Are Independent Schools for Black Children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They get too many breaks IMO.

Who? The white kids who's behavior is dismissed no matter what the offense, and the parents are loaded?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They get too many breaks IMO.

Who? The white kids who's behavior is dismissed no matter what the offense, and the parents are loaded?

PP here. Whose, not who's. Calm down grammar police.

[Anonymous]

I am full pay but I guarantee that if I see something that doesn't feel right, I am going to address it with the school. How sad that some of the AA posters are reluctant to 'make waves' for fear of repercussions even though they have justifiable issues regardless of full pay or FA.

I hate to burst your bubble but white parents are reluctant to make waves for fear of repercussions, also. It is simply the nature of private schools where the headmaster has toal control over your child's future. I really isn't a race issue. Unless you are a big donor or have a perfect kid, you walk on eggshells.

[Anonymous]

OP, stop tripping! It's all just a figment of your imagination. And, shame on you for listening to your intuition, how dare you put up this post.

You have to be honest with yourself and wake up to the reality that you have a bad ass child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am full pay but I guarantee that if I see something that doesn't feel right, I am going to address it with the school. How sad that some of the AA posters are reluctant to 'make waves' for fear of repercussions even though they have justifiable issues regardless of full pay or FA.

I hate to burst your bubble but white parents are reluctant to make waves for fear of repercussions, also. It is simply the nature of private schools where the headmaster has toal control over your child's future. I really isn't a race issue. Unless you are a big donor or have a perfect kid, you walk on eggshells.

Horse hockey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am full pay but I guarantee that if I see something that doesn't feel right, I am going to address it with the school. How sad that some of the AA posters are reluctant to 'make waves' for fear of repercussions even though they have justifiable issues regardless of full pay or FA.

I hate to burst your bubble but white parents are reluctant to make waves for fear of repercussions, also. It is simply the nature of private schools where the headmaster has toal control over your child's future. I really isn't a race issue. Unless you are a big donor or have a perfect kid, you walk on eggshells.

If you really think one administrator "has total control over your child's future" I feel sorry for you. Good god, what hyperbole. Does the headmaster take the PSAT or SAT for your child? Do you think heads of schools spend their free time phoning college admissions people trying to keep specific students out of school? Do you think college admissions people everywhere would care? (Remember when BU took the girl who had murdered her mother after Harvard revoked the acceptance?) Do you really believe which of the many top notch colleges/universities your child attends will make that much difference? Does the headmaster control how your child does in college or grad school?

I hate this sort of overdramatic hyperbole. I guess if you pay $35 grand a lot of people need to believe that there is a man or woman in a wood-paneled room controlling their child's future who must be propitiated like a dark and ancient spirit.

It's really about the kids. Promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop tripping! It's all just a figment of your imagination. And, shame on you for listening to your intuition, how dare you put up this post.

You have to be honest with yourself and wake up to the reality that you have a bad ass child.

Yes, always listen to your intuition that EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET YOUR CHILD and that 2013 Washington DC is just 1950s Birmingham Alabama with gourmet food trucks. Entrust your child to a school but then, just to balance things out, spend all your time assuming the school is trying to destroy your child. Don't worry if your kid smokes pot at school, other kids probably do too and it's swept under the rug. Don't worry if your kid stays up until 2 am playing video games, that's just nasty teachers trying to break his spirit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop tripping! It's all just a figment of your imagination. And, shame on you for listening to your intuition, how dare you put up this post.

You have to be honest with yourself and wake up to the reality that you have a bad ass child.

Yes, always listen to your intuition that EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET YOUR CHILD and that 2013 Washington DC is just 1950s Birmingham Alabama with gourmet food trucks. Entrust your child to a school but then, just to balance things out, spend all your time assuming the school is trying to destroy your child. Don't worry if your kid smokes pot at school, other kids probably do too and it's swept under the rug. Don't worry if your kid stays up until 2 am playing video games, that's just nasty teachers trying to break his spirit.

See, proof positive OP, it's all in your head. No worries, your child's school has his best interest at heart. All children are treated equally and with respect, trust the school. I'm sure you're looking the other way as your boy sells drugs at school in the bathroom or on the lacrosse field, etc., and is up all hours doing whatever the hell he wishes, maybe you should reevaluate whether or not you have harmed the school by continuing him there. Stop biting the hand that's trying to help you. I'm sure each time you sign your child's annual contract you are aware that you do yourself and YOUR SON a major disservice by not completely trusting his school, rid yourself of your ancient thoughts and outlandish fears. GIRL I THINK YOU CRAZY.

Do yourself a favor, seek therapy and take a parenting class. As PP says this isn't 1950s Birmingham this is 2013 Washington DC.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP! I knew someone would post some foolishness... To those who contributed cleanly thank you to the trolls seeking to call me and my family names and stir the pot shame on you.

[Anonymous]

I hate to burst your bubble but white parents are reluctant to make waves for fear of repercussions, also. It is simply the nature of private schools where the headmaster has toal control over your child's future. I really isn't a race issue. Unless you are a big donor or have a perfect kid, you walk on eggshells.


If you really think one administrator "has total control over your child's future" I feel sorry for you. Good god, what hyperbole. Does the headmaster take the PSAT or SAT for your child? Do you think heads of schools spend their free time phoning college admissions people trying to keep specific students out of school? Do you think college admissions people everywhere would care? (Remember when BU took the girl who had murdered her mother after Harvard revoked the acceptance?) Do you really believe which of the many top notch colleges/universities your child attends will make that much difference? Does the headmaster control how your child does in college or grad school?

