Allotting rooms at beach house - should aunt have to share room with four year old?

[Anonymous]

OP, just a guess, but is this your sister's house? Not that it makes a lick of difference - her position is absurd - but it's really the only thing I can come up with that could lead to her thinking this way.

If it's not her house, then she's self-absorbed to a staggering level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in the right, but we can post here all day that we agree with you; that won't help you make the case with the stubborn sibling.

Would she listen to your parents or the sensible sibling on this? It sounds as if she is not going to listen to you. (I'm sorry if she has a bad case of "the single sibling should do what the married one wants" -- it's a nasty condition some siblings develop.)

I would let her know that the other sibling has agreed to the two-rooms-per-family arrangement for the parents with kids and that if the issue is that her kids can't get along or keep each other up, well, she and her husband can have one child sleep with them as others note. You have a right to sleep (if not sleep in, at least sleep restfully) on your vacation. But none of this will go over well coming from you, unfortunately. I would try to enlist the others to tell her she needs to deal with things.

Sadly, if you get that room to yourself, I bet she makes the rest of the vacation a pain for you by dropping snarky comments and mentioning how tired she is all the time, or blaming her kids' crankiness on the fact that they had to sleep in the same room, etc. Smile and ignore her. She sounds just lovely.

I agree with this. But forewarned is forearmed. Smile, ignore, pour wine and go relax on the porch.

Screw that - give it right back to her. "Really? I slept great. So much space!"

[Anonymous]

stay strong, op. i am the pp who said your sister is the primadonna of the family. not surprising that your mom told you to give in to hbirther to keep the peace. your mom has probably been avoiding her high maintenance tantrums since birth while everyone else has to stay calm and easy going so princess wont get upset. btdt, i too am the easy going sister, dont let her get away with it. if there is lack of peace, it is her fault, not yours.

[Anonymous]

It is your vacation too.

Your Sister is unrerasonable. If your mom wants to save the peace- put the niece on a blow up mattress in the floor in her room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is your vacation too.

Your Sister is unrerasonable. If your mom wants to save the peace- put the niece on a blow up mattress in the floor in her room.

Awesome. This is brilliant. OP--please say this to your mom when she "coaches" you let the nephew sleep in your room just to keep the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Why can't her kids share a room, or, if they can't share, why can't one parent sleep with one kid and another parent with the other kid? She said that since I am single i don't need my own room. ?????

Maybe the issue is that the siblings keep each other from falling asleep at night. One solution is to separate the siblings for falling asleep, then an adult carries the sleeping child back to his/her bed later in the evening.

No, I think the issue is more likely that the siblings' parents see an opportunity to have the sex while foisting the care of their children onto other adults at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Why can't her kids share a room, or, if they can't share, why can't one parent sleep with one kid and another parent with the other kid? She said that since I am single i don't need my own room. ?????

Maybe the issue is that the siblings keep each other from falling asleep at night. One solution is to separate the siblings for falling asleep, then an adult carries the sleeping child back to his/her bed later in the evening.

No, I think the issue is more likely that the siblings' parents see an opportunity to have the sex while foisting the care of their children onto other adults at night.

BINGO!!

[Anonymous]

Here is a link to a toddler Aerobed.

It is great b/c there is a lip on the sides so the child does not roll out of bed.

http://www.amazon.com/AeroBed-sleep-tight-inflatble-beds/dp/B00006IV33/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1372597054&sr=8-2&keywords=toddler+air+mattress

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Why can't her kids share a room, or, if they can't share, why can't one parent sleep with one kid and another parent with the other kid? She said that since I am single i don't need my own room. ?????

Maybe the issue is that the siblings keep each other from falling asleep at night. One solution is to separate the siblings for falling asleep, then an adult carries the sleeping child back to his/her bed later in the evening.

No, I think the issue is more likely that the siblings' parents see an opportunity to have the sex while foisting the care of their children onto other adults at night.

Yes, we have a winner here!!!

[Anonymous]

This sounds like something my sister would try to do... Stand your ground and remind her YOU don't have children and your not going to play mom to hers... They can stay with her or in the livingroom but don't let them be your problem. It's tough love, but she needs to learn to parent and not delegate responsibility to other family members.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, just a guess, but is this your sister's house? Not that it makes a lick of difference - her position is absurd - but it's really the only thing I can come up with that could lead to her thinking this way.

If it's not her house, then she's self-absorbed to a staggering level.

No, my guess is that this is a relative's house--an aunt or an uncle. No one in this immediate family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, just a guess, but is this your sister's house? Not that it makes a lick of difference - her position is absurd - but it's really the only thing I can come up with that could lead to her thinking this way.

If it's not her house, then she's self-absorbed to a staggering level.

In complete agreement with everything you've said here.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree you shouldn't put up with this. BUT it could be a great bonding experience with the niece. Don't take it out on the kid if it comes to that.

[Anonymous]

Your sister is completely wrong, OP.

Her kids. Her problem.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Nope, it's an extended family member's house (who will not be on trip).

And is agree, I would never take this out on my niece.