How to turn down a Big 3 school I took up a lot of time with...

[Anonymous]

Who knows. Schools officials are not always intellectually honest. At Open Houses, they will declare that test scores don't matter, or are only one factor, but of course we know there are cutoffs for SSAT's, etc., and accepted students who fall below those numbers have some special hook or circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes an admissions office will have "one that got away," a student they really liked who ends up attending another school. We heard about one from an AD when we were interviewing with her. No need to name names. But with the demand for these slots, the schools get over it pretty fast.

Is this stuff common sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in an Admission Office and would very much appreciate learning of your decision as soon as possible and a follow up letter of any length. Remember that the relationship you feel is a two way street. We become quite attached to the families that we meet throughout the process and the outcomes are emotional on our end, as well. Just be respectful and polite and honest about your feelings. Thank you!

Sometimes it is just so very hard to let go. You just feel like crying...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is the dad, not the mom. Bet you'll be less mean when you know he is the dad. Fathers always get a break.

Why? Because they are generally clueless?

No, it's bc it's still a male dominated society we live in. Men are favored.