Please help me not to lose my @#$% here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok Ok Ok...you need to CALM DOWN bc you are on bedrest.

Let your DH handle this mess. There is nothing you can do now so be annoyed for an hour and then refocus on something else.

You and your DH should have been more attentive to what was going on!

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[Anonymous]

OP here: he wasn't supposed to be at camp while he was with his grandparents. They told us how ILs and DS will go camping, fishing, sightseeing, how they will drive to Gettysburg. They put it as "you won't have to worry about camp pick ups, fees, etc." So of course there camp names and medical consent forms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how long did they lie to you about where he was?

It's not a big deal that he spent a week doing nothing, but it is a big f'ing deal that they lied to you. Now you can't trust them to be honest when they care for him. I would be afraid that if he gets hurt they will hide it from you.

This. This is the dealbreaker for me. It's what I'm always telling my kids (and thankfully don't have to tell my parents): Just be honest. If you're not going to do something, or didn't do something, just come clean and be honest. If you try to cover it up and lie about it, I will lose my @#$%!!!

And to the PP who said the in-laws raised DH and he's apparently fine so OP needs to chill out: I know a LOT of wonderful people who had REALLY crappy parents.

[Anonymous]

They sound like assholes and dishonest sneaks.

OP, what does your DH say about what his parents did?

[Anonymous]

Can you check Mon Co P&R for camps? I know FCP&R still has availability in certain ones. They may not be your first choice but at least it will get him doing something.

[Anonymous]

I would be pretty annoyed that the kid spent a week inside playing on the iPad. I would be angry that the grandparents told me that they would be doing all these great activities with the kid in order to get me to agree to let him go, and then didn't do anything. I would be beyond pissed that the grandparents lied, repeatedly, about what the kid was actually doing. They would never get to have the kid unsupervised again. You lie to me, and about my child, and that's it. I just would not be able to trust them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: he wasn't supposed to be at camp while he was with his grandparents. They told us how ILs and DS will go camping, fishing, sightseeing, how they will drive to Gettysburg. They put it as "you won't have to worry about camp pick ups, fees, etc." So of course there camp names and medical consent forms.

But earlier you said "I am expecting another child, I'm on bed rest. DH is working full time. ILs insisted they take our oldest DC to their house since I couldn't possibly take care him for the next few weeks. I repeat, INSISTED. We didn't ask, we had plans for DC to attend a full-day summer camp through his school with activities, et.al. At first, ILs said they will drive him to school. Great, we thought. Then they said they found a nicer camp closer to their house. Fine, we thought, whatever works. He has now been there a week. They never took him to ANY CAMP. They never enrolled him anywhere. He is sitting there in the house cooped up with iPad and video games. FIL took him to a sprayground ONCE! There's a swimming pool in the nearby rec center that no one bothered to take DS to and he can't walk there by himself, he's only 6!"

Now I'm wondering what the deal is. You originally said the ILs were taking him to a different camp, and now it's "He wasn't supposed to be at camp while he was with his grandparents"??? What's up?

[Anonymous]

I'm calling troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm calling troll.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: he wasn't supposed to be at camp while he was with his grandparents. They told us how ILs and DS will go camping, fishing, sightseeing, how they will drive to Gettysburg. They put it as "you won't have to worry about camp pick ups, fees, etc." So of course there camp names and medical consent forms.

Told you -- it was all motivated by your desire to save a few bucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't your husband take care of him for the holiday weekend? I get you are on bedrest, but won't your husband be around to take care of him and take him to the pool, etc?

Yep, OP's story isn't adding up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There has to be more to this story. Did you not wonder how they coukd sign your child up for camp without your signature? Medical forms? Supply list? You didn't even ask the name of the camp??? Your child is only 6, I can't imagine just being fine with sending him wherever. It's not like you haven't had time to research the camp. When I was on bedrest all I did all day was surf the Internet.

Trolls' stories don't ever add up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We get it. You were going to do camp, your in-laws volunteered, you thought you could save several thousand dollars, so you went along.

But if you want to have complete control over what your kid is and isn't doing, you either pay to send them to camp where you know what's on the schedule, or you have them at home.

This "they forced me" baloney is pretty sad. So you tried it and it didn't work out. I'm 100% positive ALL the camps in your area are not full. Stop blaming your in-laws and be proactive and call some freaking camps. God, you're on bedrest, you have the time to do so!

Did you even READ the post? That's exactly what the OP wanted -- for her kid to be in camp!!

Well, unless her in-laws kidnapped her kid, she could have done that, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm calling troll.

Agree. Who sends a six-year-old away for weeks at a time? Especially if you have a day camp lined up, and a DH who comes home at night? I've been on bedrest and it sucks, but it wasn't like I couldn't even engage with my child. We had childcare help from sitters, my DH, and visits FROM relatives (at our house), but I certainly spent plenty of time with my older kid in bed with me reading stories, playing board games, coloring, doing puzzles, etc. I would have felt horrible sending her away! As if things at home weren't confusing/stressful enough already.