Non-Ivy chip on shoulder

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks a lot and I know I sounded like an idiot. Yeah I'm 23 year old white male, and I guess it seems like a more recent and important experience (college) so my peers and I are still in that mentality.

Really good to read these responses. Thanks.

What on earth are you doing on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks a lot and I know I sounded like an idiot. Yeah I'm 23 year old white male, and I guess it seems like a more recent and important experience (college) so my peers and I are still in that mentality.

Really good to read these responses. Thanks.

What on earth are you doing on DCUM?

There are a lot of 20-something single yuppies on this forum. I came here a year ago and had no idea it was a parenting forum. I just found a thread on google, thought it was interesting, looked at the rest of the forum, and stayed around.

[Anonymous]

SOOO many posts about how much people spend/waste on an Ivy League education. My Ivy League school was/is cheaper than most private schools, gives extremely generous financial aid, and after 4 years of a fantastic education, I left without debt (and none for my parents). However, now partly thanks to my great education, I make too much money for my kids to get financial aid. Top private schools have far more generous financial aid than even most public schools. I was lower middle class, public school educated, and still felt accepted and happy at my Ivy (it helped that for the first time, no one ostracized me for being a smart nerd!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know what, OP? Maybe you should go to an Ivy B-school, because then you will see that the Ivies aren't the magical places you are imagining them to be.

Seriously, though, the longer you are out of college the less it matter where you attended. You are judged far more on your accomplishments -- what you did with your degree and who you are as a person. Remember that.

This. I went to an Ivy, I held a highly-recognized name scholarship, and my guess is that at least ten percent of my classmates were mental defectives and/or budding addiction cases of some flavor or another. Having lived here for a number of years, I have met a huge number of alums of two particular smaller VA publics who are more clever, better-functioning, and more impressive than most of my Ivy classmates.

[Anonymous]

I have to be honest though, Ivies do clump together, at a function 2 women discovered they both went to the same Ivy, and off to the races they were. I, a state school grad, was speechless. I also admit I steer my kids away from Ivies. I have a big Chip........

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the problem is that you are young and your world view is small. This happens to all of us. We tend to compare ourselves with those we know- our friends, our neighbors, our coworkers. If you get out of your circle and travel the country or the world or even just read a lot about how others live you will not feel this any longer. You will realize this as you get older too. Once you get past that first job and have worked for different places you realize no one cares or asks where you went to college.

This is great advice. I moved into a neighborhood where many of my neighbors are janitors and security guards. You realize that people who work hard and care for their families deserve respect regardless of whether they went to a top college or not -- or even went to college at all.[/quotte

You are beautiful

[Anonymous]

I think you need to google how many CEO's of several top companies didn't even go to college or dropped out! That might shed some light on truly how miniscule the college name is, in the end it's about what you are doing NOW.

My own husband graduated from a respectable state school, his brother a top Ivy, his brother is an "aspiring writer" and programmer who makes a decent living but nothing out of this world, my husband however had the fire in his belly and went onto start his own very successful company which was bought out last year. Let me tell you not once does he think that he is less than because he doesn't have an Ivy degree. Sure at the time he felt a little inferior but its so much more about progressing and moving on and seeing what you are doing with your life NOW. Don't look back, it will impede you, charge ahead and seize the day and show those Ivies what you are capable of!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to google how many CEO's of several top companies didn't even go to college or dropped out! That might shed some light on truly how miniscule the college name is, in the end it's about what you are doing NOW.

Yes, because your college drop-out kid can be the next Zuckerberg or Gates, too!

[Anonymous]

I like 9:45. Either you have snobby friends or you are imagining this. I went to harvard undergrad and law but I sure don't hang out with other harvard people nor can I list the Ivies. I don't advertise it. Usually other people are surprised because they think I'm "just a mom". Welcome to sexism. But, really, this isn't normal behavior or you are misperceiving something.