Ex boyfriend asking for pictures....

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++ can't fix stupid

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that you are angry with this woman for "ruining your relationship", but it's really not her fault. She was not the one who made a commitment to you and then broke that commitment. While it would be nice if she had the integrity to say "No, I will not get involved with you because you're in a relationship", that's less important than his broken commitment.

I've also seen this movie before. Here's how it goes. Two people are in a relationship for a long time. One of those people, for whatever reasons, decides that they are not invested in that relationship, or that they are bored by it, or whatever, and starts seeing someone else. The betrayed lover finds out, ends relationship. At first, everyone is fine. The betrayed lover is righteously angry and heartbroken, has mean bitter thoughts about the cheater and goes through a phase where all their friends are making "Honey, you're better off without him" noises. The cheater is blissfully happy in new relationship with exciting new arm charm. Months go by and arm charm becomes just as boring as the girlfriend he cheated on with her. The betrayed lover starts remembering the good times. The former couple starts talking again, and they end up in their old dynamic. Of COURSE he's asking you to send pictures "like you used to". Of COURSE he'll "take care of it" before you come out to visit him. Except he won't. His sneaking out to call you to say good night makes me think that he'll tell you that only this one weekend will work for your visit, and when you get there, voila, the house is empty! His girlfriend has moved out! Except she won't have moved out. It'll be the weekend she's gone to her cousin's wedding, which he begs off going to because he "has to work" or something else.

You'll become the woman you are angry with, who will call you saying "He's in a relationship with me!" and you "won't care" just like she didn't care a year and a half ago. You'll think that you and this guy have finally, truly, worked out all your issues and are headed to a happy life together, right up until the point where he starts getting distant again, where he is disappearing late at night to have secret phone conversations, where you find faceless naked pictures of women that are not you on his cell phone.

And the worst thing? The reason why pretty much everyone responding to you on this thread has thrown up their hands? You know that this is what's going to happen, and you're going to make it happen anyway.

OP here: the thing is that I have ZERO interest in getting back together with him. Yes, there are still some feelings there but a lot happened in our relationship to make me not want that again. We were together for almost 6 years so I think there will always be feelings there.

Also, I truly do feel like she ruined him and I. YES, it is his fault also..more then hers....however, when I found out about her, I was willing to work through it. We tried for a month and I couldn't get past that. I was there when he called her saying that him and I were together and he couldn't talk to her. I was also there all the times she kept texting and calling him asking for him to "just please respond". She knew that he was with me and that we were trying to work on things but she wouldn't give up. I blame her for us officially ending after that month.

Also, I know it makes me sound like a horrible person but I can't be the only one who has these thoughts and happiness. I mean, sure he has a gf now that he "left me for" but she's clearly not making him happy and that makes me feel pretty darn good after what she did to me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, be sure to turn down the guys near you that are interested in you. You'll be well on your way to loving your cats, or maybe marrying the first guy with a pulse that isn't broke and can string together coherent sentences at 37.

OP here: good thing I hate cats.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: the thing is that I have ZERO interest in getting back together with him. Yes, there are still some feelings there but a lot happened in our relationship to make me not want that again. We were together for almost 6 years so I think there will always be feelings there.

Also, I truly do feel like she ruined him and I. YES, it is his fault also..more then hers....however, when I found out about her, I was willing to work through it. We tried for a month and I couldn't get past that. I was there when he called her saying that him and I were together and he couldn't talk to her. I was also there all the times she kept texting and calling him asking for him to "just please respond". She knew that he was with me and that we were trying to work on things but she wouldn't give up. I blame her for us officially ending after that month.

Also, I know it makes me sound like a horrible person but I can't be the only one who has these thoughts and happiness. I mean, sure he has a gf now that he "left me for" but she's clearly not making him happy and that makes me feel pretty darn good after what she did to me.

I don't know why I am bothering.

You do not have "zero" interest. If you had "zero" interest, you would not be entertaining the idea of going to see him, period. You would not be considering sending him NAKED PICTURES. Be honest with yourself abotu your feelings.

If you were willing to work things out when you found out about her, and you were unable to do that, then YOU are more responsible for your break up than she was. Order of responsibility goes like this: him (for doing the cheating), you (for saying you'd work it out and being unable to do that) and then her (for being essentially in the wrong place at the wrong time). He could have blocked her number. He did not do that. If he had really wanted her to leave him alone, there are ways to make that happen. Personally, I recommend that YOU exercise some of those ways now - block his number with your cell phone company, delete him on whatever social media you use, DO NOT CONTACT HIM.

You are entitled to your feelings of pleasure in someone else's unhappiness, buit it doesn't make it a good idea for you to remain in contact with someone who betrayed you this way. If you feel like fantasizing about ruining her life the way that she ruined yours will help you to heal and move on, then by all means, fantasize away. What you are doing right now goes a step further and I would strongly encourage you to break off all contact with this man.

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OP, I have been in a similar position and you need to know that he doesn't want you- or he would be with you.

But he can use you, so he is... if you weren't responding to him, he would find the next best thing- you are not special to him in any way you are just readily available and willing to send picks. PLEASE listen to the posters on this board who are trying to point out how low you must see yourself to be holding onto these shit stick leftovers from your ex is dishing out to you because he can... because you let him.

Show some respect for yourself cause he hasn't- in years it seems. Good luck to you in sorting this out for yourself, staying involved in anyway with this guy is toxic for you...

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Anonymous wrote:Oh lord. I'm stepping away from this thread.

She's just baiting.

+1

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OP - Do you not see that his MO is to cheat on his current gf. nothing more and nothing else you need to know. When the relationship gets hard, stale, boring, whatever word you want to use - he turns to another woman OUTSIDE of the relationship. He did that to you, he's doing that to her and I would bet my entire life's savings that he will do it to his next gf - whether or not it's you. That's what he does! If you can't see that, than you will be sad for the majority of your relationship.

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He went to a dating site when we was with you--BEFORE he met her. He didn't want to be with you then, and he doesn't want to be with you now--he just wants naked pictures of you. Have a little respect for yourself.

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Op here- He left her!!!! And I found the Zales receipt!! He does love me!!! I was right losers!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- He left her!!!! And I found the Zales receipt!! He does love me!!! I was right losers!!!

Nice try troll. i feel bad that you obviously have such a sad life that you get pleasure and joy from trolling here. It is pretty pathetic.

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xoxo

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Silly troll. Silly silly obvious.

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Are you the same one who was on her older sister's computer and Jeff threatened to block the IP address but you begged him not to since your sister would be mad? lol. I just feel bad for you Op. Do you not have friends, a spouse/SO, a family, or even a job that gives you joy?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the same one who was on her older sister's computer and Jeff threatened to block the IP address but you begged him not to since your sister would be mad? lol. I just feel bad for you Op. Do you not have friends, a spouse/SO, a family, or even a job that gives you joy?

OP here: no, that's not me. If I remember correctly, she was posting a lot in the nanny forum and I saw the thread where she got called out. That's not me and you are more then welcome to ask Jeff. Also, I have a 12 year old sister not an older one.

I came on here for advice. It's sad that you feel the need to be a cyber bully and sit behind your computer being anonymous and being a bit**.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- He left her!!!! And I found the Zales receipt!! He does love me!!! I was right losers!!!

OP here: hey, if you are going to attempt to be me, at least make sense. He lives in Texas now and I'm over 18 hours drive away.