Drinking Scapegoat

[Anonymous]

A drug and alcohol counselor told me that all family members must be invested in the alcoholic's staying sober, so that means a commitment to not drinking, especially in the alcoholic family member's presence.

OP, if your DH can't drink, you can't drink in his presence, period. Pressure? WTF? You made a mistake. Don't blame it on your DH. You need to have better self control. Don't drink around him, at home, in other people's houses, restaurants, etc. Period, end of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A drug and alcohol counselor told me that all family members must be invested in the alcoholic's staying sober, so that means a commitment to not drinking, especially in the alcoholic family member's presence.

OP, if your DH can't drink, you can't drink in his presence, period. Pressure? WTF? You made a mistake. Don't blame it on your DH. You need to have better self control. Don't drink around him, at home, in other people's houses, restaurants, etc. Period, end of story.

Incorrect. PP with alcoholic husband in recovery here. My DH will tell you that his abstinence is HIS problem, not mine. I don't need to have self-control. He does. He says that he should be able to have a bottle in wine in front of him and choose not to drink.