For those in long term relationships. Do you still kiss?

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been together 8 years, married 4. We kiss all the time. We constantly touch in passing, give each other hugs, and kiss whenever we can. Objectively, it's got to be disgusting.

[Anonymous]

PP: Just wait until you have teenagers. My DS said to us, "There is NOTHING more disgusting than when old people kiss."

Which, of course, inspired my old DH and I to kiss even more in front of the teens. Ha!

[Anonymous]

I am really interested in others thoughts about this. After having really extreme hyperemesis for over 6 months while pregnant with my first child, kissing was non existent in my marriage. As you can imagine no one feels like making out after throwing up their guts all day. We used to french a lll the time. My DC is now almost 2 1/2 and I still don't feel like kissing him. He frequently asks me about it, "why don't I ever kiss him anymore" like passionate kisses, whenever he tries to kiss me I peck him off, pretty abrasively. I really can't explain why I just don't want to do it... Recently I can tell he is questioning if I am attracted to him, which I am... just don't want to make out, not even during sex.
Feel like something is wrong with me...

[Anonymous]

PP here, by the way DH and I have only been married two years.. in our early 20s =/

[Anonymous]

I am 42 and a man and I can say that in all honesty, I love to kiss. It is one of my greatest things to do. I honesty could not be in a relationship where there is just flat out no kissing. And unlike other men, I do not do it in the hopes of sex. I do it because it is an expression of love and a form of intimacy that I crave. My wife though on the other hand gets claustrophobic and she's not really into the whole kissing thing. She likes simple pecks, but there is nothing else. I cannot tell you when the last time we french kissed or sat on the couch and made out. It had actually always bugged me that she doesn't want anything more than that. Also, she says we are adults and we don't need to act like teenagers like that. Been together for 11 years, married for 10. No kids, I would like them, but she had the surgery before we got together. In the bedroom (which has become a lot more rare, and I do mean, ya know) we can kiss, but it's not much kissing because of her claustrophobia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am really interested in others thoughts about this. After having really extreme hyperemesis for over 6 months while pregnant with my first child, kissing was non existent in my marriage. As you can imagine no one feels like making out after throwing up their guts all day. We used to french a lll the time. My DC is now almost 2 1/2 and I still don't feel like kissing him. He frequently asks me about it, "why don't I ever kiss him anymore" like passionate kisses, whenever he tries to kiss me I peck him off, pretty abrasively. I really can't explain why I just don't want to do it... Recently I can tell he is questioning if I am attracted to him, which I am... just don't want to make out, not even during sex.
Feel like something is wrong with me...

Why does your DC want passionate kisses from you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:married 7 - I hate kissing my wife or anyone else. It's gross. would you have your husband spit on a plate and you lick it up? no? Then why would you lick the spit right out of his mouth?

Men do not like kissing ever - we only do it hoping it makes your pants fall off. Actually, we do it because it shuts you up and keeps you happy for a bit.

Absolutely not true. My DH loves kissing. Way more than I do. I could totally never french kiss him again. He's into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Together 13 years. We peck all the time, but hardly ever a French kiss. DH doesn't like it. He used to when we first met. I might not even get a kiss during sex. After I'll get a peck.

I am in this category with this DH. I am a SAHM and the constant kissing, grabbing, holding, soothing from the little ones leaves me tapped out. More kissing at the end of the day makes me feel claustrophobic, especially a tongue in my mouth. I used to love kissing and now I have zero libido unless it's in fantasy land where no one actually touches me.

Same!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been married for almost 16 years and together for about 20. DW is always on me about kissing her. We peck all of the time. I kiss her before I leave the house. Every time our children see us kiss they let out sounds like it's hurting them. We have not French-kissed in a very long time. I remember when we first met it was constant. I'm not sure what made it taper off, but I'm no longer in the mood for it. She still wants it. She's always telling me that she desires more passion. It's not that I don't love her, because I really do love her more than I can explain.

This is absolutely normal. Mother Nature runs the show and after 5 years Mother Nature thinks you have had children or you aren't going to have children. Sex is not for happiness or pleasure in reality. Mother Nature uses it to procreate and doesn't care about whatever inaccurate fantasies people have dreamed up in their heads regarding their feelings or satisfaction. In fact.. The hormones for animal sex and the hormones for deep love and family love don't get along well in the brain. They fight each other. That's why the man can put his wife/children's mother on a pedestal and wants animal sex with the AP. The way to trick the mind into keeping the passion is to make the sex really dirty (getting a boob job would be among the tamer possibilities) to trick the mind into thinking "hey this is something new!". People need to know these facts because it would save a lot of marriages.

[Anonymous]

Married 35 years - we still kiss quite often and my DH almost nuzzles the back of my neck when he comes into the kitchen in the morning. We do a lot of kissing during sex, very deep at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, in fact - porn industry unwritten rule is to keep kissing out of the action - it turns men off. It's a proven thing. Men hate it.

Thank you for this. Love and sex are two very separate things in a mans head. People need to get this right or there is always trouble.

[Anonymous]

We still kiss don’t French much as I personally don’t like it. But kiss before going to bed and during sex and randomly. It’s nicr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:married 7 - I hate kissing my wife or anyone else. It's gross. would you have your husband spit on a plate and you lick it up? no? Then why would you lick the spit right out of his mouth?

Men do not like kissing ever - we only do it hoping it makes your pants fall off. Actually, we do it because it shuts you up and keeps you happy for a bit.

Lol

It’s not like I disagree exactly about the saliva issue but then what do you think of oral? I’m literally putting someone’s d*ck in my mouth The exchange of bodily fluids and germs is just something you have to overlook.

[Anonymous]

Hmm I get the feeling that my husband loves French kissing way more than I do. He initiated way more and he’s always trying to do it during sex (and not just during the foreplay part) which I find distracting.

[Anonymous]

We kiss every day.... deep, soul-touching kisses that are as intimate as sex. We have been together almost 9 years. We love the connection that it gives us. Neither of us felt like this in our previous relationships, though. This is something worth holding on to.