Allotting rooms at beach house - should aunt have to share room with four year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Got to house early, claimed a decent room, mom of kids tried to tell four year old to put her stuff in my room. Before I could even say anything, kids said, "nooo!" they wanted to share a room with other kids. hah! I spoke up then and said, yes, that seems like it would make more sense. my parents, in a rare move, actually agreed with me. thanks for the support, I appreciate it!

Wow! Your sister is BOLD. Glad your parents supported you though. Sounds like it was about time. Thanks for the update!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the update - glad everything worked out and that your parents came through for you this time.

[Anonymous]

Happy that it all worked out, but I do wish you had gotten the chance to call your sister an entitled bitch.

Jus kidding. Sort of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering, a bit off topic, but why is a single woman in DC Urban Moms?

FWIW, a lot of my single friend-leagues post here because I tell them it is a great place to go to solicit advice/opinions on topics that have nothing to do with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just stunned that a parent would even make a request like that. At those ages the entire family should be able to make ONE room work for them if they have to. Two rooms are a luxury....and they aren't even paying rent. Wow.

Look, I never liked bunking with my kids when they were infants/toddlers, so if it had been that situation, I could have imagined hoping that my sibling would volunteer to sleep with the wee one(s). But I would have never insisted. FWIW, the entitled sibling here sounds exactly like my SIL. She has made many similar demands on various family outings, once even insisting that her friends and parents bunk in the same house while she and her family got the other house in the compound - and there was no compelling reason for that to happen except she did not want to bunk with her parents. And her parents assented to it. She sprung it on her friends when they pulled in the driveway. Oy.

[Anonymous]

Once the children are a certain age, there is NO WAY they would want to share a room with their parents!

Should the children be expected to stand up to whomever is wronging them at this age, believing family would initially do the right thing?

Some families are rude and appalling, that is just how they are and they will never change.

My friend's MIL rented a beach house that was WAY TOO SMALL for how many people she invited. To top it off, my friend (married with two grown children) was given the smallest room for FOUR people, while the SIL (2 people total) TOOK the LARGEST room. Everyone suffered, and guests either left early or flat out refused to stay the whole week.

My friends are more than happy to pitch in for a larger house, but why should they be the only ones when the siblings all have steady, well paying jobs? Why should it be on one sibling to contribute to a vacation they do not feel necessary?

I can kind of see my friends point. Her vacation time is limited. And they go on this so called vacation to please the elderly parent. But really, this could go on for ten more years and my friend would be sacrificing her limited vacation time (every single year) by either partially paying for the greedy SIL (who "has" to go to this particular place); or by "sucking it up" and taking the smallest, darkest room with four people.

I think my friends days of supplementing the SILs good life is OVER, as she has been more than generous to her family and this is the "thanks" she gets.

[Anonymous]

^Your friend is expected to share a teeny, dark room with her husband and two grown (adult?) children?

[Anonymous]

PP here. Almost adult. The couches were taken. The floors were actually taken, too. One person slept on a pool table. I think I recall this sort of thing happening in our 20's while in a sorority. Which is one thing. But when you are grown with a family, it is quite another.

I keep promising my friend we will all (there are a few families that rent their own houses, independent of friends MIL, thankfully) rent houses NEXT to each other so she will have a place to go and people can be (GASP!) spread out and have their OWN (double gasp!) space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Almost adult. The couches were taken. The floors were actually taken, too. One person slept on a pool table. I think I recall this sort of thing happening in our 20's while in a sorority. Which is one thing. But when you are grown with a family, it is quite another.

I keep promising my friend we will all (there are a few families that rent their own houses, independent of friends MIL, thankfully) rent houses NEXT to each other so she will have a place to go and people can be (GASP!) spread out and have their OWN (double gasp!) space.

Honestly, I think I would have slept in a tent in the back yard before I would have shared a room like that w/my parents as an older teen. No way. Actually, come to think of it, I have slept in a tent before when we were dealing with lots of people, small house.

[Anonymous]

I like the tent idea. PP here. Come to think of it, I'm not much of a camper, and it was over 100 degrees out with 100% humidity, about 90/90 during the day, so are there other options?