s/o Brazilian au-pair and the whole hot nanny subject

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous... When did marriage become such a joke that women should have to worry about how attractive the people watching our children are?

Who cares about the cosmic state of marriage, blah blah... Bottom line is, those things happen, and if you don't want it to happen to you, then why put yourself in a situation which makes that possible.

Kind of a crazeballs comment since presumably it's possible any time your spouse is out of the house, or out of your sight for that matter. Don't let the terrorists win! And you know, don't marry a douchebag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous... When did marriage become such a joke that women should have to worry about how attractive the people watching our children are?

Who cares about the cosmic state of marriage, blah blah... Bottom line is, those things happen, and if you don't want it to happen to you, then why put yourself in a situation which makes that possible.

Kind of a crazeballs comment since presumably it's possible any time your spouse is out of the house, or out of your sight for that matter. Don't let the terrorists win! And you know, don't marry a douchebag.

Right? I mean, seriously!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous... When did marriage become such a joke that women should have to worry about how attractive the people watching our children are?

Who cares about the cosmic state of marriage, blah blah... Bottom line is, those things happen, and if you don't want it to happen to you, then why put yourself in a situation which makes that possible.

Kind of a crazeballs comment since presumably it's possible any time your spouse is out of the house, or out of your sight for that matter. Don't let the terrorists win! And you know, don't marry a douchebag.

I didn't marry a douchebag. My husband is basically a "nerd's nerd" - the last person anyone (including me!) would suspect of pursuing an affair. However, I have enough life experience to know that stranger things have happened.

The argument that "well it could happen with the nanny it could happen there etc " does not negate the fact that au pairs etc. are additional risk under woman' control. It's a dominant strategy.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, okay - yes, a nanny is an additional 'risk'. But so is letting your husband go out without you for a boys' night out, or a go to a bachelor party in Vegas, or join a co-ed volleyball team, or a million things. My husband has been an actor - isn't that a risk? Being in long rehearsals with women while I'm not around? Should I forbid him from doing that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous... When did marriage become such a joke that women should have to worry about how attractive the people watching our children are?

Who cares about the cosmic state of marriage, blah blah... Bottom line is, those things happen, and if you don't want it to happen to you, then why put yourself in a situation which makes that possible.

Kind of a crazeballs comment since presumably it's possible any time your spouse is out of the house, or out of your sight for that matter. Don't let the terrorists win! And you know, don't marry a douchebag.

I didn't marry a douchebag. My husband is basically a "nerd's nerd" - the last person anyone (including me!) would suspect of pursuing an affair. However, I have enough life experience to know that stranger things have happened.

The argument that "well it could happen with the nanny it could happen there etc " does not negate the fact that au pairs etc. are additional risk under woman' control. It's a dominant strategy.

That's exactly the point. You get to choose who you bring into your home. You don't choose who he works with or what restaurants he eats during lunch, but you do have full control in avoiding the situation that can happen under your own roof. Also, this may not be the girl's fault like one of the PPs pointed out, sometimes DH may harass the babysitter against her will, his advances will be unwelcome and the girl may leave, making you search again and you will be clueless as to why this is happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh, okay - yes, a nanny is an additional 'risk'. But so is letting your husband go out without you for a boys' night out, or a go to a bachelor party in Vegas, or join a co-ed volleyball team, or a million things. My husband has been an actor - isn't that a risk? Being in long rehearsals with women while I'm not around? Should I forbid him from doing that?

Going out with boys or going to Vegas may introduce a danger of cheating, but this will be a one-night stand most likely, and probably something you won't even be aware of, not a relationship that can blossom under your own roof breaking your marriage apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh, okay - yes, a nanny is an additional 'risk'. But so is letting your husband go out without you for a boys' night out, or a go to a bachelor party in Vegas, or join a co-ed volleyball team, or a million things. My husband has been an actor - isn't that a risk? Being in long rehearsals with women while I'm not around? Should I forbid him from doing that?

Just because there are other additional risks, does not mean you should add yet another risk. Is that so hard to understand? Just because you can be hit by lightning doesn't mean you shouldn't wear a seat belt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that you people think the hot nanny wants to sleep with your husbands!

I know right?

Haha, it's pretty hilarous. There are VERY VERY few young women hot or not who want to sleep with an old married man.

If my DH can snag one, good for him, but I'm not holding my breath.

[Anonymous]

Its *my* money and house so the AP would get nothing. zero. zilch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Its *my* money and house so the AP would get nothing. zero. zilch.

hahaha! I thought this too! What are they going to do? Go be poor together? Good luck with that buddy!


But ... I also wouldn't bring some hot young thing that everyone wants to bang into my house. My DH is awesome but at the end of the day, he is still a man.

[Anonymous]

PP here. So funny, do these foreign APs or whatever realize when it is the woman's money and not the mans? Because even if the AP straight out asked him (which should be a slap of reality in itself) he would say it is his money - of course he would!

The best part would be leaving them to each other with absolutely nothing. Then, she would indeed get what she asked for, as would he; and I wouldn't want him at that point. Good luck to them, I say.

It seems some APs think it is a game of some sort. To come "to America" and "score an American". The jokes on them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh puhlease..I'm a nanny. I'm not saying I'm hot per say, but I'm certainly not ugly. I'm 5'2 skinny and fit, long dirty blonde hair and attractive. I've had DB's hit on me, but nobody's been totally disrespectful. I certainly wouldn't want to hire a foreign nanny due to issues with green cards, but educated American women..sure why not? I'm happily married and respectful. That's key. I wouldn't want to hire a young bimbo to take care of my kids anyway, let alone tempt my husband. An attractive married lady? Why not?

Btw--I've never had a hard time getting a nanny job due to being attractive. Most seem to dig it. Generally I deal mostly with MB anyway except for my current position where I deal with attractive DB for the most part..but I'm secure in my marriage as I'm sure he is too.

Well the fact that it was never "totally disrespectful" must be very reassuring for those women...You are not really helping the case, as it turns out, everything hinges on your marriage.

[Anonymous]

I'm the nanny you're quoting..what I'm saying is hire someone respectful, married and secure..not some foreign bimbo or the like. If you wouldn't trust them with your husbands you shouldn't with your kids either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. Someone got mad on here a few months back when I said I wasn't having some perky little airhead in my house. NO THANK YOU. Anyone in my house will be old and ugly as the day is long. But really, I prefer to handle things in my house, myself. I don't have room for anymore ovaries. I am wearing the T*** in this house.

I see you have that covered.

[Anonymous]

I would never never never never never never never never bring a young attractive woman into my home to live with me and my partner. Fuck that.