Dating very intellectual men

[Anonymous]

Man here.
My ex-wife used to tell me that she felt like she wasn't good enough for me, because all of my friends had advanced degrees, and we seemed to always have deep discussions about things that she had trouble following. I'll admit that between the two of us I did think that I was smarter than her as far as textbook knowledge and being able to pick up new things quickly. Still, that woman was my world. She was the most fascinating and interesting person to me, and I never got tired of listening to her talk. As smart as she may have thought I was, I always wanted her opinion before I did something.

Contrast that with a woman I recently stopped seeing: She said the same things that my wife would say about feeling that she wasn't as smart as me, but she seemed to relish in being ignorant. We were from two different backgrounds, and I was open to trying anything she liked. Her defense mechanism to being uncomfortable was to trash everything that I enjoyed. I gave it two months before throwing in the towel.

As long as you're more like my ex-wife and not like this last person, then you two will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here.
My ex-wife used to tell me that she felt like she wasn't good enough for me, because all of my friends had advanced degrees, and we seemed to always have deep discussions about things that she had trouble following. I'll admit that between the two of us I did think that I was smarter than her as far as textbook knowledge and being able to pick up new things quickly. Still, that woman was my world. She was the most fascinating and interesting person to me, and I never got tired of listening to her talk. As smart as she may have thought I was, I always wanted her opinion before I did something.

Contrast that with a woman I recently stopped seeing: She said the same things that my wife would say about feeling that she wasn't as smart as me, but she seemed to relish in being ignorant. We were from two different backgrounds, and I was open to trying anything she liked. Her defense mechanism to being uncomfortable was to trash everything that I enjoyed. I gave it two months before throwing in the towel.

As long as you're more like my ex-wife and not like this last person, then you two will be fine.

Why did you two divorce?

[Anonymous]

PP, a muse is quite different from an intellectual equal. Don't conflate the two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.
My ex-wife used to tell me that she felt like she wasn't good enough for me, because all of my friends had advanced degrees, and we seemed to always have deep discussions about things that she had trouble following. I'll admit that between the two of us I did think that I was smarter than her as far as textbook knowledge and being able to pick up new things quickly. Still, that woman was my world. She was the most fascinating and interesting person to me, and I never got tired of listening to her talk. As smart as she may have thought I was, I always wanted her opinion before I did something.

Contrast that with a woman I recently stopped seeing: She said the same things that my wife would say about feeling that she wasn't as smart as me, but she seemed to relish in being ignorant. We were from two different backgrounds, and I was open to trying anything she liked. Her defense mechanism to being uncomfortable was to trash everything that I enjoyed. I gave it two months before throwing in the towel.

As long as you're more like my ex-wife and not like this last person, then you two will be fine.

Why did you two divorce?

How much time you got?
The short of it: She had what our marriage counselor described as a breakdown that resulted in manic depression and a personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, a muse is quite different from an intellectual equal. Don't conflate the two.

I'm not, and I agree. My point was that she didn't have to be an intellectual equal in order to arouse and maintain my intellectual interest.