Please help me not to lose my @#$% here

[Anonymous]

I am expecting another child, I'm on bed rest. DH is working full time. ILs insisted they take our oldest DC to their house since I couldn't possibly take care him for the next few weeks. I repeat, INSISTED. We didn't ask, we had plans for DC to attend a full-day summer camp through his school with activities, et.al. At first, ILs said they will drive him to school. Great, we thought. Then they said they found a nicer camp closer to their house. Fine, we thought, whatever works. He has now been there a week. They never took him to ANY CAMP. They never enrolled him anywhere. He is sitting there in the house cooped up with iPad and video games. FIL took him to a sprayground ONCE! There's a swimming pool in the nearby rec center that no one bothered to take DS to and he can't walk there by himself, he's only 6!

So today DH picked DS up because he's so bored there. Now ILs are giving US attitude calling US "ungrateful." Also, we can't find any camps now in our area, everything's filled up. Thanks for nothing, morons!

[Anonymous]

this is so weird I don't even know where to begin.

[Anonymous]

I'd be pissed too, but it doesn't look like there's much you can do. Where are you located OP, maybe we can help you find some camps that still have spots?

[Anonymous]

call back the original camp. explain the bedrest and inlaws, get your spot back or have them squeeze you in. I get you are in a spot, but your post sounds really odd.
the video games won't kill him. I am sure he is fine and getting enough attention.

[Anonymous]

Ok Ok Ok...you need to CALM DOWN bc you are on bedrest.

Let your DH handle this mess. There is nothing you can do now so be annoyed for an hour and then refocus on something else.

You and your DH should have been more attentive to what was going on!

[Anonymous]

Sorry but I don't get the big deal. Being bored is completely fine during the summer. A 6 year old hanging out with Grnadma and Grandpa for a few weeks while mom is on bedrest sounds amazing.

Let it go-- this and your need to over schedule a 6 year old.

[Anonymous]

OP here: A 6 year old should not be cooped up in the house all day long with two retired, but more than able grandparents! Why not go to a museum, a park, even a local bookstore?

We are in Germantown, if that helps.

[Anonymous]

Dude, you need to learn to stand up to your ILs.

The problem was the very first part where they "insisted" and you let them take over. You've learned your lesson not to trust them about such matters.

Let your DH talk with them, and be sure you and DH are on the same page about future involvement on their part.

[Anonymous]

Would you be this pissed off if your parents did this or would you just shrug it off and shake your head? I would be irritated as all get out, but I don't get the insisting. You are the parents. You had to authorize this because if you did not, the grandparents could be charged with kidnapping. Just say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: A 6 year old should not be cooped up in the house all day long with two retired, but more than able grandparents! Why not go to a museum, a park, even a local bookstore?

We are in Germantown, if that helps.

I agree. My 7 year old son would go nuts.

Try Butler Camp. It has two week options. Lots of hiking, creeking, swimming, soccer, playground time. Just running around, it's great. Session 3 starts July 14.


http://www.butlerschool.org/butler-camp/

[Anonymous]

It fascinates me that people think sitting inside all day with nothing but screens is Ok for most (all?) kids. My son would flip out after more than a day of that. His attitude after a week would be beyond obnoxious.

And it's NOT what the inlaws apparently promised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: A 6 year old should not be cooped up in the house all day long with two retired, but more than able grandparents! Why not go to a museum, a park, even a local bookstore?

We are in Germantown, if that helps.

I agree. Not only that, but they lied to you to get your kid to stay with them all day. I would be pissed off too.

Call around to other camps to see if there have been any drop outs or unfilled spots. Maybe there is a nanny share in the area too. More fun with other kids at least. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Why do you let your inlaws tell you what to do about anything - least of all how to care for your child?

Let this be a lesson to you. Next time tell them to butt the hell out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: A 6 year old should not be cooped up in the house all day long with two retired, but more than able grandparents! Why not go to a museum, a park, even a local bookstore?

We are in Germantown, if that helps.

Well then you and your husband are idiots for allowing this. He wasn't kidnapped. I find it hard to believe that this is the first time they have done anything like that.

Call around. Have your DH take time off. You screwed it up. You fix it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: A 6 year old should not be cooped up in the house all day long with two retired, but more than able grandparents! Why not go to a museum, a park, even a local bookstore?

We are in Germantown, if that helps.

They are his grandparents. They aren't going to do with him what you would do with him. Relax, his isn't damaged. He had a boring week with his grandparents. He won't be damaged for life.