Pregnant by ex-DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would divorce my husband if his mother moved in. She is not ill intended, but is annoying as shit. When you marry someone you don't expect his mommy to move in too.

My BIL moved in and I haven't considered divorce. However, if BIL stays for long, I might be tempted.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, you are blaming your divorce on your husband being an only child. Wowsers. Have you thought about therapy?

Not OP but urging you to STFU. You have no idea what went on in their marriage. At least they're successful co-parents.

I know what she said, dear, which is that the problem may be due to her husband being an only child. Seems like an oversimplification to me.

My DH didn't grow up an only child but lost his only brother in his early 20s. I can understand how her ex-DH being an only child could lead to OP's divorce. It nearly led to mine when my DH didn't have his priorities I order and felt overly responsible for his parents. If my DH had actually moved his mother in with us I would have divorced him.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, sounds like you and your ex-DH could reconcile if it were not for his mom. It's too bad your children have to live in two separate households, but I'm sure they are well adjusted and all will work out.

Congratulations, on your pregnancy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

Why doesn't he just move back in with you and let his mom stay in the bungalow house? I'm so sooty, OP. your exDH sounds like a real wimp. What kind of man chooses his mother over his children and wife? For your family's sake, I hope she doesn't have longevity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

Why doesn't he just move back in with you and let his mom stay in the bungalow house? I'm so sooty, OP. your exDH sounds like a real wimp. What kind of man chooses his mother over his children and wife? For your family's sake, I hope she doesn't have longevity.

Because her DH is a spineless wimp, you hope his mother DIES? Nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

Pretty sure the poster was wondering how you and your ex-DH let something of this magnitude happen when you say you know about birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

Feel better now that you got that out? Now go away. You have nothing to offer OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

OP here, my children are fine and I'm sure they are better than yours. In life eveything isn't for everybody and at times everything isn't always perfect. What works for us may not work for you. Now go sit out in the cold and freeze.

[Anonymous]

OP, if it's just your MIL, I really think you should try and work it out. Have a frank sit-down with grandma. Explain to her that she can either live with you and have unfettered access to her FOUR grandchildren and financially unharmed son, or she can deal with seeing her grandchildren way less than she'd like - but she has to mind her business, respect you as the mother of her grandchildren, and be a member of your family, not its queen bee. Your DH, of course, has to support you on this. I personally think grandparents living with their grown children and grandchild is a great situation if all parties work to cohabit and respect each other. Think of all the help she can give you. Think of all the extra love your kids will receive. Maybe you can give a little, and so can she.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

OP here, my children are fine and I'm sure they are better than yours. In life eveything isn't for everybody and at times everything isn't always perfect. What works for us may not work for you. Now go sit out in the cold and freeze.

I don't know why everyone is being so hard on OP. Most of us admit that it would be difficult to live with our MIL's. She works, has her own place and a reliable ex-dh. It sounds like this child will be cared for and will know both parents. It's not the conventional arrangement, but this is a country where most kids DON'T live in a two parent home. This child is not the result of a one night stand and all kids have the same father. If it's financially possible, I would see if the MIL could stay in the bungalow house or try to buy a house with a guest house or garage apartment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

OP here, my children are fine and I'm sure they are better than yours. In life eveything isn't for everybody and at times everything isn't always perfect. What works for us may not work for you. Now go sit out in the cold and freeze.

I don't know why everyone is being so hard on OP. Most of us admit that it would be difficult to live with our MIL's. She works, has her own place and a reliable ex-dh. It sounds like this child will be cared for and will know both parents. It's not the conventional arrangement, but this is a country where most kids DON'T live in a two parent home. This child is not the result of a one night stand and all kids have the same father. If it's financially possible, I would see if the MIL could stay in the bungalow house or try to buy a house with a guest house or garage apartment.

It's not accurate to say most American children don't live in a two-parent household. At least according to Census data:

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/21/us/21census.html?_r=0

Do you have something more recent than that?

The OP didn't come here asking a question. She just posted her situation and lamented that she'd have to give up on the dating scene. So, OP, what is it that you hoped to gain by posting here?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

OP here, my children are fine and I'm sure they are better than yours. In life eveything isn't for everybody and at times everything isn't always perfect. What works for us may not work for you. Now go sit out in the cold and freeze.

I don't know why everyone is being so hard on OP. Most of us admit that it would be difficult to live with our MIL's. She works, has her own place and a reliable ex-dh. It sounds like this child will be cared for and will know both parents. It's not the conventional arrangement, but this is a country where most kids DON'T live in a two parent home. This child is not the result of a one night stand and all kids have the same father. If it's financially possible, I would see if the MIL could stay in the bungalow house or try to buy a house with a guest house or garage apartment.

It's not accurate to say most American children don't live in a two-parent household. At least according to Census data:

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/21/us/21census.html?_r=0

Do you have something more recent than that?

The OP didn't come here asking a question. She just posted her situation and lamented that she'd have to give up on the dating scene. So, OP, what is it that you hoped to gain by posting here?

NP here. Who cares? OP isn't some teenage mother having a kid with a guy she barely knows and poor. There are plenty of unhappily married couples who have kids despite it not being the right decision.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.

You are so totally irresponsible it's not even funny. I feel sad for your children -- what little common sense you and your ex-husband have.

OP here, my children are fine and I'm sure they are better than yours. In life eveything isn't for everybody and at times everything isn't always perfect. What works for us may not work for you. Now go sit out in the cold and freeze.

I don't know why everyone is being so hard on OP. Most of us admit that it would be difficult to live with our MIL's. She works, has her own place and a reliable ex-dh. It sounds like this child will be cared for and will know both parents. It's not the conventional arrangement, but this is a country where most kids DON'T live in a two parent home. This child is not the result of a one night stand and all kids have the same father. If it's financially possible, I would see if the MIL could stay in the bungalow house or try to buy a house with a guest house or garage apartment.

It's not accurate to say most American children don't live in a two-parent household. At least according to Census data:

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/21/us/21census.html?_r=0

Do you have something more recent than that?

The OP didn't come here asking a question. She just posted her situation and lamented that she'd have to give up on the dating scene. So, OP, what is it that you hoped to gain by posting here?

NP here. Who cares? OP isn't some teenage mother having a kid with a guy she barely knows and poor. There are plenty of unhappily married couples who have kids despite it not being the right decision.

They're not married. They're divorced.

[Anonymous]

Come on, let's look at the bright side here, at least all her children will have the same father.