Ex-Husband lowered child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were you, I would file new paperwork with the Child Support Office where you live with the new info about income, etc and go from there. It may take a while but this way, you won't be arguing about it. You don't need a lawyer to do this. Just call them and tell them your situation has changed and you want your case reviewed.

She should talk to an attorney to find out if it is worth filing as if she is wrong and files then she could get less than what she is currently getting. This happened with my husband and ex-wife. He was overpaying and they drastically cut it. She was the one who filed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who initiated the move to DC..who followed?

The military for me. He came to be close to his child. But, prior to moving he was going to move to another state anyway. He just didn't know which one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Costs are higher for him too. He has your daughter 3 days and week and is still paying $500. He paid you more when he could (working 2nd job) but that prevented him from seeing his child.

He seems like a good guy. He is sharing almost 50% custody and paying you $6000/yr. He also has to pay increased cost of living so it isn't like he is rolling in cash.

Is he paying any other incidentals? activities? clothes? Any support above and beyond child support.

Trying to get every penny you can out of him could really mess with the good thing you have going and with his relationship with his daughter.

He doesn't pay for anything else. He gives that amount of money to me and I pay tuition, before & after care, activites, clothes, uniforms, trips, etc. I also provide clothes for our child to have at his house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were you, I would file new paperwork with the Child Support Office where you live with the new info about income, etc and go from there. It may take a while but this way, you won't be arguing about it. You don't need a lawyer to do this. Just call them and tell them your situation has changed and you want your case reviewed.

She should talk to an attorney to find out if it is worth filing as if she is wrong and files then she could get less than what she is currently getting. This happened with my husband and ex-wife. He was overpaying and they drastically cut it. She was the one who filed.

Don't most states have online calculators that she can use to determine the amount she will get?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Costs are higher for him too. He has your daughter 3 days and week and is still paying $500. He paid you more when he could (working 2nd job) but that prevented him from seeing his child.

He seems like a good guy. He is sharing almost 50% custody and paying you $6000/yr. He also has to pay increased cost of living so it isn't like he is rolling in cash.

Is he paying any other incidentals? activities? clothes? Any support above and beyond child support.

Trying to get every penny you can out of him could really mess with the good thing you have going and with his relationship with his daughter.

He doesn't pay for anything else. He gives that amount of money to me and I pay tuition, before & after care, activites, clothes, uniforms, trips, etc. I also provide clothes for our child to have at his house.

He's not required to if he is paying child support. That is all taken into account into the amount.

[Anonymous]

It hasn't been taken into account. We never went to court for the amount that is in the divorce decree. We decided that on our own and the expenses for our child were less and so was our income.

[Anonymous]

Seems there's two of these threads--
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/272355.page

[Anonymous]

If you go to court and the support is raised and the increased support means he has to take a second job to afford the support and life and therefore he can no longer see his daughter very often, will you be happy with this outcome?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It hasn't been taken into account. We never went to court for the amount that is in the divorce decree. We decided that on our own and the expenses for our child were less and so was our income.

If there's an amount stated in the divorce decree, that's the official amount for legal purposes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you go to court and the support is raised and the increased support means he has to take a second job to afford the support and life and therefore he can no longer see his daughter very often, will you be happy with this outcome?

Of course not....The reality is he could take 2 or 3 other jobs but if you're not responsible with your finances it really doesn't matter how much you make.

I'm going back and forth with leaving it alone and pursing it because our child's expenses are going to increase. It's $50 - $60 a day for someone to take care of her when school is closed and we can't take off. Not to mention summer camp is expensive. Hopefully, we can just look at the calculator online together and go from there. But, he thinks he's doing me a favor by giving me the amount that he gives to me. So not sure how well it's going to go with him.

[Anonymous]

You've asked this question a few times but the answer isn't changing.

http://csgc.oag.dc.gov/application/main/intro.aspx

The website calculation is very, very clear....

Child care costs paid are input at Step 4: Calculating Additional Costs. School tuition is not counted as child care.

Your expectations are not realistic. Child support takes (1) both mom & dad's income; (2) custody share; (3) adjustments for child care costs paid & health insurance premiums-- and then spits out a number.

If your income plus child support does not cover all your expenses, you need to cut back your expenses to live within your means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you go to court and the support is raised and the increased support means he has to take a second job to afford the support and life and therefore he can no longer see his daughter very often, will you be happy with this outcome?

Of course not....The reality is he could take 2 or 3 other jobs but if you're not responsible with your finances it really doesn't matter how much you make.

I'm going back and forth with leaving it alone and pursing it because our child's expenses are going to increase. It's $50 - $60 a day for someone to take care of her when school is closed and we can't take off. Not to mention summer camp is expensive. Hopefully, we can just look at the calculator online together and go from there. But, he thinks he's doing me a favor by giving me the amount that he gives to me. So not sure how well it's going to go with him.

You said that he routinely pays his required support and that when he had two jobs he voluntarily chose to give you an additional $300 a month. That really doesn't sounds like someone who is not responsible with their finances. Yes, it would be great if he voluntarily contributed more. I don't know if he can afford to or not. Both of you have to maintain households as your daughter splits her time. your differences in income (including child support added/subtracted) are only apart by a couple thousand dollars a year. Sed him a link to the calculator. It seems your daughter is the one who will lose out in this fight.

[Anonymous]

Take her out of private. That will save you a bundle.

[Anonymous]

Every dad paying child support knows the calculation. It's just math. Math is not subjective. He says he's doing you a favor-- because he is doing you a favor by paying you $500/ month. If you take him to court over this, your court ordered CS will go down by a good bit.

[Anonymous]

Is private school necessary? That's a huge expense on a not-so-huge salary. IDK, seems like he's trying to be fair and do the right thing. He raised it voluntarily. Now he's with her more, and paying less. Certainly seems fair to me.