Did I act like a jerk in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

Those seats do cost extra. Not a huge amount but generally around $40-60 more depending on the airline. Sometimes its not possible to get 2 seats together, especially if you are buying at the last minute. If it were for a child to sit with a parent, I would have switched in a moment but an adult can deal.
Its a 2 hour flight. I think the pregnant lady can survive 2 hours without sitting next to DH.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you were a jerk. My DH is 6'4" and he sits in premuim or whatever they are called too, he just can't sit in regular economy otherwise he will not be able to walk when he gets off the plane.


I don't know the pregnant woman's reason for sitting in your aisle, but it was good that she had the extra room and really, she's a big girl and if the flight was just 2 hours she would not have missed her DH that much.

[Anonymous]

Agreed not a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, nothing wrong with the husband asking politely (which it sounds like he did), but also nothing wrong with the OP politely declining.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Her husband was the jerk! I think the lady can manage 2 hours without her husband, OMG.

I heard a similar and more ridiculous incident once. In this case the pregnant woman was in business class and her husband in coach. She asked the passenger next to her to switch seat, not telling him that it's switching to coach. In the end, of course the passenger said no but WTH?

[Anonymous]

OP, how tall are you? You still haven't said whether you needed the leg room or wouldn't have noticed the loss of it.

[Anonymous]

Depends how tall you are. If it was actually about the leg room, you are not being a jerk. If it was about the money, I wouldn't necessarily go so far as to label you a jerk but you could have chosen to be generous.

I agree, though, that the couple could have chosen to pay more for seats together where both had leg room (if that was necessary for the woman) or could have given up the nicer seat for whoever was next to the husband if sitting together was more important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

Those seats do cost extra. Not a huge amount but generally around $40-60 more depending on the airline. Sometimes its not possible to get 2 seats together, especially if you are buying at the last minute. If it were for a child to sit with a parent, I would have switched in a moment but an adult can deal.
Its a 2 hour flight. I think the pregnant lady can survive 2 hours without sitting next to DH.

OP hasn't addressed whether or not she/he paid extra. I'm thinking no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

Those seats do cost extra. Not a huge amount but generally around $40-60 more depending on the airline. Sometimes its not possible to get 2 seats together, especially if you are buying at the last minute. If it were for a child to sit with a parent, I would have switched in a moment but an adult can deal.
Its a 2 hour flight. I think the pregnant lady can survive 2 hours without sitting next to DH.

OP hasn't addressed whether or not she/he paid extra. I'm thinking no.

Why does it matter if OP paid extra or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

Those seats do cost extra. Not a huge amount but generally around $40-60 more depending on the airline. Sometimes its not possible to get 2 seats together, especially if you are buying at the last minute. If it were for a child to sit with a parent, I would have switched in a moment but an adult can deal.
Its a 2 hour flight. I think the pregnant lady can survive 2 hours without sitting next to DH.

OP hasn't addressed whether or not she/he paid extra. I'm thinking no.

If its the same poster asking "did you pay?? did you pay??" OMG... let it go.
It was the OP's assigned seat. It was her's to give (or not) and maybe she actually has better things to do this morning that respond immediately to your question. No need to post it every 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends how tall you are. If it was actually about the leg room, you are not being a jerk. If it was about the money, I wouldn't necessarily go so far as to label you a jerk but you could have chosen to be generous.

I agree, though, that the couple could have chosen to pay more for seats together where both had leg room (if that was necessary for the woman) or could have given up the nicer seat for whoever was next to the husband if sitting together was more important.

Maybe the couple wanted two bulkhead seats but OP had already bought it - whether for more money we don't know.

[Anonymous]

It matters if OP paid extra because then the hubby is trying to get a premium seat for free. If I lucked out into the seat, yeah, I'd have switched. If I had paid extra, I'd have asked for $40 or $60 or whatever. The hubby may not have even known OP paid extra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

Those seats do cost extra. Not a huge amount but generally around $40-60 more depending on the airline. Sometimes its not possible to get 2 seats together, especially if you are buying at the last minute. If it were for a child to sit with a parent, I would have switched in a moment but an adult can deal.
Its a 2 hour flight. I think the pregnant lady can survive 2 hours without sitting next to DH.

OP hasn't addressed whether or not she/he paid extra. I'm thinking no.

If its the same poster asking "did you pay?? did you pay??" OMG... let it go.
It was the OP's assigned seat. It was her's to give (or not) and maybe she actually has better things to do this morning that respond immediately to your question. No need to post it every 5 minutes.

I posted it once, not sure who else did. But, calm down.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't think you did anything wrong. I have paid for extra legroom and when I've lucked into it, I've been very happy. I'm 5'8" with longer-than-average legs, and I really hate it when someone reclines in front of me and takes all of my legroom. I don't think the husband was in the wrong to ask, either. You never know - he might have been perfectly happy to sit by himself and read, and was only asking to please his wife, maybe?

I'm sorry, but I don't see why adults have to sit together. It's 2 hours of their life - big freakin' deal if they are separated. (and I always book early to make sure my 3-year-old daughter and I are able to sit together. that's just common sense.) Now if it was a minor child separated from parents - I would probably agree to the switch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It matters if OP paid extra because then the hubby is trying to get a premium seat for free. If I lucked out into the seat, yeah, I'd have switched. If I had paid extra, I'd have asked for $40 or $60 or whatever. The hubby may not have even known OP paid extra.

You know what, the lady can go through labor and push out a baby, she can manage to sit by herself for 2 freaking hours.

They're just cheap because they could have pay extra to pick seats before the flight.