Ex boyfriend asking for pictures....

[Anonymous]

So my ex and I broke up about a year and a half ago ( we dated for 5 years prior to that). We have stayed friends and have become closer over the last 6 months. We talk 2-3 times a day and yes, I do still have SOME feelings.

Dilemma: he has a girlfriend that he's been with since about 2 months after him and I broke up and He just moved to TX for a job and she moved with him for graduate school. Over the last couple of weeks, he will text me asking me to send him "pictures" like I "used to". I'll ask him "what about your gf?" And he will tell me that she doesn't matter. What gives?'!?! Some of my friends think that he's not fully satisfied in his relationship with her but idk!! Like I said, we talk daily and he calls me every night before he goes to sleep to say goodnight to me (he will sneak outside to do this). I'm not sure what to think!

[Anonymous]

He's a scumbag. Move on and find a good guy.

[Anonymous]

If it were me, and it wouldn't be because I'm not into drama and therefore wouldn't be chatting daily with an ex, I would stop communicating with him. You were together, it didn't work out, and now this (in my opinion, unhealthy) attention is keeping you from meeting someone new. You may say it isn't keeping you from that, but I'd bet it is.

If the gf is in grad school maybe she doesn't have as much time as she once did to attend to this guy. That's my take, and why you're hearing from him so much. But it doesn't change the fact that things didn't work out with you guys prior to the current gf being in the picture. He sounds very immature.

[Anonymous]

1st paragraph is not meant to be snarky (it comes off a bit snarky)

[Anonymous]

Have you asked him directly? This sounds like a classic case of eating your cake and having it too. If you haven't reconciled your relationship after 1.5 years apart, chances are, dude doesn't want to get back together. But since you are still providing that "emotional -soon to be physical- cake", he will be a fool to turn it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, and it wouldn't be because I'm not into drama and therefore wouldn't be chatting daily with an ex, I would stop communicating with him. You were together, it didn't work out, and now this (in my opinion, unhealthy) attention is keeping you from meeting someone new. You may say it isn't keeping you from that, but I'd bet it is.

If the gf is in grad school maybe she doesn't have as much time as she once did to attend to this guy. That's my take, and why you're hearing from him so much. But it doesn't change the fact that things didn't work out with you guys prior to the current gf being in the picture. He sounds very immature.

+1

[Anonymous]

Are we talking "naughty" pictures?

[Anonymous]

Why did you break up after dating for 5 years?

[Anonymous]

Gross. Hope your next guy is an adult.

[Anonymous]

Jesus. You know better and you came here to find validation (and you have from some PPs) to go through with it.

It's your life, do what you want, but don't complain when you're dumped or find yourself being the other woman in a twisted relationship with this guy.

[Anonymous]

Are you around 12? If not, this is a no-brainer. He's using you.

[Anonymous]

You need to grow up. Stop talking to him. He is in a relationship with someone. And even if he weren't by proving he is willing to cheat on her, he has proven he is not a good guy. Surely you can do better. If he'll cheat on her, he'll cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

You know, t's really a bummer to hear about this kind of behavior from men, but it's worse when women actually buy into it.

Come on, OP. New GF who moved with him for graduate school "doesn't matter"? What a cruel thing for him to say.

[Anonymous]

Wonder what he plans on doing with those pictures? Posting them online? Sending them to friends?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year and a half. We have been good friends and our relationship has been getting stronger over the last 6 months. We talk on and off all day, and I really love him. I think he's the one.

Dilemma: I just moved to TX for graduate school with him. Over the last couple of weeks, he has become more distant. I knew he'd been reaching out to his ex--they were together like 5 years, but it's been over since before we got together. Last night, I saw his messages on his phone (left out on the table) with him asking her to send "pictures" like she "used to." I feel like I don't matter to him! We usually have a great sex life, but we've been a little stressed out with the move and our new job and grad program. I'm even starting to realize that at night before bed, when I thought he was going out to have a smoke, he's probably been calling her! I'm not sure what to think?

He's a slime ball, right? And so is she--she knows he's in a committed relationship with me. Maybe they do deserve each other.