s/o Brazilian au-pair and the whole hot nanny subject

[Anonymous]

I agree. Someone got mad on here a few months back when I said I wasn't having some perky little airhead in my house. NO THANK YOU. Anyone in my house will be old and ugly as the day is long. But really, I prefer to handle things in my house, myself. I don't have room for anymore ovaries. I am wearing the T*** in this house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously! This is what we should be worrying about - our husbands being stolen away by the nanny? Come on.

To the contrary - you hire help in such form so that you don't need to worry about it.

But I trust my husband and my nanny - so I don't worry about it regardless of how hot she is.

That's kind of arrogant, but to each its own. Btw, my bet is, the dead mom from the original topic didn't worry either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously! This is what we should be worrying about - our husbands being stolen away by the nanny? Come on.

To the contrary - you hire help in such form so that you don't need to worry about it.

But I trust my husband and my nanny - so I don't worry about it regardless of how hot she is.

I have no doubt that the women that get cheated on trust their husbands too, at least at first.

[Anonymous]

Why is it arrogant to trust your own husband or the woman who takes care of your children? It seems awful not to, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised that you people think the hot nanny wants to sleep with your husbands!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. Someone got mad on here a few months back when I said I wasn't having some perky little airhead in my house. NO THANK YOU. Anyone in my house will be old and ugly as the day is long. But really, I prefer to handle things in my house, myself. I don't have room for anymore ovaries. I am wearing the T*** in this house.

Thank you for being honest. This is how I feel! I don't care about being PC, but I am not hiring single young hot women especially from foreign countries!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you women do this to yourselves? Don't you watch enough chick flicks where husbands screw hot young babysitters or maids or tutors or whatever? When you bring help to your house, just avoid young good looking women, especially if you are afraid they will snag your well-off good looking DH. Problem solved.

I must say I agree. I don't understand why any woman, no matter how young, good looking, rich, confident... would bring competition into her own home. My nanny is 50 and I still never let her alone with my husband for more than a few minutes.

You don't trust your husband that much that you are afraid to leave him alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes? Jesus. God forbid he be around women of his own age - or even younger - at work or a social event? What if he travels for work? I travel with my 58 year old male boss all the time. Maybe his wife should forbid that too?

It's not a question of trust at all. I simply don't want to take unnecessary risks. Of course I can't remove all women from his life (though, if that could be realistically done, I would do it) but I am not going to be introducing extra ones.

[Anonymous]

I guess I don't see the risk of having my husband alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that you people think the hot nanny wants to sleep with your husbands!

Who says she wants to sleep with your husband, but I am sure your husband does want to sleep with her, even if he is not telling you. Do you not want to sleep with hot young men instead of your aging balding husband? At least you must admit to yourself to have an occasional desire. this is what it's all about, it's simple really. DESIRE. Your husband will not ever tell you that he might inside his mind desire or fantasize about another woman, and when this woman is in his face every day, it is more likely. Your marriage can take a crack somewhere, not related to the nanny at all, for some other reason, and this can complicate things when other variables are introduced.

Plus, it's all too cliche, foreign beautiful young woman, wanting to settle down in a foreign country. She may not be after your DH, but when she runs out of options, all the bets might be off. Better hurry and find her a boyfriend! LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't see the risk of having my husband alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes.

Well, I am going to bet that about 100% of women whose homes were broken with a generous help from household workers did not see any risk in hiring them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you women do this to yourselves? Don't you watch enough chick flicks where husbands screw hot young babysitters or maids or tutors or whatever? When you bring help to your house, just avoid young good looking women, especially if you are afraid they will snag your well-off good looking DH. Problem solved.

I must say I agree. I don't understand why any woman, no matter how young, good looking, rich, confident... would bring competition into her own home. My nanny is 50 and I still never let her alone with my husband for more than a few minutes.

You don't trust your husband that much that you are afraid to leave him alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes? Jesus. God forbid he be around women of his own age - or even younger - at work or a social event? What if he travels for work? I travel with my 58 year old male boss all the time. Maybe his wife should forbid that too?

It's not a question of trust at all. I simply don't want to take unnecessary risks. Of course I can't remove all women from his life (though, if that could be realistically done, I would do it) but I am not going to be introducing extra ones.

Exactly, that's the point. Why bring potential trouble to your home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that you people think the hot nanny wants to sleep with your husbands!

Who says she wants to sleep with your husband, but I am sure your husband does want to sleep with her, even if he is not telling you. Do you not want to sleep with hot young men instead of your aging balding husband? At least you must admit to yourself to have an occasional desire. this is what it's all about, it's simple really. DESIRE. Your husband will not ever tell you that he might inside his mind desire or fantasize about another woman, and when this woman is in his face every day, it is more likely. Your marriage can take a crack somewhere, not related to the nanny at all, for some other reason, and this can complicate things when other variables are introduced.

Plus, it's all too cliche, foreign beautiful young woman, wanting to settle down in a foreign country. She may not be after your DH, but when she runs out of options, all the bets might be off. Better hurry and find her a boyfriend! LOL

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't see the risk of having my husband alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes.

Well, I am going to bet that about 100% of women whose homes were broken with a generous help from household workers did not see any risk in hiring them.

Of course they didn't, but perhaps that's because they didn't want to face up to the fact that something was already wrong with their marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't see the risk of having my husband alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes.

Well, I am going to bet that about 100% of women whose homes were broken with a generous help from household workers did not see any risk in hiring them.

Of course they didn't, but perhaps that's because they didn't want to face up to the fact that something was already wrong with their marriages.

Please - do you really believe that? That "cheating is a symptom"? You are exactly the type of arrogant "trusting" woman that just cannot comprehend that her husband would want to sleep with someone else, no matter the circumstance. But life will teach you a lesson, like so many before you (there is like a list of famous actresses who lost her husbands to nannies...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't see the risk of having my husband alone with a 50 year old woman for more than a few minutes.

Well, I am going to bet that about 100% of women whose homes were broken with a generous help from household workers did not see any risk in hiring them.

Of course they didn't, but perhaps that's because they didn't want to face up to the fact that something was already wrong with their marriages.

Please - do you really believe that? That "cheating is a symptom"? You are exactly the type of arrogant "trusting" woman that just cannot comprehend that her husband would want to sleep with someone else, no matter the circumstance. But life will teach you a lesson, like so many before you (there is like a list of famous actresses who lost her husbands to nannies...)

Women routinely lose their husbands to women in service jobs, like nannies, personal trainers, secretaries, and even waitresses. Seriously, this is all so cliche, it's not even funny and ridiculous to think about, but this happens all the time. It's not just in the movies. I've seen some of these situations, a former schoolmate of mine is a homewrecker, a woman I see on the playground with a toddler is a former babysitter for her husband's older kids.