Ex-Husband lowered child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you go to court and the support is raised and the increased support means he has to take a second job to afford the support and life and therefore he can no longer see his daughter very often, will you be happy with this outcome?

Of course not....The reality is he could take 2 or 3 other jobs but if you're not responsible with your finances it really doesn't matter how much you make.

I'm going back and forth with leaving it alone and pursing it because our child's expenses are going to increase. It's $50 - $60 a day for someone to take care of her when school is closed and we can't take off. Not to mention summer camp is expensive. Hopefully, we can just look at the calculator online together and go from there. But, he thinks he's doing me a favor by giving me the amount that he gives to me. So not sure how well it's going to go with him.

The online calculator is not always accurate. It is $$$ for summers and other care, but that is how you do it when you do child support. Child support is supposed to be inclusive otherwise you agree to split all expenses in both homes 50/50% which typically is not done. You can look at cheaper options like pulling her from private to public school, county camps, sending her to relatives if you have any for long breaks or letting him have a extended summer visit and then camp becomes his issue.

[Anonymous]

If I went to court and the judge said xyz is all you're supposed to get I would be fine with it even it was lower than what he's currently giving me. My problem is the way he does things. He didn't look at a child support calculator, didn't talk to me about anything he just lowered it. But, when he raised it he wanted to send three and four emails and have a whole bunch of telephone conversations about what he was doing. I want what is fair since I feel like I constantly get the short end of the stick with him.

[Anonymous]

So just go to court and get it in black and white so there is no back and forth needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I went to court and the judge said xyz is all you're supposed to get I would be fine with it even it was lower than what he's currently giving me. My problem is the way he does things. He didn't look at a child support calculator, didn't talk to me about anything he just lowered it. But, when he raised it he wanted to send three and four emails and have a whole bunch of telephone conversations about what he was doing. I want what is fair since I feel like I constantly get the short end of the stick with him.

You're contradicting yourself. You've said you want $750/ month. Just go to Court and get your order-- it will be for less than $400.

[Anonymous]

Also the judge is not going to scribble down a child support calculation on a piece of paper. If you are bringing the motion to Court, you have to tell the Court what it is you are asking for and why. I think I should get $750 and here's the basis in the DC child support calculation. When you file your motion, your ex will likely file his own motion with what he believes should be child support. As child support calculations are easily determined, the judge will look at the two numbers and see which agrees with the statutory calculation and grant that amount.

To begin with you have to tell the Court what specific number you're asking for according to the DC CS guideline. You've been unable to do that here.

[Anonymous]

I just did the DC calculator with the little information you have given. Sort of guessing that you pay about $300/mo in aftercare type costs and he pays for insurance. Your order would be around $412.

You really need to get your ducks in a row if you are going to go to court over this.

[Anonymous]

Step 1 - go to website
http://csgc.oag.dc.gov/application/main/intro.aspx

Step 2 - click 'start guideline'

Step 3 - check 'shared' custody button
OP states dad has 3 days/ week

Step 4 - check 'days' option for
Please select one of the options to calculate the percentage of time with each parent.

Step 5 - Enter '208' days for mother (4 days/ week * 52 weeks)

Step 6 - Enter '1' for number of children

Step 7 - Click 'next'

Step 8 - Enter mom's income of $77,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 9 - Enter dad's income of $95,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 10 - Assume $300 for this question & zero for the others; then click 'next'
Enter total annual reasonable child care costs due to employment or education actually paid by Mother:

Step 11 - skip demographics info page; click next

Result = $395 child support owed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just did the DC calculator with the little information you have given. Sort of guessing that you pay about $300/mo in aftercare type costs and he pays for insurance. Your order would be around $412.

You really need to get your ducks in a row if you are going to go to court over this.

I wouldn't go to court over $412. Before & after care cost more than $300 and he doesn't pay for insurance. I've already decided to speak to a attorney to see if what we have going on now is fair. If it is then I'll leave it at that. If it's not then we have something to talk about...I don't have to pay anything to speak to a military lawyer. They can't refer you to anybody. They don't get points off telling you to go to court. They just give you facts and you do with it what you wish...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Step 1 - go to website
http://csgc.oag.dc.gov/application/main/intro.aspx

Step 2 - click 'start guideline'

Step 3 - check 'shared' custody button
OP states dad has 3 days/ week

Step 4 - check 'days' option for
Please select one of the options to calculate the percentage of time with each parent.

Step 5 - Enter '208' days for mother (4 days/ week * 52 weeks)

Step 6 - Enter '1' for number of children

Step 7 - Click 'next'

Step 8 - Enter mom's income of $77,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 9 - Enter dad's income of $95,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 10 - Assume $300 for this question & zero for the others; then click 'next'
Enter total annual reasonable child care costs due to employment or education actually paid by Mother:

Step 11 - skip demographics info page; click next

Result = $395 child support owed

I get this. But, what is dad supposedly paying for reasonable child care cost? No child care cost $300 in this area.

