DW dumped neighbors trash on their lawn. Now what do I have to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see how having a week's worth of beer bottles and pizza boxes sitting in front of your house might be a tad embarrassing for your wife. Especially if she's a health nut and avoids that stuff like the plague.

It's not just trash, it's humiliating trash, lol. And she doesn't want to be associated with that.. that sort of thing can lead to a reputation you know.

Are you the person who suggested checking the neighbor's recycling bin for an acceptable amount of beer and wine bottles, and if there are a lot your kids aren't allowed over there?

No, not me. I just know that some folks would not appreciate the appearance of having a habit that they do not have, kwim? But if this was a once a week, right before trash pick up thing with the OP's neighbors...so what. An every week thing might be a different story. Why aren't they throwing out their alcohol bottles/pizza boxes in their own bins?

Oops! I meant a one time thing or once in a blue moon sort of thing with the neighbors.

Also, even though I can see how this could possibly be annoying, OP's wife should have found a better way to handle this - dumping trash on the lawn was totally inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you are in Ffx Co you are paying for your trash and recyclables to be picked up, right? Your neighbors need to get their own bins. I'd be pissed too.

+1
Why don't they have thier own?
Why did the wait until your wife drove off and put the stuff in while she was gone? They should have asked her first. That was sneaky. They are the passive aggressive ones

+2

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how having extra recyclables in the recycling bin affected your wife's life in any way whatsoever.

In DC at least, the bins are way too small. My bin fills up days before my trash can does. (Obviously I agree the wife overracted, but I do think the neighbors were being obnoxious).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

Perhaps OP's wife and you should pair up. Let's see how long it takes for your happy new household to turn into Hunger Games-Fairfax edition.

[Anonymous]

My neighbors did this too. It bugged me because I have a tiny house and the recycling bin stays in the kitchen. I try to keep it very clean by rinsing everything before putting it in there. Which you are supposed to do anyway. And having my neighbors' stinky here dregs and sticky soda spills in there is not fun.

Instead of putting my bin out the night before, I do it just before pickup at 7am. Solved.

I'm in MoCo, so I'd order a few free bins online to be delivered to the neighbor's house. Not sure if you can do that in DC. And I'd apologize to the neighbors, and tell them their bins are on their way.

[Anonymous]

I for one think it was hilarious what your wife did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I for one think it was hilarious what your wife did.

I do too, but only because I'm neither her husband nor the neighbors.

[Anonymous]

What your wife did was immature.

To be fair, though, if you're traveling on business/away on work a lot, you may not be around to see what they do.

Is it really obnoxious stuff, like playing music at 1am, having loud fights in their yard, noise seeping through the walls at all times, having 20 people living in a single house, etc.?

Or is it moderately annoying stuff, like taking all the parking (and having to park two houses down sometimes), sticking to themselves all the time, etc.?

Putting trash in a bin is moderately annoying stuff, even if it filled up the bin for a week.

If it's stuff that'll get picked up later that morning, it's nothing at all.

Thing is, the former category is just bad news -- no matter the race/ethnicity.

If your wife exhibits an extra level of viciousness because of the neighbors' race/ethnicity, I don't know what to do. That's a much bigger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is psycho. How do you have any respect for her?

+1 Dump her. No pun intended. Her prejudice against Hispanics is the most offensive thing of all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

I understand the a neighbor can piss you off. But there ARE consequences to these types of actions. Unless you want a tit for tat with your neighbor, it is best to resolve diplomatically. Let me tell you some neighbor responses/vindictiveness that I have seen as an HOA mediation rep:

1. Having your guests' car towed because they accidentally parked in the wrong space;
2. Calling the County because you forgot to scoop Fido's poop one time ($100 fine);
3. Removing snow and placing it where you either cannot get out or you have to move it;
4. Blowing leaves onto your lawm;
5. Standing by passively while they could help - think someone breaking into your car and they witness it.

These neighbor wars can escalate and become very petty and bitter. Now, OP's wife has issues, but talking is always the best solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, our neighbors next door had a large party for Thanksgiving. They are an immigrant Hispanic family, and perhaps for this reason alone my DW does not get along with them. In any case, I am a go along to get along kind of guy. In any case, DW tells me this morning she takes out the trash to the curb for pickup, takes my DD to school and when she returns finds that the neighbors have dumped their trash - pizza boxes, beer bottles, etc. - into our recyclables bin. So, DW proceeds to take the trash out and dump it on the neighbors lawn. So, the neighbors were in the wrong to put their trash in our bins - and I honestly did not have a chance to talk to them about it since it all occurred after I departed for work - but I feel it was equally wrong for my DW to react the way she did. So, now I have to come home and rather than talk with neighbors who might otherwise be reasonable and open I will have to deal with pissed off people who feel that my DW treated them poorly. Am in the wrong in this?

No you are not wrong. From the way you described your wife she has race issues? Hopefully it was there trash.
In any instance you now need to back up your wife. At least in public. In private you need to get her to understand how wrong this was and how that jeopardizes your relationship with people who will be there a long time... He needs to know it's not ok to endanger the safety and peace of your communal home. It's just not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

+1. I would do the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you are in Ffx Co you are paying for your trash and recyclables to be picked up, right? Your neighbors need to get their own bins. I'd be pissed too.

+1
Why don't they have thier own?
Why did the wait until your wife drove off and put the stuff in while she was gone? They should have asked her first. That was sneaky. They are the passive aggressive ones

+2

My Spanish speaking friends will be the FIRST ones to tell you how sneaky they are! OP, stay out of it. This is between your wife and them. No, she does not have to like them. She doesn't even have to talk to them, nor do you. They sound like a&&holes.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell the neighbors unless they get their own recycling bin, I will charge them for half my recycling bill. Your wife did nothing wrong. I would have done much much worse. It's a neighborhood not the ghetto barrio.