TTC over 50

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

But seriously I do know some folks in their mid-40s who have conceived naturally. It is not super young but I would not consider it ODD.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

Try reading comprehension sometime, PP. I was replying to a discussion about someone TTC in their 50's and parenting teenagers in their 60's. That is what I find odd. Nowhere did I say anything about people in their 40's.

When you learn to read and can keep up with the conversation, come back.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

Try reading comprehension sometime, PP. I was replying to a discussion about someone TTC in their 50's and parenting teenagers in their 60's. That is what I find odd. Nowhere did I say anything about people in their 40's.

When you learn to read and can keep up with the conversation, come back.

I know that. I'm quite sure though that the people who are on here stating they had old parents had parents who conceived in their 40s. There was no assisted fertility back in those days. So you ARE saying parents who have kids in their forties are ODD. I am not commenting about the OP at all.

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"A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd."

So your parent's friends had her in their 50s? If so I stand corrected. I supposed it "could" happen.

And no I would not have a baby after 50 - but I think I'll leave OP to make her own decisions.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

Try reading comprehension sometime, PP. I was replying to a discussion about someone TTC in their 50's and parenting teenagers in their 60's. That is what I find odd. Nowhere did I say anything about people in their 40's.

When you learn to read and can keep up with the conversation, come back.

I know that. I'm quite sure though that the people who are on here stating they had old parents had parents who conceived in their 40s. There was no assisted fertility back in those days. So you ARE saying parents who have kids in their forties are ODD. I am not commenting about the OP at all.

Okay whatever. Put words in my mouth if it makes you feel better. I never said my parents were old but that I knew someone with older parents. And yes, they were LATE 40's when they had her (dad was actually in early 50's). But okay, whatever. You are arguing with me over the stupidest point based on something I didn't even say.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow the person coming on here calling someone a rude, spoiled brat - I hope you are not trying to become a parent. From the sounds of it, you don't need to have children. That person is trying to tell you how it is harder to have older parents - hard on the children AND the parents. That is her personal experience. Get a life!

New poster here - Agree with this!

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Ahh, the truth comes out! You are bitter because you mom/dad did not meet your needs and you blame them and all older parents. Maybe your parents just didn't like you? I certainly can understand why they wouldn't like you.

Well you're a raging asshole, aren't you? A good friend of mine had parents this old. It was odd. They were much older than everyone else's parents and got mistaken at school events as being her grandparents. When we were in our early 20's dating, establishing careers, and having fun, she was dealing with parents whose health was failing. When we were all getting married in our late 20's/early 30's, she was arranging for assisted living for her parents and selling their home. So yeah, there are some compelling reasons why having parents old enough to be your grandparents is not the best scenario for a child.

Dick.

There are lots of people in their 40s becoming parents. Some even got pregnant the old fashioned way (gasp). Its not as "odd" as you make it out ot be.

Give me a break. I am 35, TTC#2. I may very well have a third and I would likely be pushing 40 at that point. There is a big difference in terms of overall and reproductive health between 40 or 42 and 50 or 52, and you damned well know it. Likewise there is a big difference between 62 and 72, as anyone whose parents are getting older, or who has watched their grandparents decline - knows full well. Stop being so simplistic already.

Hello - I said 40s - not 50s

Try reading comprehension sometime, PP. I was replying to a discussion about someone TTC in their 50's and parenting teenagers in their 60's. That is what I find odd. Nowhere did I say anything about people in their 40's.

When you learn to read and can keep up with the conversation, come back.

I know that. I'm quite sure though that the people who are on here stating they had old parents had parents who conceived in their 40s. There was no assisted fertility back in those days. So you ARE saying parents who have kids in their forties are ODD. I am not commenting about the OP at all.

Okay whatever. Put words in my mouth if it makes you feel better. I never said my parents were old but that I knew someone with older parents. And yes, they were LATE 40's when they had her (dad was actually in early 50's). But okay, whatever. You are arguing with me over the stupidest point based on something I didn't even say.

I was insulted that you think older parents are odd when they are perfectly common place these days. If that is stupid - then I guess I'm stupid.

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If you didn't say that about older parents being "odd" - then okay. I still think its insulting for people to come on here and blast OP. As I said I wouldn't do what she is doing but its not my business. To each his own.

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Wow! I guess a number of folks would also believe that when a woman finds herself naturally pregnant at over 50yo she should be forced to undo it and be sterilized or caged up to prevent her from having sexual relations!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! I guess a number of folks would also believe that when a woman finds herself naturally pregnant at over 50yo she should be forced to undo it and be sterilized or caged up to prevent her from having sexual relations!

This thread is 8 years old.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! I guess a number of folks would also believe that when a woman finds herself naturally pregnant at over 50yo she should be forced to undo it and be sterilized or caged up to prevent her from having sexual relations!

This thread is 8 years old.

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more women over 50 are ttc

i know a woman who got naturally pregnant at 56 and then was helped by a doctor to keep the pregnancy viable and she had a healthy baby at almost 57

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Oh! I love this argument! PP, you do realize if your parents not been old when they had you, you wouldn't have existed right?

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Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your children to have them so late in life. When your child is in college, you will be in your 70s. As a child of old parents, it is not fair to your child.

Oh! I love this argument! PP, you do realize if your parents not been old when they had you, you wouldn't have existed right?

This thread is 9 years old. Pretty sure the OP is well past menopause now and comfortably retired.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is OK for men older than 50 to have kids but not women older than 50? If you're worried about the health issues associated with pregnancy, would it be OK with you so long as a surrogate is used for carrying the pregnancy? Are you also against adoption by people over 50?

BTW...I am not over 50, but I am married to a man who is. That makes me AARP eligible but does not make me infertile. We have two lovely children to prove it.

1) No one here ever said that it is a good idea for men over 50 to have kids. 2) No, I think the more important issue is the risk being taken that you will not be able/ viable to raise the child into adulthood 3) No, those kids are already here and need a good home. But I do believe that preference for infants should be given to younger couples.

Why just couples? I was single and adopted my first at 31 and second at 34. Both infants. From foster care. Gave birth at 42 with now-husband. (One IVF cycle)