I Hate Houseguests

[Anonymous]

I also hate having house guests. I don't like to feel like my personal space is invaded and scrutinized.

That said, I also hate being a house guest. I much prefer staying in a hotel, partly because I need to be able to retreat for alone time.

I also don't like hosting events for this reason; I reach a point at which I'm done with social interaction and need to flee, but you can't do that if you're hosting the event. So that just leaves hiding in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Long "runs", grocery store trips, naps, early bedtimes - these are my survival strategies. I am also a resentful sulking bitch on day 4 of visitors, at least on the inside. My linen closet does not look like a department store display and ever since my inlaws showed off their perfectly folded linen closet to me (FIL: "that's just the way MIL does things I guess, heh heh heh") I feel scrutinized and judged when they visit.

Newsflash to ILs: no one on this earth gives a flying what your linen closet looks like.

[Anonymous]

We love having houseguests, for the most part. After about 4 days, though, both moms start to get on my nerves.

We hate being houseguests, though, and almost always stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband's GROWN UP children have such an arrogant sense of entitlement when they come to visit. They email him their schedules and they always expect we go to the airport to pick them up. Last weekend one of his sons arrived at the airport at 11:50 PM. I said to my husband: tell them to RENT A CAR and find his way to the hotel!!! Well, the guy had his feelings hurt, felt highly offended, and ended up annoying of of his other relatives(a soft one) to go and pick his a.,s.,s., up, and lend him a car. I thought to myself: Yaaaaahoooooo!!!!!! THANK GOD!!!

Sorry, but you sound like total witch.

[Anonymous]

I don't mind having houseguest and often have them. My parents live in Europe and my ILs live on the West Coast. So we do have them and for extended periods of time. My ILs usually come during the holidays; a couple of years ago we had a storm and they were here for an extra 5 days, I was SO ready to get rid of them I just couldn't wait.

Oh and they have no respect for our time, they arrive at the airport at 11:30 - midnight and expect my DH to pick them up. The last time they were here they had a 630 am departure, UGH! I told my DH to pay their taxi fare, it's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband's GROWN UP children have such an arrogant sense of entitlement when they come to visit. They email him their schedules and they always expect we go to the airport to pick them up. Last weekend one of his sons arrived at the airport at 11:50 PM. I said to my husband: tell them to RENT A CAR and find his way to the hotel!!! Well, the guy had his feelings hurt, felt highly offended, and ended up annoying of of his other relatives(a soft one) to go and pick his a.,s.,s., up, and lend him a car. I thought to myself: Yaaaaahoooooo!!!!!! THANK GOD!!!

Sorry, but you sound like total witch.

This sounds like my SMIL, except she just rejected my husband and his bros when they were young kids and no way in hell woud we expect her to make any effort to pick us up. It's these SAME people who when they want to manipulate will tell you...you didn't just marry him, you married his family.

I really think if you hate his kids so much and you already married him, then let him hang out with them and stay out of it. It's better than them having to spend time with someone who clearly hate thems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL wtf are u finding all these Metrocards!?? LOL. Yes I saw where u said u find them but how come u find them and we don't!?? "LMAO! Omg this is so funny I can't contain my laughter that one person happens to stumble upon these cards everywhere they go. )
On another note I HATE houseguests and I don't really care who they are. Why ask to stay with people- isn't that why hotels were created? Guests mess up the normal flow of the house and puts other people out of their comfort zone. If u can't pay for a hotel then u should stay home. And don't ask people if u can stay IT's RUDE- let them offer. My house is NOT the Hilton and I don't wanna give up my room for someone elses germs...my kid doesn't either. Stay home or make reservations.. I enjoy my world without house guests in it. Go away!!!

LOL! It's funny how I just happen to find them. I'm not looking for them but I bet if you did you may find one.

[Anonymous]

I cannot stand houseguests either, OP, and luckily we live in such a small home that it's almost always more comfortable to have guests stay at a roomier hotel nearby. I almost never want to move up to a larger home b/c then that'll mean we have to start having people actually stay at our house when they visit! Quel horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long "runs", grocery store trips, naps, early bedtimes - these are my survival strategies. I am also a resentful sulking bitch on day 4 of visitors, at least on the inside. My linen closet does not look like a department store display and ever since my inlaws showed off their perfectly folded linen closet to me (FIL: "that's just the way MIL does things I guess, heh heh heh") I feel scrutinized and judged when they visit.

Newsflash to ILs: no one on this earth gives a flying what your linen closet looks like.

OMG i could have written this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My inlaws think I take almost daily naps and go to bed at 9:15. I am okay with this.

Great laugh! My kids think the same sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My inlaws think I take almost daily naps and go to bed at 9:15. I am okay with this.

Great laugh! My kids think the same sometimes.

LOL. Mine too. They also think I am a huuuuuuge walker. I love me my daily looooong walks.

[Anonymous]

Long "runs", grocery store trips

I just thought my DH on vacation was a verrry slowww shopper.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I also agree--where were all of you when I posted similar sentiments and got completely flamed? I hate having houseguests (more so DH family--in-laws of any kind) and do like when my family comes but in small doses. I feel like home is my sanctuary, need alot of down time to recharge batteries (introvert here) and honestly cannot stand when my FIL starts to rifle through my stuff, open every drawer, test every door knob, check all the blinds, look under every table place mat and check out their construction, I could go on and on...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the guests. Guest who feed themselves, clean up after themselves, and entertain themselves are welcome to stay as long as they want. Anyone who expects me to cook, clean, and entertain them is welcome for one night only.

Ugh, some guests are too inconsiderate to even think about their host. I really need some that buy their own food and drive themselves places.
I cannot stand planning huge meals and grocery shopping 3 times a week, feeding adults 5 times a day (oh yes, they'll eat every snack they see!), or being told to drive them places. I see right through that, and you're welcome for the free lodging, free food, free reign on the TV, and free day trips/gas/car.

[Anonymous]

How do you encourage and get your relatives to stay in a hotel? We have a beach house. I love to see them, love to visit with them, love to do things with them, but its all soured by excess groceries, either them cooking or me cooking causing the kitchen to be totally trashed, the 16 loads of laundry when they leave, the bathroom filth when they leave, everyone is in such a hurry to catch a plane or get on the road, they just zoom out and say thanks, I'm left with days of cleaning. It would be a lot more fun if they showered and cooked elsewhere. South Carolina beach mama