't going to be 5 minutes. She is lonely and upset he isn't calling and thinking he is emotionally unavailable because of it. The phone call will be a long one.

And there will be a lot of yelling.

And crying. Have to ramp up the guilt factor.

Perhaps. And, if this is the case then there will only be one call and she will be single again when he returns.