Having your baby in your 40s another viewpoint.

[Anonymous]

This is an interesting thread. I had my DS when I had just turned 37. He is almost six years old now. DH is a few years older. We are doing fine and we are healthy (and so is DS), but we do get exhausted quite a bit while also working FT. DS is a joy and I could not imagine my life without him. My friends always tell me to add another one and that he should not grow up to be an only child. I worry about this a LOT, but we are not going to have another baby. I am 43 years old now and while I'm still fit and have energy, I can imagine that this may change a bit as I get older and enter menopause. Having more children would most definitely stretch our very limited resources and I don't want to put that burden on DS. Maybe if we had more money, I would have thought about it, but as things are right now, I would not feel that it is a wise decision to add any more children to our family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^45 isn't the 55+ that people here are talking about. That 10 years makes a huge difference in energy level. I had my daughter at 39, and am now 59 with a college junior. This has worked out fine for me/us. Dear friend is the same age with a son of 14 - she had him at 44. She is totally exhausted all the time and she and her DH are dismayed that they'll be working until they're 70 or 75 to put him through college and then build their sayings up a bit.

Older mom here. I think you are absolutely right. 75 and still working?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend adopting a newborn and she is almost 48 and her DH is 51. I really think this is probably not a great idea. And I'm thinking of later when they are 70 with a kid in college. But I guess I will stay out of it.