Pregnant by ex-DH

[Anonymous]

I don't know why others are beating up on you. I understand why you would hang out with an ex if he's not really done you wrong and is a good father. It sucks to have an unplanned pregnancy but understand why you're keeping it. It would totally suck, though, having to tell you parents and friends. I think THAT would be much hard than suffering through another pregnancy! Good luck to you and your family!

[Anonymous]

Hmmm, I'm also not getting the shade.

Four kids, same father & he is still in the picture, willing to co-parent? You are doing better than many.

[Anonymous]

So you are going to care for a newborn and 3 kids alone?

Ok. I think you should probably reconcile and work on improving your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, I'm also not getting the shade.

Four kids, same father & he is still in the picture, willing to co-parent? You are doing better than many.

THIS!

My DH and I have four kids too. I know several people that have four kids with three different partners and I think that sounds like a headache. If he's a good co-parent and you both agreed this is what you want, I think things will come together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, I'm also not getting the shade.

Four kids, same father & he is still in the picture, willing to co-parent? You are doing better than many.

THIS!

My DH and I have four kids too. I know several people that have four kids with three different partners and I think that sounds like a headache. If he's a good co-parent and you both agreed this is what you want, I think things will come together.

Plus, there is all that chemistry between you. After all you were only having sex with him.

I think some solid counseling and you all could be a great family. This new baby could bring all of you back together.

You need to have FRANK TALKS between the both of you. Discuss everything...there is something which did not get resolved that broke the marriage. Own it and confront it together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, I'm also not getting the shade.

Four kids, same father & he is still in the picture, willing to co-parent? You are doing better than many.

THIS!

My DH and I have four kids too. I know several people that have four kids with three different partners and I think that sounds like a headache. If he's a good co-parent and you both agreed this is what you want, I think things will come together.

Plus, there is all that chemistry between you. After all you were only having sex with him.

I think some solid counseling and you all could be a great family. This new baby could bring all of you back together.

You need to have FRANK TALKS between the both of you. Discuss everything...there is something which did not get resolved that broke the marriage. Own it and confront it together.

plus 1

[Anonymous]

OP, why did the two of you divorce?

[Anonymous]

OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.

[Anonymous]

[guardian]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.

Yikes! Where is the MIL? And who can afford 2 households with 4 children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[guardian]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.

Yikes! Where is the MIL? And who can afford 2 households with 4 children?

OP here, my MIL is with him in his 3 bedroom bungalow style home. We both have good jobs and I don't have him on child support, however we do split the cost on most things for the kids. I still use our joint credit card that he pays the bill for.

[Anonymous]

You should get an std test, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[guardian]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.

Yikes! Where is the MIL? And who can afford 2 households with 4 children?

OP here, my MIL is with him in his 3 bedroom bungalow style home. We both have good jobs and I don't have him on child support, however we do split the cost on most things for the kids. I still use our joint credit card that he pays the bill for.

Why couldn't he support her in a separate residence? What self-respecting grandma would prioritize herself over her grandkids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you are going to care for a newborn and 3 kids alone?

Ok. I think you should probably reconcile and work on improving your relationship.

Huh? She did state that she is pregnant by the father of her other 3 children. She's not exactly alone.

She also sounds quite well off. You can gather that much from reading the OPs posts critically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably not even his

+1! If I were DH's lawyer, I'd insist on a paternity test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not even his

+1! If I were DH's lawyer, I'd insist on a paternity test.

Why would he bother, he does not pay child support. The wife sounds wealthy on her own. He has nothing to gain, other than losing some money to probably find out it is his. This is an anonymous message board, the woman has no reason to lie.