Ex-Husband lowered child support

[Anonymous]

So ex can argue cheaper child care is available. That you insist on spending beyond your means is the issue. This thread should be over now-- just go to court already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex-Husband and I just moved to DC. Child support order($433 a month) was for VA based on the income he had there ($65K). When he moved his pay increased to $95K. Mine is $77K. When we lived in VA our daughter stayed with her father 3 days out of each week. When we moved to DC she was with me most of the time because her father was working a second job. Her father increased the child support to $700. Our daughter goes to private school which cost about $800 a month. My ex quit his second job and now has our daughter about 3 days a week again. He lowered the child support ($500 a month) stating that because he has her half the time he shouldn't pay all that $.

My question is should I go to court to have this new amount documented so he can not just lower when he wants to or just leave it alone. Is this a fair amount of money that he lowered it to based on our income and how much time he has with her? We both don't have other children. Our child is 4.

IMHO, he should only have to work one job, not two. Have the court decide though so that too much time and self adjusting is not there to weed through years from now if there is a real issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So ex can argue cheaper child care is available. That you insist on spending beyond your means is the issue. This thread should be over now-- just go to court already.

The ex can't argue anything. She's in private school because that's where he wants her to be. This thread is over for me. But, I will reply if I want to inform someone of something they know nothing about especially when it comes to being in the military.

If you don't want to respond to the thread, don't. Nobody asked you personally to comment.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just talk to an attorney and see what your options are vs. debating others who have been there/done that.

My husband is retired military. He/we have been there/done that far longer than you. We still use a lot of the base services and are very grateful for them. If you decided they are not good enough for you, that is your choice but don't pretend that they are not available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So ex can argue cheaper child care is available. That you insist on spending beyond your means is the issue. This thread should be over now-- just go to court already.

The ex can't argue anything. She's in private school because that's where he wants her to be. This thread is over for me. But, I will reply if I want to inform someone of something they know nothing about especially when it comes to being in the military.

If you don't want to respond to the thread, don't. Nobody asked you personally to comment.

School is not child care. Private school tuition is not part of a CS calculation. Child care is just that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just talk to an attorney and see what your options are vs. debating others who have been there/done that.

My husband is retired military. He/we have been there/done that far longer than you. We still use a lot of the base services and are very grateful for them. If you decided they are not good enough for you, that is your choice but don't pretend that they are not available.

has great services.

I appreciate your husband's service and the part you played as a military spouse. I'm not going to comment on anything else you have said because I think you don't have a full understanding of what I'm trying to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just talk to an attorney and see what your options are vs. debating others who have been there/done that.

My husband is retired military. He/we have been there/done that far longer than you. We still use a lot of the base services and are very grateful for them. If you decided they are not good enough for you, that is your choice but don't pretend that they are not available.

has great services.

I appreciate your husband's service and the part you played as a military spouse. I'm not going to comment on anything else you have said because I think you don't have a full understanding of what I'm trying to say.

You are upset your ex voluntarily raised child support when working two jobs and now he has stepped down to one job and takes the child a reasonable amount of time and think you deserve the higher amount. We've been there/done that with my husband's ex. She took it to court and it ended up being drastically reduced. She also tried to argue for us to pay for her health insurance when ours was very low cost with no co-pays. The judge disagreed with her. You aren't the first or last person to go through this. You have far more resources available to you than the average person from health care to child care to summer camps to activities such as swimming lessons, sports and other stuff on base. If you choose not to utilize them and use higher cost services, then it is your responsibility in less otherwise agreed upon. The other option you have is for you to get a second job when your child is not with you.