Rich husband or successful career?

[Anonymous]

Women who depend on a man for finances are fools. Go to the relationship forum and see how many women are putting off leaving their cheating abusive husbands because they have no cash. I wouldn't want that for my daughter.

[Anonymous]

The career, plus a nice husband who also had a career. With all the money we earned, we could outsource everything we really didn't want to do.

I don't like the idea of being dependent on a man. It would make me feel like a kid again, waiting for my allowance, not feeling able to call the shots.

[Anonymous]

I actually faced this decision and chose the rich husband, then mommy-tracked.

If I could do it all over again I would take the career. It wasn't until I mommy-tracked that my husband became controlling and lazy in the household. When we were earning the same he was very helpful and egalitarian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not going to lie - rich husband. Never had ambition. Went to college because it's what you are supposed to do. Work because I can't have mony otherwise.

This, exactly.

[Anonymous]

Rich husband. I love my not high paying job.

[Anonymous]

In theory---I'd take the very, rich husband.

In reality--DH makes a very HHI (think $400k) and I kept my day job. I WAH and it is flexible. My parents drilled into my siblings and I to always keeps some form of income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually faced this decision and chose the rich husband, then mommy-tracked.

If I could do it all over again I would take the career. It wasn't until I mommy-tracked that my husband became controlling and lazy in the household. When we were earning the same he was very helpful and egalitarian.

My mother's experience exactly. Sorry to hear it, but this is why I'll always work full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not going to lie - rich husband. Never had ambition. Went to college because it's what you are supposed to do. Work because I can't have mony otherwise.

This, exactly.

You are lazy. We get it.

[Anonymous]

It makes for a better marriage to have a high earner and the other parent do most everything else. Most of the women that complain on this forum are resentful because things they work+do everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IRL I chose the rich husband. It's a really great life! no stress.

Unless he leaves you, or you want to leave him.

We don't believe in divorce.

I don't believe in cancer. But it keeps afflicting friends and family members. Go figure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you rather have a very rich husband which allowed you to stay at home or have your own very successful, high-paying career that you enjoyed and were highly regarded and respected? (Children are school-age)

I like rich husband + successful career. Actually, I have that now. And I love it.

[Anonymous]

This assumes that the husband is rich when you "pick" him. Mine was a struggling student when we met. We both worked for years. Now he makes seven figures and I am a SAHM. It's not what we planned but we're happy.

[Anonymous]

I chose rich husband for $1m. Still growing strong. All those vacations and luxury cars just so dull but I try not to complaIn ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In theory---I'd take the very, rich husband.

In reality--DH makes a very HHI (think $400k) and I kept my day job. I WAH and it is flexible. My parents drilled into my siblings and I to always keeps some form of income.

I think I want a similar set up . I have a very flexible job but very low income. I am planning on making more money/investing more time into career when DC gets older, but If DH made more money I'd keep my current job.

[Anonymous]

Successful career. I'm not rich of anything but by the end of the year I will out-earn DH by a bit. It's a nice feeling.