DW dumped neighbors trash on their lawn. Now what do I have to do?

[Anonymous]

So, our neighbors next door had a large party for Thanksgiving. They are an immigrant Hispanic family, and perhaps for this reason alone my DW does not get along with them. In any case, I am a go along to get along kind of guy. In any case, DW tells me this morning she takes out the trash to the curb for pickup, takes my DD to school and when she returns finds that the neighbors have dumped their trash - pizza boxes, beer bottles, etc. - into our recyclables bin. So, DW proceeds to take the trash out and dump it on the neighbors lawn. So, the neighbors were in the wrong to put their trash in our bins - and I honestly did not have a chance to talk to them about it since it all occurred after I departed for work - but I feel it was equally wrong for my DW to react the way she did. So, now I have to come home and rather than talk with neighbors who might otherwise be reasonable and open I will have to deal with pissed off people who feel that my DW treated them poorly. Am in the wrong in this?

[Anonymous]

Well, I agree with you. It was passive aggressive of her. She would have been better off talking to them or leaving them a note requesting they don't do that. You're right, it sounds like she's already made up her mind that she doesn't accept them.

[Anonymous]

Did she dump it as in place it or did she dump it as in strew it? I don't get why your wife cared if the recyclables were about to be picked up and there was room in your recycling bin -- why can't they add their recyclables? I think your wife was way wrong, and all you can do is apologize and offer to help clean it up (if it's still there). Find out from your wife what her problems are with the neighbors and try to address them with her. Otherwise she might unleash the crazy again.

[Anonymous]

Why did they use your bins instead of their own?

But yes, your wife sounds like a piece of work. Man up and put her in her place. If I were you, I would make her go back over to that yard and pick up every piece of trash while you stand over her and supervise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, our neighbors next door had a large party for Thanksgiving. They are an immigrant Hispanic family, and perhaps for this reason alone my DW does not get along with them. In any case, I am a go along to get along kind of guy. In any case, DW tells me this morning she takes out the trash to the curb for pickup, takes my DD to school and when she returns finds that the neighbors have dumped their trash - pizza boxes, beer bottles, etc. - into our recyclables bin. So, DW proceeds to take the trash out and dump it on the neighbors lawn. So, the neighbors were in the wrong to put their trash in our bins - and I honestly did not have a chance to talk to them about it since it all occurred after I departed for work - but I feel it was equally wrong for my DW to react the way she did. So, now I have to come home and rather than talk with neighbors who might otherwise be reasonable and open I will have to deal with pissed off people who feel that my DW treated them poorly. Am in the wrong in this?

She sounds awesome.

You feel it was "equally wrong" to (i) put recyclables into a recyclables bin (albeit not theirs) and (ii) dump said recyclables on someone's lawn? It's not. The dumping is worse. YOU aren't in the wrong (other than your apparent acceptance of a recist spouse) but she sure as hell is.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, I am not around for the next two days, as I am on a business trip.

I have actually gone over to those same neighbors a few times to talk to them about things and they have been reasonable. However, my wife objects to my "trying to be friends with them."

I said, "Look, you don't need to like them. But they are our neighbors and you need to figure out how you are at least going to get along."

[Anonymous]

Okay, here's the situation:

1. Your wife is a bigot.
2. Your wife overreacted (that's putting it mildly) to an unknown situation in which she had no idea what had occurred -- whether there was a misunderstanding, emergency, or intervention by a third party (does she even know they did it?).
3. Your wife is a psycho bitch.

I can't imagine being in your shoes. Apologize, clean up their lawn, and dissaciate yourself from future "episodes" as much as possible

[Anonymous]

And, I actually want a divorce from said DW for just such over-the-top behavior!

[Anonymous]

Can you, from your business trip, pay a neighborhood teen to clean this up?

[Anonymous]

Not going down the racist path. But wife is way out of line. Predict stormy relations with neighbors going forward.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Ok what's the big deal about putting recycleables in your bin. It's not like you're going to get a bill for it. As for your wife, all I can say is good luck. I could not live with someone like her.

[Anonymous]

Your wife is psycho. How do you have any respect for her?

[Anonymous]

Buena suerte, amigo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you, from your business trip, pay a neighborhood teen to clean this up?

I could pay my DD to go over and clean it up. My wife is such a b***h. She pulls all sorts of s**t like this all the time. I think she does it to f**k up my life.