Am I being a "martyr"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, she's not a step child, why? She loves the kids and they love her! The kids are her half brothers and sisters though as they do not have the same dad and I am a single mom.

I just need support sometimes and I do not appreciate the attitude DD gives me sometimes about her responsibilities in this household.

Case and point, the other day DD wanted to go to the mall with a friend. I told her yes but she had to take the 2 DCs with her (2mos and 19 mos). She pitched a fit yelling at me about how she's "entitled" to free time without the kids. I told her she was being disrespectful and I wouldn't stand for it. She actually said "entitled"! Long story short, she ended up taking the kids with her and having a nice day with them at the mall. Like I have stated before, she is being a self centered brat, but I guess that is to be expected from a teenager.

OP, you had me until this post. Good try. I'm moving on...

[Anonymous]

Wow, ok. There is one person who is acting entitled here and it is not your responsible 17 year old.

Yes, at 17, with no kids of her own, she is entitled to her own life - with family responsibilities, too. But it sounds as if 1) you don't appreciate how great you have it with her and 2) you dont' allow her to have her time outside of family responsibilities.

SHE didn't make the choice to be a single parent of many children with multiple fathers.

And it sounds like she has her act together more than you do - you were stressed when you took one child into the exam room. She dealt with 4 kids on her own. Even if you accept the premise that you have laid out - that she has these family responsibilities - given how much she does for you, yes, you were being the brat and she was the mature one.

You rely on her too much - let her be a kid sometimes and you be the calm adult in the room.

[Anonymous]

Your poor, poor eldest DD. I predict she'll move across the country from you and remain childfree.

[Anonymous]

How many different fathers? Any guesses?

*gets out stirring stick*

[Anonymous]

OKAY! FINE! we have addressed that it wasn't the best idea to take all the kids to the doctor's office. I am sorry! You don't need to hang me for it!

[Anonymous]

This is clearly a troll because it's just too ridiculous.

How is your boyfriend with the two felonies, btw? Still borrowing money from you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again, I was not aware of them going to the playground until after her little meltdown calling me a martyr, one of the kids said "mommy we went to the swings"

Uh, you wrote that she was being pissy about being in the waiting room for two hours a half hour ago. You also wrote that DD is home with the kids. So why would you present an inaccurate story other than that you were lying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, she's not a step child, why? She loves the kids and they love her! The kids are her half brothers and sisters though as they do not have the same dad and I am a single mom.

I just need support sometimes and I do not appreciate the attitude DD gives me sometimes about her responsibilities in this household.

Case and point, the other day DD wanted to go to the mall with a friend. I told her yes but she had to take the 2 DCs with her (2mos and 19 mos). She pitched a fit yelling at me about how she's "entitled" to free time without the kids. I told her she was being disrespectful and I wouldn't stand for it. She actually said "entitled"! Long story short, she ended up taking the kids with her and having a nice day with them at the mall. Like I have stated before, she is being a self centered brat, but I guess that is to be expected from a teenager.

You truly have got to be a troll. You are a single mom with two baby daddies and 6 kids, and you expect your 17 year old to serve in the role of the other parent that you have failed to keep around. Sorry if it hurts, but that is the truth. You are a nightmare, lady. Good luck with all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many different fathers? Any guesses?

*gets out stirring stick*

OP here, WHY DOES IT MATTER TO YOU?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many different fathers? Any guesses?

*gets out stirring stick*

OP here, WHY DOES IT MATTER TO YOU?

The better to judge you with, my dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teenage (17) DD said that to me today. I have 6 kids, my 17 yr old is the eldest and she is awesome about helping to raise the littles. Today I had a doctors appointment for the 19 month old, DD (17) is on summer vacation already so she has been helping with the younger ones while I work (until my vacation starts on June 14th). Anyway, she got the four kids dressed and fed this morning and loaded them into the car to go to the doctor's appt, I drove us to the office. While there, she said once, "why did we have to come? I could have stayed at home with the kids?". She was being pissy because she had to entertain the 4 (that were not being seen by the Dr) in the waiting room for 2 hours.

When we came out, the kids were all rambunctious and I was saying how I was extremely stressed out. DD, then said something along the lines of, "Mom, stop being a martyr, you wouldn't be so stressed if you didn't insist on taking 5 extra people to an appointment". I told her that she was being unsupportive and rude to me. We haven't spoken since this morning, she is at home with the kids. If it matters, DD often cares for the kids by doing things like baths, bed, dinner, morning routine etc. and she drives them to activities and school.

I guess I just don't understand how I was being a "martyr" when I was genuinely stressed out? Is DD just being a brat?

OMG, this is such a fake post. First of all, if you're seriously thinking your DD917) is being a brat, you wouldn't spend 2 paragraphs going into detail about all the things she does for you. You wouldn't say SHE got them dressed, fed, loaded in the car. You wouldn't say she entertained them for 2 hours in the waiting room. And then you absolutely wouldn't tell us that she "often cares for the kids by doing blah, blah, and blah" without telling us you pay her. this is SO fake!!

[Anonymous]

Whatever troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many different fathers? Any guesses?

*gets out stirring stick*

OP here, WHY DOES IT MATTER TO YOU?

Note to pps: She wants you to get angry with her. She's like Darth Vader here. Yesss, feel your hate Luke, let it guide you.

[Anonymous]

Yep, this is fake. Everyone needs to stop posting, you're just feeding his/her entertainment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again, I was not aware of them going to the playground until after her little meltdown calling me a martyr, one of the kids said "mommy we went to the swings"

Uh, you wrote that she was being pissy about being in the waiting room for two hours a half hour ago. You also wrote that DD is home with the kids. So why would you present an inaccurate story other than that you were lying?

Because ultimately they could not leave the doctors office. Yes they could go a mile down the street to the park, but DD still had to keep them entertained either at the docs or very close by. Point is they couldn't go home and be in more space. DD was probably just making do with the fact that that kids were restless.