I hate this sort of overdramatic hyperbole. I guess if you pay $35 grand a lot of people need to believe that there is a man or woman in a wood-paneled room controlling their child's future who must be propitiated like a dark and ancient spirit.

It's really about the kids. Promise.

Sorry but you are the one who is over-dramatizing. The statement of "control over your child's future" while not explicitly stated was implied to mean at the school. Unlike public schools, private schools have no obligation to enroll any child. In that sense they do have control over your child's future at that school. For parents who live in areas with crappy public schools it can seem like total control. White parents aren't any less likely to feel this squeeze than black parents. It is the nature of the private school environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP! I knew someone would post some foolishness... To those who contributed cleanly thank you to the trolls seeking to call me and my family names and stir the pot shame on you.

To OP - This is an annonymous forum and no indicitive of the how most parents in independent schools feel. I understand your concern. You and your children need to understand that you are a very important part of our community. I have been around for a long time and we are a community and it does not matter if you go to school A and I go to school B. It does not matter if I play sports against your team or my son did not get accepted to your school. Maybe we do go to the same school. What matters is that your family and your children understand that they were accepted to the school and it does not matter your race or financial status. You are very important part of the community.

Is there prejudice still in our world? Yes unfortunately. And it sucks.

I had a good friend in your situation. Keep your head down, get a good education, stay out of trouble and for god sakes don't get counseled out because you are on FA. I could not believe they felt that way - it hurt my soul. Fortunately I was friends with somebody that could make a difference and I explained their feelings. This was a few years ago but the administration is so caring and inclusive they could not believe that this straight A, wonderful kid felt this way. But, he did not feel like a straight A student - he was working his a^^ off in fear of making a B. (because he was on financial aid) He did not feel like part of the community, his life was out of balance.

The administration set him up with a mentor in the school. He become more confident and was able to get everything out of his education from that incredible school. I urge you to find 1 administrator you trust and share your feeling and work through this.

You are an important part of our community and you need to feel that way. You need to take advantage of all that is offered at the school. My child is better off with you in our lives.

I hate this forum and the vitrol that is posted here.

Best Wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop tripping! It's all just a figment of your imagination. And, shame on you for listening to your intuition, how dare you put up this post.

You have to be honest with yourself and wake up to the reality that you have a bad ass child.

Yes, always listen to your intuition that EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET YOUR CHILD and that 2013 Washington DC is just 1950s Birmingham Alabama with gourmet food trucks. Entrust your child to a school but then, just to balance things out, spend all your time assuming the school is trying to destroy your child. Don't worry if your kid smokes pot at school, other kids probably do too and it's swept under the rug. Don't worry if your kid stays up until 2 am playing video games, that's just nasty teachers trying to break his spirit.

See, proof positive OP, it's all in your head. No worries, your child's school has his best interest at heart. All children are treated equally and with respect, trust the school. I'm sure you're looking the other way as your boy sells drugs at school in the bathroom or on the lacrosse field, etc., and is up all hours doing whatever the hell he wishes, maybe you should reevaluate whether or not you have harmed the school by continuing him there. Stop biting the hand that's trying to help you. I'm sure each time you sign your child's annual contract you are aware that you do yourself and YOUR SON a major disservice by not completely trusting his school, rid yourself of your ancient thoughts and outlandish fears. GIRL I THINK YOU CRAZY.

Do yourself a favor, seek therapy and take a parenting class. As PP says this isn't 1950s Birmingham this is 2013 Washington DC.

My, my. I hope you provided the same advice for the white parents whose children plagued schools with cheating scandals and ruined reputations of girls with online ratings of who they could sleep with (and, oh, yes, gave points for the mother's as the hottest cougar). You should do yourself a favor and not throw stones as you definitely live in a glass house!

And if you don't think there's no 1950s behavior today, tell that to the AA who watched the President be mocked by whites in black face, called a coon, accused of being Hitler, etc. Give me a break. Please!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP! I knew someone would post some foolishness... To those who contributed cleanly thank you to the trolls seeking to call me and my family names and stir the pot shame on you.

If you have spent anytime on DCUM, you must know there is trash (and I'm being gentle in my description) that posts. They would not have the cajones to say these things to your face and hide behind their cloak of anonymity with their hoods and sheets in perpetual readiness.

These are the people who wreak social havoc in our private schools, not just with blacks but with whites who welcome everyone. They are ignorant, self-absorbed, boastful, self-righteous, and hateful. I could add more descriptive adjectives but you get my point. OP, ignore them and step over them like any vermin. They don't deserve your attention or response.

[Anonymous]

Oh, please do get over yourself! The AAs at our private are treated like royals. Finally they go too far and get behind academically, then the parents play the race card. Gets really old. The reverse discimination is amazing. Parents stear clear because they know who will get the blame ... hint it is not "the white kid"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP! I knew someone would post some foolishness... To those who contributed cleanly thank you to the trolls seeking to call me and my family names and stir the pot shame on you.

The academic system that we're in is absurd. OP, if you choose to keep your child in that current school make sure you seek other outlets for enrichment for you and your family so that the school isn't playing such a dominant role in your lives.

I'm sorry if my post seemed to be calling you names, it was attacking the absurdity of the experiences that we and our children continue to deal with today while at the same being told that racism doesn't exist at xyz school and that you're just making it up because you're stuck in the past.

Funny how most of our children are considered potential behavioral problems or eventually labeled with a learning disability and that we're the problem because we won't face it. Not to say that I haven't seen minority children with behavioral problems and different learning styles at my child's school.

It seems that every child is viewed using the same faulty set of lens.

Much good fortune in your journey and may your child become a lifelong learner.