[Anonymous]

I think you should definitely consult an attorney. Also, make sure you include your summer camp costs in your childcare calculation. I know from firsthand experience that those costs alone can bankrupt you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also the judge is not going to scribble down a child support calculation on a piece of paper. If you are bringing the motion to Court, you have to tell the Court what it is you are asking for and why. I think I should get $750 and here's the basis in the DC child support calculation. When you file your motion, your ex will likely file his own motion with what he believes should be child support. As child support calculations are easily determined, the judge will look at the two numbers and see which agrees with the statutory calculation and grant that amount.

To begin with you have to tell the Court what specific number you're asking for according to the DC CS guideline. You've been unable to do that here.

Umm they dont really care what you WANT If you dad get there and dont have ab amount agreed to that is just what hell dfue.scrubble in the numbers info a form and calculate who ówes who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just did the DC calculator with the little information you have given. Sort of guessing that you pay about $300/mo in aftercare type costs and he pays for insurance. Your order would be around $412.

You really need to get your ducks in a row if you are going to go to court over this.

I wouldn't go to court over $412. Before & after care cost more than $300 and he doesn't pay for insurance. I've already decided to speak to a attorney to see if what we have going on now is fair. If it is then I'll leave it at that. If it's not then we have something to talk about...I don't have to pay anything to speak to a military lawyer. They can't refer you to anybody. They don't get points off telling you to go to court. They just give you facts and you do with it what you wish...

Military attorney's don't specialize in family law. We tried that and it is a waste of time for anything above wills. You don't really pay for insurance so that is not should not be taken into consideration as on tricare prime most things are free, especially for active duty. You don't have hundred's of dollars of medical expenses. (we are on tricare too), It sounds like some of it is a communication issue. Ok, so he sends several emails to clarify. Maybe you both are being difficult and need to find a better way to work this out. You CAN lower your expenses. Most bases have summer programs too which are more affordable. Most bases have other activities like swimming, crafts, sports for the kids at a more reasonable cost. You can utilize public schools. You choose to have some of the higher expenses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Step 1 - go to website
http://csgc.oag.dc.gov/application/main/intro.aspx

Step 2 - click 'start guideline'

Step 3 - check 'shared' custody button
OP states dad has 3 days/ week

Step 4 - check 'days' option for
Please select one of the options to calculate the percentage of time with each parent.

Step 5 - Enter '208' days for mother (4 days/ week * 52 weeks)

Step 6 - Enter '1' for number of children

Step 7 - Click 'next'

Step 8 - Enter mom's income of $77,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 9 - Enter dad's income of $95,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 10 - Assume $300 for this question & zero for the others; then click 'next'
Enter total annual reasonable child care costs due to employment or education actually paid by Mother:

Step 11 - skip demographics info page; click next

Result = $395 child support owed

I get this. But, what is dad supposedly paying for reasonable child care cost? No child care cost $300 in this area.

She has access to military child care. It goes by rank/income. There are lots of military perks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just did the DC calculator with the little information you have given. Sort of guessing that you pay about $300/mo in aftercare type costs and he pays for insurance. Your order would be around $412.

You really need to get your ducks in a row if you are going to go to court over this.

I wouldn't go to court over $412. Before & after care cost more than $300 and he doesn't pay for insurance. I've already decided to speak to a attorney to see if what we have going on now is fair. If it is then I'll leave it at that. If it's not then we have something to talk about...I don't have to pay anything to speak to a military lawyer. They can't refer you to anybody. They don't get points off telling you to go to court. They just give you facts and you do with it what you wish...

Military attorney's don't specialize in family law. We tried that and it is a waste of time for anything above wills. You don't really pay for insurance so that is not should not be taken into consideration as on tricare prime most things are free, especially for active duty. You don't have hundred's of dollars of medical expenses. (we are on tricare too), It sounds like some of it is a communication issue. Ok, so he sends several emails to clarify. Maybe you both are being difficult and need to find a better way to work this out. You CAN lower your expenses. Most bases have summer programs too which are more affordable. Most bases have other activities like swimming, crafts, sports for the kids at a more reasonable cost. You can utilize public schools. You choose to have some of the higher expenses.

Army attorneys do specialize in family law. I had a marital separation agreement done for free by a army attorney. Savings of about $1,500. They were available to do my divorce too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Step 1 - go to website
http://csgc.oag.dc.gov/application/main/intro.aspx

Step 2 - click 'start guideline'

Step 3 - check 'shared' custody button
OP states dad has 3 days/ week

Step 4 - check 'days' option for
Please select one of the options to calculate the percentage of time with each parent.

Step 5 - Enter '208' days for mother (4 days/ week * 52 weeks)

Step 6 - Enter '1' for number of children

Step 7 - Click 'next'

Step 8 - Enter mom's income of $77,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 9 - Enter dad's income of $95,000 & click 'no' to other buttons on this page; then click next

Step 10 - Assume $300 for this question & zero for the others; then click 'next'
Enter total annual reasonable child care costs due to employment or education actually paid by Mother:

Step 11 - skip demographics info page; click next

Result = $395 child support owed

I get this. But, what is dad supposedly paying for reasonable child care cost? No child care cost $300 in this area.

She has access to military child care. It goes by rank/income. There are lots of military perks.

Military child care goes to a certain age. Yes, our child fits the age group. But, we're not going to put our child into a program that learns through play and has no structure or lesson plan.